context: little sex (2 time a month in average for the last 12 years up and down ) and only when the kids are asleep or spends the night someplace else. Never when someone else sleeps in the same house (for instance in the cabin, or having guest sleeping i the guestrooms)

now there is NO sex because the kids are older and awake until we go to sleep and sometimes longer. The door to our bedroom is not lockable (old door, old house) and yesterday when we talked about this i said i will fix a lock/repair the existing. But that wasn’t enough. «i need my privacy» she said. And she won’t wait until the kid are asleep, because she gets a migraine when she doesn’t get enough sleep. She is very private.

she has several time brought up this as a problem (no possibility for sex) lately.

(yes i lift, smell good, is not fat an so on)

what can I do?