Married 7 years, 3 kids under 6yo. Lifting 17 years All time PR's

Bench= 200kg squat= 262.5kg dead= 300kg. currently 125kg BW 15%bf, 6ft6. reading mmslp and binge watch Rian stone due to his specificity on LTR's.

So since I've become aware of the shit tests I now am noticing my wife is contantly shit testing me.

I was out with friends having dinner when I received a text from the wife saying she has work early and that I'm basically a POS because kids are not in bed etc. my blood was absolutely boiling. I don't go out much with friends and all she had to do was basically put the kids to bed as everything else was already done by both of us before I left. I realised this has nothing to do with the kids and she is testing my compliance or a "shit test" I ignored the text. Me and my friends then called it a night roughly 10 minutes after the text. I called her on the way home and ignored the text completely and fogged the situation, seemed to work. I got home and I'm aware her hamster would of been running (competition anxiety) I then attempted a bid sexually which was successful as she was quite receptive.

I am starting to understand my wife much better since knowing and understanding certain behaviour. I can easily tell the difference between a shit test and a comfort test now and the different approaches.

if I continue effectively dealing with these shit tests will they end?

I dont know how much I can take, sometimes my rage during these tests is absolutely pulsating through my veins. I know I should aim for OI but I would also like these Shit tests to be less frequent. These sort of tests are occuring multiple times a day. HOW CAN I REDUCE THESE TESTS?!