We live in a world where simps allow their girlfriends to spread their cheeks on Onlyfans while they cry silently. People pleasing robs men of their personal power. It kills them from the inside out like a vicious cancer. Here is what to do about it.

He F**cked Up

I once heard a story of a lighthouse keeper who had a limited amount of oil to keep his beacon lit.

For many years, his lighthouse helped passing ships avoid rocky shores.

One day his neighbour asked for some oil. Not wanting to look like a bad neighbour, the lighthouse keeper obliged.

The next day, a passing traveller knocked on the door and offered the lighthouse keeper some bread in exchange for some oil. The lighthouse keeper had plenty of bread already but did not want to deny the poor man, so he gave him some of his oil.

The next week a beggar knocked on his door and begged for some oil – The beggar wished to sell it so he could buy some food. Feeling bad for the beggar, the lighthouse keeper gave him some oil. He was always taught to be a good Samaritan, so this act of kindness pleased him.

The next day a ship crashed into the rocky shores killing hundreds of people. The lighthouse keeper had run out of oil and could not keep the beacon lit.

Paying too much attention to other people’s needs whilst omitting his own led to the preventable disaster.

Whatever good he did prior was undone by his neglect towards his personal mission.

Mother Theresa and Jeff Bezos

From early childhood most of us are told to put other people’s needs first.

We are told taking care of our needs is selfish and wrong.

Society propagates this mentality.

People who accumulate success for themselves are depicted as being evil and selfish (Mr. Burns from The Simpsons being the archetype of a rich man).

From a spiritual perspective those who keep giving and ask for nothing are seen as pure, whilst those who wish for reasonable compensation are seen as the scum of the earth.

I’m sure we have all heard the bible verse,

“It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for someone who is rich to enter the kingdom of God."

Mother Theresa was made a saint for her philanthropy whilst the likes of Jeff Bezos are branded as corporate monsters.

Mother Theresa is celebrated because she did not get to fly in private jets and eat caviar from a gold plate. She was on the streets helping people with little time for herself – These acts of service making her a paragon of virtue.

If we were to look at the net good created in the world, one could argue Bezos has done more in terms of charity ($10 billion goes a long way even if you are not feeding the poor with your hands).

Weird Programming

When you were young, your parent subconsciously programmed into you the notion other people’s needs were more important than yours.

If you dropped a plate, they would yell,

“How can you be so clumsy, what’s wrong with you?”

If a visitor to your household did the same thing, they would say,

“Don’t worry about that, let me clean it up.”

People see the world as a zero-sum game - If you are winning it must mean someone else is losing.

The world is not a zero-sum game as I have shown with the Jeff Bezos example.

You don’t have to please everybody else while secretly suffering inside.

You don’t have to give up your oil like the lighthouse keeper when you desperately need it.

Real Life Applications

Jobs

Stop working in a shitty job just because you feel like you have to do it.

You don’t have to do shit.

You are not trapped despite what you might think.

Find something that fulfills you which also creates a tangible benefit for people.

Making money from this will become easy because you will find creative ways to produce more value.

I did this myself. I once studied a mechanical engineering degree and dropped out.

I now write posts like this which inspire people to see the world differently.

Life is good.

If everyone was committed doing the work they love, our world would be a much better place.

Fitness

Prioritize your health.

It doesn’t matter if you are a new dad or mum.

It doesn’t matter if you are working a job that requires a lot from you.

You need to put your health first.

You have only one body and failing to take care of it because you were concerned with other people’s issues will be to your detriment.

Don’t wait to develop an illness before you start taking your health seriously.

Relationships

Have clear boundaries in your relationships.

Don’t suffer quietly whilst your partner does something you do not like.

If something bothers you, speak out.

We live in an age were many simps allow their girlfriends to show everythin on Onlyfans.

They say nothing and allow the resentment to build up and destroy them from the inside.

This is foolish and destructive.

Closing words

Our world will be better once you start respecting yourself. Once you build your self-esteem and reclaim your personal power, you will be able to create more win-win situations. You don’t always have to lose, there is a way for everyone to get what they need.

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