Hey you.

I’m directly talking to YOU.

You probably feel like you don’t deserve to be here, like other guys in this community are better than, further ahead that you, more special than you, cooler than you.

2 mates of mine (who everyone else would say is elite) told me, one after the other, 2 days apart, that they don’t feel like they deserve to be in the communities they are in, full of other go getters.

One in particular even said he’s jealous of the other guy and compares himself to that guy all the time – and then that other guy told me 2 days later that he feels like a massive fraud who doesn’t belong.

I told one of them all of this and he said, “I’m so insecure I never woulda guessed people look up to me."

It’s a great point – I’m insecure about a million things. Of course I am, I’m human. I’m not perfect.

I've seen and heard a tonne of guys say they're insecure and don’t feel like they belong, that they're not cool enough to be trying to get laid. I’ve lost count of the number of guys that feel like you don’t belong in the group of “guys who get laid” or “guys who are improving their finances” or “guys who are losing weight” or just generally “guys who are working on improving themselves”

I’ll tell you right now, cool has nothing to do with it. “Good enough” has nothing to do with it. “Deserve” has nothing to do with it. Success is EARNED, it is not deserved. If you want success, if you want to reach your goals, it doesn’t matter whether you’re good enough or cool enough or deserve it – in fact, you WON’T be good enough at the start.

You haven’t EARNED it yet.

All that matters is you keep pushing forward, keep striving for more, and never ever quit.

A couple of years ago when I was a bit more of a newbie, I always felt like I didn’t belong. Like I wasn’t good enough. Even when having my first 3some, I literally felt like I still didn’t belong on subs like this… like it was just a “fluke” and I’d “gotten lucky” and sooner or later they’d all find out I was actually a loser. I didn’t feel like I could ever be a player.

I didn’t feel like I could ever be cool enough.

The same thing with my finances – I’d always been in debt. I never felt like I deserved not to be in debt. Even when I got to a point where I could go full-time with my business, I felt like I was an imposter. A fraud. Like I’d just gotten “lucky”, whatever the fuck that means.

News flash, most people who succeed feel like “I just got lucky” for a long time, until they finally internalise “No I EARNED this”. But that takes time; often months, sometimes years. It’s so normal, so common, to feel like an imposter and a fraud even after you succeed at something. But I promise you that fades eventually and you realise, “I worked hard to get here. It wasn’t luck. It was hard work, a stubborn refusal to ever quit, and just taking tiny little baby steps towards my goal every day. I deserve to be here.”

I’m talking to all of you.

You fucking deserve to be here.

You’re so much better than the average guy.

You care enough to fix your issues.

You’re aware of your flaws and you’re actively working on them.

You have the courage to admit you want something more from life, you don’t want to be complacent.

You’re terrified of getting to the end of your life and having regrets, and you’re brave enough to face that fear and do something to prevent it from happening.

You’re terrified of being average. You’re terrified of not being good enough. You’re here addressing that fear, learning, taking action, working on yourself. You’ve run from average and run towards something greater; you’ve sought out other people who want to be better too.

I know when you’re so acutely aware of all your flaws, all your insecurities, all the reasons you aren’t good enough, it’s very easy to feel like you don’t belong.

It’s very easy to feel like you’re an imposter.

It’s very easy to feel like other guys are better than you, that you’re on your own, that they’re all in a club together and you’re an outsider. That you’re not the cool kid and you can never be with the other cool kids.

But that isn’t the case. We all felt like losers at the start.

I felt like the world’s biggest loser, for YEARS I felt like I didn’t belong and shouldn’t be here.

But even with all my insecurities, fears and doubts, I still made it. Even the loser called Andy was able to make it, despite never believing he deserved to.

And if I can do it, you sure as hell can too.