Men talk for weeks..no date

fierce_and_mighty · 2021-03-29T11:18:33+00:00

I know the temptation to move them along quicker than they are going or plant ideas but FDS advises against teaching a man how to date you. There could be a myriad of reasons why these men aren’t asking you but its not up to you to speculate or plant the thought into their mind. They are grown men. If they don’t have the initiative to even ask you out, that doesn’t bode well for their character. You want someone with enough confidence to know what they want and the drive to go after it!

dollymyfolly · 2021-03-29T14:04:20+00:00

Seems like he’s keeping you around for a second option. There’s probably someone he’s pursuing more. Do not hint! He is currently pursuing you at the level he wants — hardly at all but just enough to confuse you. Just find someone who doesn’t treat you like a fallback girl.

bitch_not_it · 2021-03-30T00:24:55+00:00

Based on past experience, I'd guess because they're trying to trick you into becoming easy for him. He shows himself as a high value male, and you can't believe it, wow compared to the guys you usually talk to he's incredible, he's HVM, he's perfect

Yet no date or talk of date or vague about it. He's hoping for you to become desperate to not lose him or lose his attention and do the easy thing to get it - offer sex or casual hanging out (== sex)

Trust. Ask him to hang out casually, see how quickly he answers and is willing to coordinate this meet up

penelopekitty · 2021-03-29T13:23:33+00:00

No. If they don't ask you on a date within 48 hours of matching and texting block and delete. They are time wasters.

souredskittles · 2021-03-30T03:57:49+00:00

🤔 idk sis , 3 weeks of consistent talking is a long time to not have a first date. I feel like you should walk.

eru378 · 2021-03-30T14:05:34+00:00

This is a perfect situation to apply the "If he wanted to, he would" principle. Three weeks is a long time in online dating world, and these guys very clearly aren't motivated enough to actually ask you out. Time to move on.

Summerisle7 · 2021-03-30T23:09:00+00:00

You should block and delete. If they were interested in meeting you, they'd ask. Don't waste your time chatting for weeks. I'd say if they're not offering a date within 1 week that's more than enough time to see if they're serious. There are a lot of men who literally don't want more than just chatting. Sometimes they're married, sometimes just lazy.

Title	Men talk for weeks..no date
Author	crazykat1234
Upvotes	83
Comments	21
Date	March 29, 2021 10:52 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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