AWALT or what??

GargantuaBlarg29 · 2017-07-11T18:43:37+00:00

Every single one of your panic posts so far have been reactions to what she's doing, and you demonstrating that you don't have any sort of frame strong enough to control her.

You need to build your foundation, which is you, first. Get your body together. Get your mind together. Get your emotions together. This is your world and you are happy in it, satisfied with yourself. Your relationship is only 4-5 months old so I wouldn't be surprised if she didn't wait around for you to get your shit together...but she is not the objective. You are. If she's still around when you get your shit straight, then invite her into your world.

Cobey3_16 · 2017-07-11T18:08:39+00:00

You know how when a woman is being bitchy, she will start every sentence with "you always..." or "you never..." when you know damn well it's not true? Have you ever left a sink full of dirty dishes sitting for an hour, only to have her bitch about how she "always" has to do the dishes or how you "never" do the dishes, despite the fact that you do the dishes more often than not?

It's kind of like that. How she feels at this moment is suddenly how she has felt forever. So yes, AWALT. And the orbiter dynamic exists for a reason, it isn't going to go away because of some label you have decided to put on your relationship. Also, I'm of the opinion (it may not be shared by everyone here, fair warning) that snapchat, FB, Twitter, ect are all unnecessary time sucks that do far more harm than good. Delete that shit from your phone.

Cock_Klepto · 2017-07-12T00:08:07+00:00

She just has no idea how to do things alone or make herself happy. Essentially you're getting used for that purpose by her and I highly doubt you command any of her respect. If you've made boundaries back them up. The more you puff yourself up about them and fail to follow through, the less value you'll have to her in every aspect. More likely than not she's probably still with you just out of the sake of convenience.

Personally she doesn't seem like she'd be worth the effort to keep around or to try to get her to behave how you'd like. She sounds kind of vain and those women usually have very diminishing returns.

cholomite · 2017-07-11T18:04:16+00:00

My LTR doesn't do this, because she knows it's inappropriate to hit up guys like that. I'm sure she would love the attention from random guys online, but it's not worth it to her to risk losing me over something like this. She also doesn't have social media like snapchat, so I don't really know how that shit works. She's mid 20s and I'm early 30s.

You either haven't properly laid down boundries, aren't attractive enough to be able to back up those boundries, or she doesn't give enough of a shit about you to care if she loses you for some other orbiter.

Just keep doing your own thing and stop fixating on what she does. As you become more and more attractive, her fear of losing you will increase and she will stop seeking attention and validation from other guys. The worst thing you can do here is to whine and ask her to stop and show insecurity.

hktrp · 2017-07-11T20:08:21+00:00

Not all women do this.

You aren't asking about this, but you have an issue with frame that's the source of the problem.

Tebulus · 2017-07-11T20:35:16+00:00

I am going to paraphrase the top reply in your very first thread from a month ago: Go fuck yourself with her dick you weak pussy of a man. You only reply to people who you already agree with or suggest a solution you want to hear, have not put in the work, have not participated in the community, have not done any significant reading, and are still letting this woman make you her bitch and every time it happens you come crying here making the same mistakes over and over. Not unlike a drug addict, you have to hit rock bottom and decide you are ready. Until then, quit wasting everyone's time.

Edit: Seriously dude, your reddit profile has negative comment karma. Take the hint.

rp_findingmyway · 2017-07-11T19:55:12+00:00

"And I don't except her to be all joking around and having fun with those other guys"

LOL. Please tell me you didn't really say that to her. Good God...

Title	AWALT or what??
Author	hktrp
Upvotes	3
Comments	22
Date	July 11, 2017 5:56 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
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