Unveil your inner alpha

TL/DR: some steps on the way to unveiling your inner alpha and why.

Introduction:

I've read excerpts from others that claim that the alpha cannot be universally taught or explained. These same individuals then start throwing out what they consider traits of an alpha male. "Yeah, you know... he sleeps with a lot of women, and he is the guy everyone likes, stuff like that."

Yes, I get it. He is the main attraction. Yes, I get it, we are not all alpha in every situation. He is the guy in charge of the social group at that instantaneous point in time.

The thing is, we are trying to be this at all times. We are trying to remain this way not only with females, but in social groups with other males, in the workforce, and in schools. That is the point of this, is it not? Not to just be the alpha sometimes.

And after some time, these guys get done naming these traits of the alpha male. And I read it, and I get it. But, the problem is, these are by products of the alpha male. In other words, you can't put your pants on, and then your briefs and still think people aren't going to look at you funny. The draws come first.

And these are three points that can hopefully help you wrap your mind around how to get there.

Body:

Point 1:

I used to care so much about things, and when that stopped, ironically, I got everything. When I changed the way I thought about things, and the priorities I gave things in my life, everything changed.

The key is to not give a fuck and you do this by giving up hope of ever having the things you wanted, and when you do, you shall get these things. Hope is for fairy tales. You do not hope, you execute or drop out, it's simple. But firstly, you must not give a fuck about anything, even if it's just for a few moments after you read this.

Some people may take the meaning I am trying to push across differently. I do NOT mean to quit your job and become a homeless person, start eating chips and sit around, or to go out robbing banks. I do mean that the level of not give a fuck DOES need to be extreme, but in the correct sense of the phrase.

Because, it's like a force exists. As we try harder to get something from someone, they notice and want to give it to you less. How many times have you noticed this? It could be something simple such as convincing friends to go out, or trying to keep a girl under control. The harder you push the more rebellious the person becomes. The harder you push, the more your friends do not want to go. The more excuses you make, the more the others want to punish you. (Special note; never apologize, it makes you look weak. If you are to show you are apologetic after thinking it over deeply, do it in a sincere way, do not say, "I'm sorry.")

This should be helpful.

And as we can see, we don't try, we do. That is all that is necessary. We don't need to care about the end result, because this outcome independence that develops, causes us not to "worry." All your anxieties gone. There are no worries.

If we are not to care, and if we are not to try, then we must just do. And if we don't care, then what fuels us? What is our drive? Well, this is where logical thinking comes into play. If you want something, understand your reason. I do not mean to dwell on this daily and flood your mind, I mean that you must understand why it is you're doing what you're doing, if you don't, you won't understand what fuels you. Sitting down for a moment and quieting your mind with some breathing exercises can help you obtain this vision, this idea. And when you understand it, you can execute the how.

The only thing that is left is discipline. I have found the best way to discipline myself; that is through purity. I have been in the military many years, and learned discipline at an early age. Even before I found TRP, I had an idea what I was doing, and why, I just didn't know what to call it, I just did it.

And how you learn discipline is to strip yourself of what you have, what you enjoy. And you remain in this state, with nothing (monk mode.). And when you do get the little things you enjoy, you will notice the difference between allowing yourself to have it, and desire/dopamine forcing you to take it. Discipline is all about control over ones self. Unless you've felt it, and felt the urge to retreat, yet stuck through, you will never have a meter to gauge yourself, to gauge your tendencies. And this is about the only thing you should give a fuck about. Fuck people, and tangible objects, they come and go and hold minimal value, this is one of the only things you can truly keep by your side forever; discipline.

Point 2:

Life is a marathon not a sprint.

We want results and we want them Now. The only thing; this isn't how it works. Patience is key. You will be thrown from the bandwagon 100 times if you rush and do not set proper, attainable goals for yourself.

So get real organized and set goals, put the goals locked away and look at them monthly to make sure you are reaching the goals. Organizing your thoughts and plan are what will help you achieve your goals. If there is fog, meditate for an hour, that will clear it up. If it doesn't, go squat.

Point 3:

You're not that important. For one second, close your eyes, and follow what I am saying in this next sentence. Picture what is right in front of you, maybe it's a wall, a desk, so on and so forth. This is what you'll see when you open your eyes. Now open them. Go ahead do this.

Now, close your eyes again, but this time I want you to picture the world. Picture it as if you're floating in space close to the moon. Imagine in your mind all of the things going on on this planet, all the small processes and all the people running around. The water flowing, the people dying, and the people being born.

If you look at your problems, they are yours and they seem large at certain points, however, you're not that important to the whole of things. You look at life zoomed in all of the time. We developed special vision and reflex to handle situations. Our super focused vision allows for us to see small intricate objects and organisms on the ground while we walk, this is a huge evolutionary benefit. That's why our eyes are in front of our heads and not on the sides of our heads like an elephant, whose main focus (their vision is not great at all, especially not at long distance, it is however, very peripheral.) is to see over 180 degrees on open plains for approaching predators. To the world you're micro, but in your world, you are macro. So things that seem like the end of your world sometimes can only be seen this way by you. In other words, your thinking needs to step back at moments like these and realize that it really doesn't matter. You're not that important, there are plenty of humans on the earth that could take over your position in life at a moments notice.

You see that, that spinning rock gives two shits about you. Most of the people on it truly don't care about you, you're not that important.

Now take one more snap shot in your mind, one outside our galaxy. You see all those planets, they don't care about you. This is black nothingness for as far as we know. Whether there is something, is besides the point.

The point is, you're not that important and neither are your problems. Make the best of what you have and stop acting like its the end of the world when something goes "terribly wrong."

In conclusion:

If you start living your life by these simple means, you will see how much easier things become.

I can sit here and tell you to lift 100 times a day along with everyone else. I can tell you to GFTOW to get over your onesitis. I can show you game. I can show you how to lift. I can explain the difference between alpha fucks and beta bux...

Or; I can just show you what I have. That in your most likely insignificant life, you have some choices. You can choose to get high strung, overly committed, and anxious. You can choose to get married, settle down with a white picket fence, have some kids, and potentially get cheated on. You can choose to sleep with 5's for the rest of your life.

Or; you can choose to decide what you want from life. Stop getting so attached to things that orbit your world, and instead become attached to your key motivators; your discipline, mindset, and desires. To make yourself the point of origin. To become completely selfish and self centered. Understand these motivators inside and out, and execute plans based upon logic, not emotion or anxiety. For example, understand why you don't feel like going to the gym, or why you aren't a confident individual, if you search long enough, you will find the answers. Understand that there will always be questions that you have, and as long as you are listening to yourself loud and clear, and executing instead of trying, you will always walk away a winner.

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