5 days ago my ex from 3 years ago emailed me, I swore I blocked his email but I obviously didn't. He emailed me and I stupidly replied asking what he wanted, He proceeded to talk about how he broke up with his girlfriend and how he is having a hard time right now and that he gave up on life awhile ago and now he has nothing to work towards. I said to him "What has this got to do with me and what do you want?" he said "I don't want anything from you". He then started talking about how he never wanted to end our relationship but I was so horrible to him and he had to lie to me because of that. He neglected me through the whole relationship, he let his parents treat me horribly, he would mention other women and even said that a girl he obsessed over but never dated was better than me. I was 18 at the time and he was 23, I just got out of an abusive relationship with a 30 year old (yes i know how stupid I was and I regret it tremendously because it was a horrible time for me). 5 days ago when my ex came back he started mentioning my relationship before him and how I went through alot of sht with said guy and I'm wondering why bring that up?. I would sometimes swear at my ex and fight back because he just wouldn't listen to me, he lied to me and even flirt with women in front of me. But the fact that he came back and tried to put it all on me has got me feeling really depressed, I struggle with my past alot and after him I got into a relationship with another guy who turned out to be a sociopath/Narcissist and that really hurt me (i still am hurt from that), i broke up with him 9 months ago. But what really takes the cake is this guy coming back and saying these things to me, He replied "lol" to my message about leaving me alone and that I've moved on, that I don't love him anymore etc... What did he want and why message me to talk sht about me and talk about his ex gf and how his life is so bad?
[–]Surprise-Turbulent49 points [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
doesn't matter, focus on yourself. block him. Look for affordable therapy
[–]19Bubbles986 points [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
I know inside it doesn't matter but it's just the feeling of regret of being with him in the first place that I just can't shake. I just wish he stayed away. I've been looking into a good therapist but no luck yet. Thank you for your response Xx
[–]Surprise-Turbulent9 points [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
My therapist recommended the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding method that you could use when you start to get anxious thoughts, so you could check that out. I understand the feeling of regret big time, it can be hard to forgive yourself after accepting less than what you deserve. We've all been there, but I promise you that it gets better <3
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[–]19Bubbles985 points [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
I wouldn't go near him again, I hate him, he actually disgusts me and I hope this is the laat I hear from him (He is blocked on email now and he can't reach me anywhere else).
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