I was motivated to write this post after seeing many cold approach posts this last week.

Many men are brought to the red pill due to the fact that they cant get laid. They believe the big lie. Some Parts of The Big Lie (I am not going to list every part as this has been talked about repeatedly on this sub and this is not what this post is about):

  • Work hard in your corporate career/college education/business. Women will flock to you
    • While this can help, just doing this will yield 0 results, specifically if you work in a male dominated industry (Finance, Tech)
  • Just live your life, dont worry about women. They will come to you
    • Unless you are chad incarnate, this will never work
  • Your appearance doesnt matter. Women dont care about looks
    • While it matters less, it still matters a fair amount and you should do everything possible to maximize looks
  • Women want a responsible, wealthy man
    • That is the cherry on top. In reality, they want someone who gives them an emotionally response. They only want a responsible man when they reach the "settle down" phase. Even then, they dont actually want that, but they can no longer attract high valued men, so they propagate the lie

You likely believed this. You likely arent 6'3, ripped, worth millions, have a huge social media following, have a genius level iq and an immaculate social circle. You probably have some things going for you. But not everything. Thats why youre here.

To start, you need to have a goal directed attitude. If you havent had success with women, your goal needs to be to start interacting with them more. They will not arbitrarily come to you if they havent by now (disclaimer: they can in certain social situations like being in a frat, working at a bar etc... but if you were getting laid already, you likely wouldnt be here looking for advice - Thats where the former blue pillers come into play with some wisdom to instill upon you)

Also, shape up your appearance. Im not going to get into it here though (along with many other topics)

This post is entirely about forcing the numbers in your favor and creating goals to attain what you would like to have

Here is a sample starter guide on how a man over 25 (ie post college) can maximize getting laid

  1. Buy a burner phone - You will use this for online dating - They are 30 bucks. This will be used for one month. You are likely not attractive enough to have a high enough elo score that will last you longer than a month on the apps. Hence, every month, you will buy a new phone. You will create a profile on tinder, bumble, hinge, happn, coffee meets bagel, and Pof. If you live in europe or south America, Badoo will be your primary app (along with a handful of others that Im not familiar with). You will budget 50-150 dollars (assuming you make a decent amount of money where you have extra to spend) for premium and boosts. Premium and boosts work well on tinder and bumble. The others are not worth it imo. Hinge and Coffee meets bagel in some areas will work too with premium. Limit time on the apps to 2 hours a week total after account creation (sounds like a lot of time, but having 50 conversations going will eat up a shit ton of time without you realizing it). You will get laid just from this if you have above average pictures. However, most women coming from this will range from land whale to average. You will occasionally hit dimes (the 3 hottest women I ever went on a date with was from apps and Im slightly above avg looking with my pics), but dont expect it to be a regular thing. Think of this as an income stream keeping your business afloat. These are not the contracts that will get you rich and take the company to the next level, but it creates cash flow (ie abundance mentality) so you dont come off as desperate in other situations. In a large city (Ie metro over 1 million) you should be getting at minimum 1 date a week. If not, make that your goal
    1. Starter Goal: 4 dates a month
  2. Go out to Bars/Clubs twice a week, every week - This is not difficult if youre a single guy. You dont have to stay for hours. But make it a habit to aim for twice a week. Once during the week (ie Thursday/Wednesday) and once on the weekend (fri-sunday)
    1. Starter Goal: 20 approaches a month (Comes out to roughly 2 or 3 women every time you go out... that is nothing if you get into a flow... but lets crawl before we walk)
  3. Gym Socialization - A huge amount of us go to the gym. Your goal is to talk to anyone, literally anyone, 3 times a week at the gym. It can be asking for a spot, asking them to film you, asking them to watch your stuff while you piss. This is not to get laid. This is to help beat approach anxiety. Even if its a guy, compliment him on something and as for his name
    1. Starter Goal: 12 openings a month
  4. Talk to two women in a day to day activity every week - This can be the gym (though you cant overlap the above with this), shopping, walk in the park, anything during the day. Your goal is an exchange of words that lasts more than 5 sentences. Being that we are just starting out, you dont need to ask for numbers or even have the expectation of getting laid
    1. Starter Goal: 8 conversations with random women in a day time activity a month

From the above alone, you will have talked to 30 women that you wouldve never talked to previously within a single month. It will feel like you did almost nothing new. But its 30 new women (and some potential guy friends from the gym socialization... for those of you who are going to bitch that you have no one to go out with at night)

This is 360 women a year. And this is just the starter pack. If you get comfortable with this, up the ante. Double this number. Triple this number. Make it 10 approaches a night at bars rather than just 2. Or a new woman during the day every single day. And this doesnt even include the potential massive success you will have online if youre above average looking

The Moral of this story. Small, repetitive, incremental gains will add up immensely over time

You dont have to follow this to a tee. However, you should create small set of tasks with benchmarks like this. And incrementally increase the benchmark every month.

If youre a coffee guy, make it one conversation a week with anyone for the first month. Then the second month, make it twice a week. The third month, 3 times a week, but it also has to be with women now too.

Go out there and get laid men