Women cheating vs Men cheating

ScholarInRed · 2015-10-15T12:16:44+00:00

I see your point and it is valid unto itself.

What you have completely sidestepped is the issue of trust and integrity. If you say you're monogamous and then cheat, that's a breach of trust. No matter the details, broken trust is universally painful and has a negative impact on interpersonal relationships.

So what you're saying doesn't change much. Either you're a man who is honest with his women or you aren't. If you're the latter kind, this will just make it easier for you. If you're the former, it doesn't matter because it's not the reason you don't cheat.

cesarfd · 2015-10-15T15:42:13+00:00

Women are serial monogamists. That means as long as the guy motivates her enough, the woman won't feel any special need to fuck any other Chad. Remember that for women, the amount of lays or the notch count are not important as they have it guaranteed already, plus it's not a direct part of their sexual strategy.
Men are polygamous. No matter how good things are with his current LTR, he always needs to fuck other women and he would do it without any problems. For a man to fuck is an end in itself and the feelings he has for his partner will be the same before and after fucking a FB on the side. I repeat: a man needs a good amount of sex and sexual variety. Always.

On this basis we see how events unfold in a standard LTR.

The basic idea is that for women what really matters is not that the "relationship" remains monogamous, but that he does. Why? Control.

For a woman is going to be much easier to stay monogamous than for a man. Actually she does not make any effort, he is the only one making a real effort not fuck other people. It is he who suffers for the lack of variety.

And most important: she becomes the only way for him to get sex. Inevitably, she'll use this to her advantage. How? Rationing sex to make it a currency. If she is the only one who can fuck him, she inevitably will put him in a state of continuous scarcity. He'll never get not even half of the sex he would want, so that every decent lay is almost like a "reward" instead of what it should be: normal.

Man loses quantity and variety, just what he needs the most.

She also fucks him and only him? Yes, but remember that for a woman is much easier as quantity and variety are not a big deal for them, they don't care nowhere as much.

It is "assumed" that she can't cheat too but beware: they are serial monogamists. That means as soon as her boyfriend does not motivate her enough, she'll automatically search for the next, she will start fucking him and do the usual branch swinging when ready. All of this with no remorse.

The guy has not fucked anyone but her, he increasingly had less sex and has remained faithful ... for nothing.

That is the problem with sexual monogamy: it only benefits women. And of course this system is the socially accepted way. All promiscuous behavior by him is wrong and he has to "grow up" but if she does the same then she's empowered and "she needed that".

They know very well that if the let the guy fuck other women they'll have much less control and influence over him. She does not want to fuck enough? Okay, he has other choices. She does not do A or B in bed? Okay, Jessy and Marion do. She wants him to do or not to dos this or that? She can not give more or less sex, more or less quality to him as a reward or punishment.

The man would gain a lot of power, control and ability to go drama free.

The problem? You need to be very alpha to be "allowed" to fuck other women on the side.

DomoDoge92 · 2015-10-15T19:47:39+00:00

Good post, a few women I've talked have said that its not as serious when a man cheats, as opposed to a woman cheating. They said when a woman cheats she has emotionally let him go.

RememberingAlpha · 2015-10-15T16:20:11+00:00

Though written somewhat crudely, this is one of the most concise and accurate articles I've read here. Gold star.

We all knew that its more emotionally damaging when a woman cheats, but I think that this is the first time that the proper contextual analogy has been utilized.

Gold star again.

throwaway49274927 · 2015-10-15T14:03:28+00:00

Yep, this happened to me. I got cheated on and it was just about "sex." Of course I was pissed, but I was too much of a bitch back then to cut her out of my life.

When we got back together, I eventually cheated on her. But the thing that was interesting about it wasn't that she was even that mad that I slept with another girl, it was the fact I was giving the girl I slept with emotional attention.

Born2Ball · 2015-10-15T23:52:28+00:00

This is why when a guy hooks up with another woman, his girl will throw a fit calling her a slut, whore, hussy, cheap tramp, etc. (it's amazing how the concept of slut shaming goes out the window when a girl feels threatened). This is wishful thinking on her part because she doesn't want to believe that the affair would take place with a quality woman. She's already gone into a state of denial. She would be far more emotionally devastated to find out the affair took place with a woman of equal or greater value to herself.

Pkbeefatude · 2015-10-15T17:39:55+00:00

Ideally nobody would cheat.

That said women cheating IS worse but that's some heavy red pill talk most people wont engage in.

Women would rather be in an alpha's harem than be stuck with a loyal beta

we all know that is true, pre-selection, "players" being attractive to multiple women...is attractive to women.

Women as we know from branch swinging, alpa widowing, tingles and all the other shit talked about here will only usually sleep with you if she perceives (even in that moment) as the best choice.

Guys more or less will sleep with anything that gets thrown out them.

obviously there are exceptions because people have brains but we are generalizing here.

A girl cheats for whatever reason because for that night, for that make-out on the dance floor for that 5 minutes in the backseat the other guy is BETTER in her mind.

Most times when guys cheat they wouldn't consider the mistress better than his LTR, wife whatever. Its just some slut not worthy of remembering.

That's why its objectively worse.

once again, in a perfect world we would all be loyal.

greenblueyoyo · 2015-10-15T19:55:27+00:00

I've cheated on the majority of my girlfriends, it's an easy/hilarious way to get them to leave and when your sidegirl feels like the forbidden fruit it results in some of the greatest sex I've ever had. 75% of the time if your ex witnesses it they will act mad and leave but will hate-fuck you the next day (it's almost as if they can't control their emotions and act on them regardless).

In nature, alpha males have multiple partners, and multiple children because they don't have to bear a child, but a girl can only have one sexual partner in nature, anything more is a result of the feminism movement and women trying to be 'equal' to men (yet they can't fucking realize our brains work in different ways, that our bodies serve different purposes).

Look at it this way, a woman's body is designed to be fucked, a soft plump ass for railing/grabbing/smacking, tits to play with and give visual stimulation to males, and a vagina to get your dick wet and when you fuck them THEY get pregnant and you pass your alpha genes on and you move on to the next girl. Monogamy and marriage are social contracts DESIGNED to take the innate power of the male and give it to the female. A female who cheats is a skank, a slut, and she isn't worth your time.

StuffaYouFace · 2015-10-15T16:44:35+00:00

Another example that might help to understand is if my wife/ltr cheated on me with another women. I would feel less threatened, less jealous and maybe even able to move past. Another woman is less of a threat and less emasculating than another man.

neptunesunrise · 2015-10-15T18:07:06+00:00

You're wrong. If my boyfriend were to cheat and impregnate someone, I would be required to cut my child's resources in half for some whore's bastard. The quality of my child's life would be ruined. You're having to make sure your bastards aren't starving.

A cheating woman can get an abortion. Short of throwing his side hole down a flight of stairs, a cheated woman wouldn't have the same option.

Sherlock--Holmes · 2015-10-15T14:05:08+00:00

Cheating hurts and damages the other person. Period.

If a guy cheats on his girl with some skank, his assets are not threatened. If he starts an affair with a cute girl, who demands his time and effort, his assets are threatened.

scarletspider3 · 2015-10-16T04:17:40+00:00

Solid analogy. Not entirely accurate because some random slut is a threat to his (and by de facto her) assets if he knocks her up (or she sperm jacks him) through child support.

CisWhiteMaelstrom · 2015-10-15T21:56:30+00:00

Why even try and rationalize it? If you want to cheat then just cheat. No need to do mental gymnastics about it

Screenp2 · 2015-10-15T14:44:00+00:00

the more accurate view.. where you use morals.

No need for those here

fnordsnord · 2015-10-17T16:38:59+00:00

Side note: YEars ago, I was stringing cable in a cubicle environment unbeknownst to the women on the other side of the wall. The women were discussing the affair one other woman's husband had had.

I was fascinated to discover that, while he was considered a douche for cheating, what REALLY pissed them off was that he was indiscreet. There were FAR less concerned that he's been putting his pen in someone else's inkwell than they were that the wife had been humiliated in the process. This was true by a LARGE margin.

Dickwheel · 2015-10-17T04:10:14+00:00

It may be unrelated, but your post gave me an epiphany: I understand the paradox now.

The ultimate fantasy: Men want a loyal girlfriend that gives up her sex (her most valuable asset) to him and him exclusively, always, no matter what. The ultimate fantasy: women want a boyfriend that gives up his time/attention/commitment (his most valuable asset) to her exclsuively, always no matter what.

The thing is that this fantasy is a paradox. A man that gives too much commitment will be a turnoff, just as a woman that gives too much sex will be a turnoff.

MadChestHairYuKnight · 2015-10-15T10:57:46+00:00

Cheating in a relationship is bad regardless if you're a man or a woman.

There are no real explanations.

adam-l · 2015-10-17T19:04:22+00:00

The reason for this comes back to what we’re after in relationships. Guys want monopoly on her pussy and her ovaries. Girls want monopoly on his assets and security.

I mostly agree with your assessment. One issue I'd like to underline, though, is that men don't exactly want "monopoly on her pussy and her ovaries."

Men basically want regular access to pussy, not necessarily exclusive access. Of course, men nowadays (and in the past 10000 years or so) want exclusivity (fidelity), but that's only because women have brought about their stranglehold on sex. The majority of men are required to go through a heap of loops, and to provide, in order to get sex. Since they pay dearly for it, it is only normal that they get mad if they find out she gives it away for free.

In a society where "yes" would be the default answer, instead of "no", men would not give much credit to exlusivity. And (some) anthropologists do insist that for humans, (like for bonobo chimps), "yes" is the default nature's setting.

Adam Leonas

Have a look at my book, The Empress Is Naked, for more on this.

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