How Much Effort Did You Put To Get Her?

SteelSharpensSteel · 2025-06-06T23:34:06+00:00

Your mindset needs to change. You don’t view yourself as the prize, which is why you are concerned about being left on delivered, and whining to AskMRP. The questions you should be asking are, why don’t I view myself as the prize; why do I want to get married in the first place; why did I skip leg day and every other day; will the Oilers bring the cup back to Canada or not; why is my frame collapsing after a non response to a text message.

These are the questions you need in your life. Not how do I get a lasting marriage.

DarkSpot468 · 2025-06-07T00:04:31+00:00

A woman who is interested in you will make herself available and do things for you to try and draw you in.

If she can't be bothered to read your text after a date, then read between the lines and move on.

HornsOfApathy · 2025-06-07T00:34:54+00:00

stories where guys were very persistent before the woman finally fell in love with him

Bluepilled hollywood stories you mean. Part if the matrix.

Are those relationships always going to be doomed to fail?

If she's your only option and you pine and cater to her like a bitch, yes, for you. But not necessarily for her when she cucks you.

she left me on delivered

Chad never cared or noticed.

LTR is probability of a successful marriage, ie. never getting divorced.

Staying married doesn't mean you're in a successful marriage, retard.

What are the best predictors for a lasting marriage/LTR?

Insert redpill bro youtube video here. But a better question you might ask yourself .. is she calm and relaxed when you rub her butthole?

redditJ5 · 2025-06-07T03:29:48+00:00

They pick you, you don't pick them.

No-Rough-7390 · 2025-06-06T23:53:27+00:00

Easy, she stuck around and continues to do so despite some challenging times in our relationship.

When we first met, I was dating other women and quickly saw that she was by and far the best option of the bunch. She made the first move to lock me down, her family is great, etc etc. So basically she continued to qualify to me.

We’ve been together 7 years, married now, and you’ll find out that it’s game on hard mode and you’re gonna fuck up and have to be the oak, but early on there should be little to no “what’s going on?” It should be clear she’s into you. My wife was actually concerned I wasn’t interested in her because of how aloof my game was at the time, but she kept showing back up.

ConnectionCreepy3252 · 2025-06-07T09:26:56+00:00

You wouldn’t believe it after going through my OYS posts, but my wife actually chased me down and put in a lot more effort than me in establishing LTR, enduring long-distance relationship,and finally getting married.

Fun fact autist me at the time was convinced that she was just playing me (and I told her so) and she spent a lot of effort demonstrating the attraction is very real.

Dark_Saiyan_83 · 2025-06-08T01:39:36+00:00

None. She just kept showing up at the gym every night at the same time as me. In no time she was climbing all over me. I was aloof and unaware she really existed until she made her move. You asking this question is a sign you’re too Outcome Dependant

Indubious1 · 2025-06-09T20:32:39+00:00

I believe people overthink shit a lot.

You can take the lead and show interest without showing a need for validation. I think validation is what you’re trying to avoid.

Wait a week and touch base with her and mention that you’d like to see her again. If she doesn’t respond after that, respect yourself and move on. Keep it simple.

SoundProof4 · 2025-06-13T16:51:05+00:00

I barely put in any effort at all into the women I married. Both 1st wife and 2nd wife. They both showed extreme interest in me without much effort on my part. No chasing at all.

Its necessary if you want it to work. They need to be very drawn to you and be the ones to really put in the effort and enthusiasm.

Test it. Its essential. If you're the one chasing and you succeed that way, you are the "safe option", not the one she truly desires. She must show genuine burning desire in you for a LTR to work past a year. Its easy to spot too because you won't question her investment in you at all.

Mustang-64 · 2025-11-17T21:53:11+00:00

Me: Married 30+ yrs. At 24, I took my future wife out and somehow managed to get her in bed on first date. Not a player / PUA, no awareness of red-pill realities, etc. It just happened. From there, step-by-step until a lifetime together.

I was definitely not outcome independent, but I was persistent. Never 'chased' never needy, but let her know I wanted to see her more.

Of course this was all pre-internet and pre-social media, so it wasn't like we had to worry about trivia like "how long did it take for him/her to reply to my text".

Stop overthinking it. Let her know your interest for her, but have an abundance mindset and POV that if it's meant to happen, she will want it enough to make it happen, and if she doesn't want it, it's not meant to be - move on.

"Or is it best to always stick to the principle of she should be showing a ton of interest from the very beginning?"

Nah. If she is interested in you, she'll go on more dates. That's enough. If not, she won't. Some girls over-express interest, some under-express interest (aka shy). Always forget what women say and go by what they DO - if they are going out w you, that's interest.

If she is making things hard for you or playing games, move on. But most girls will s88t-test you at some point, it's not a reason to leave. Just pass the test. I 'passed' the tests from my future wife by simply being non-reactive; I was chill when she created drama or she got mad over various things. Turns out, she liked my patience and stability.

BTW - Be good in bed, and you can get her to fall in love with you in a few months ... see SGM.

You won't know her LTR or wife potential until you are in a LTR. Only in a LTR can you pick up on all her personality traits and character qualities. The first year of dating revealed many qualities about my future wife.

The best predictors of a stable LTR/marriage IMHO are emotional maturity (by both parties) and good sex.

So your first assessments of her are on those points. Some other comment said "you don't pick them, they pick you" Exactly. I was a clueless dork who got a hot woman in bed and had her fall in love with me. If she didn't want me, she would have dumped me. She never did. My wife picked me.

You are the prize.

PossibleAd8552 · 2025-06-08T19:58:36+00:00

From an MRP perspective, high-value men don’t chase. Why do you see potential?

Title	How Much Effort Did You Put To Get Her?
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Date	June 6, 2025 11:05 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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