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[–]Redpillbrigade1722 points23 points24 points 5 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
What does she think of this post? Go ask her.
Lol
Get up. Dust off. Reload. Repeat. The ego is the enemy. And stop taking yourself so seriously. Your work - yes. But not the outcome.
Good luck
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[–]Tyred_BiggumsDon't let these gypsy women fool you12 points13 points14 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I hope to God you’re a troll.
[–]good_looking_man0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I was reading this post last night and was telling myself this guy can't be real. He's talking about throwing in the towel and filing for divorce? Can you imagine asking a guy or male friend in your real life why he got a divorce, and his answer was because he failed a bench press and got injured in front of his wife? No way this is real. I refuse to believe it!
[–]Cam_Winston211 point2 points3 points 5 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Initially, I thought he was clearly joking, but....
All the RP work I have done is now reset to zero
Quick glance at his history shows an obvious blue pill weakling (in every sense) who basically lives on Reddit & after scrolling back a year, didn't see anything at all related to "RP work", so possibly trolling.
I try to give the benefit of the doubt, especially in this case because it somewhat rang true: almost 20 years ago I was using my bench at home & asked my wife to spot me. She had no clue as to what to do back then & thus never took her hands off the bar after I said "okay". I came away with an indention of her diamond ring in my left pec & the realization that one should "never try to do a 1RM with a woman as your spot. Ever." (True story)
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[–]Cam_Winston2114 points15 points16 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Dude, count the number of shes and hers. Relax. Exhale. You’re gonna fail on a rep again. It’s okay. You’re gonna fail at X, cuz human. So will we all. Reset, do better tomorrow.
You’re overthinking. To the point that you turned down an orgasm because of your butthurt ego. You’re saying you’re possibly physically injured, your wife attempted to do what she could to make you feel better (how do women do that? Well, sex is one way), but you turned her down because you’re focusing on your injured ego.
If I have a bad day at work & my wife wants to make me feel better by giving me a BJ but I turn her down because of my feelings about myself....well, that’s kinda what you did.
Take care of your injury. Also, never try to do a 1RM with a woman as your spot. Ever.
[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
All the RP work I have done is now reset to zero, not due to the injury, but the fucking blow to my ego and game.
It’s obvious you haven’t read much sidebar, so you don’t have much MRP gains to give up. If you read the sidebar, you’d know:
don’t self-Deprecate to your wife (like a blow dryer to her pussy)
Socialize with males (if you developed your social life, you’d have a man spotter)
RP work is not reset... you must have the frame to STFU and move forth. Power through it.
You have zero frame. She told you she doesn’t care, but you insist on forcing her to care. She was telling the truth, except what she really meant was She doesn’t care if you can muster up the frame to shake it off and move forth
This is actually a great opportunity for you to show off those RP gains you say you’ve had by exercising strong frame in a tough situation. Oh wait, you don’t have any frame/ I forgot.
[–]man_in_the_worldRed Beret2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
I have been trying hard, but I’m a fucking joke and I know it. This is going to set me back even further. All the RP work I have done is now reset to zero, not due to the injury, but the fucking blow to my ego and game. I did basically say this to her. She said it didn’t matter, she didn’t care, she just hoped I was okay, she said “we can even have sex tonight”. I told her I didn’t want her pity sex. She tried to assure my that this didn’t hurt her opinion of me, but I just assumed this was her rationalization hamster.
I have been trying hard, but I’m a fucking joke and I know it. This is going to set me back even further.
I did basically say this to her. She said it didn’t matter, she didn’t care, she just hoped I was okay, she said “we can even have sex tonight”. I told her I didn’t want her pity sex.
She tried to assure my that this didn’t hurt her opinion of me, but I just assumed this was her rationalization hamster.
STAY OUT OF YOUR WIFE'S HEAD!
Read again what you wrote. It is all a projection of your own insecurities and self-doubt onto your wife, and has nothing to do with what she might actually be thinking.
Get out of your wife's frame, stop being a dancing monkey, STFU so you don't wallow in your insecurities in front of others, and STAY OUT OF YOUR WIFE'S HEAD.
[–]JayDubya19710 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Dude you cant ask her how she feels about it. I know thats counter intuitive but it shows weakness and to much concern. It would be better to work out alone or with another guy friend.
In the end you are fine but you should adjust your approach. They respond to independent, mysterious, self reliance.
Have you read The Rational Male? It's really good at breaking this stuff down.
Your on on the right path though. It's good to hear of a fellow man fighting for his place in life. Keep it up. She obviously loves you and the rest is just behavioral changes.
[–]yellowdopamine11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Is this asktrp? Are you 15 years old?
Shit happens, man. It just happens.
You worry too much of what your wife thinks. Don't be such a pussy. You should be worrying only with your health right now.
[–]LukePranay8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
IMHO, this situation is in one of the least relevant /important areas of 'evaluation' - the truly important ones being: your integrity, attention to details, kindness, empathy, care for others, self-care, empire-building determination, fun/peace vibes, presence & flow states, intelligence, wiseness, constant evolution...
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[–]Nodeal_reddit0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s not a shit test.
[–]good_looking_man11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
The more I read askMRP, the more I believe askMRP is the Jupiter of marriedRedPill. What I mean by this is Earth is a nice and tidy place thanks to Jupiter attracting all the asteroids and other space rubble.
[–]weakandsensitive0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
By design.
askMRP is the dumpster fire.
[–]PutABabyInThat3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
start filing the divorce paperwork
Oh ya... maybe a divorce will fix everything and somehow turn you into a man.
[–]rewire_your_brain5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Nobody gives a shit you failed a rep. The only unattractive thing is how you are handling it, being so insecure. If you were further along in your journey you'd just laugh it off.
Read the section on negative assertion from WISNIFG a few times.
[–]Tyred_BiggumsDon't let these gypsy women fool you1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s not even anyone beating him up about it. It’s his massive ego that’s causing all the problems.
I dropped a 10 lb weight on by toe while deadlifting barefoot. Chipped half the nail off. My LTR saw and helped me bandage it up.
Laughing is what happened because it was funny. I did something a bit careless and injured myself. Oh well. Nothing to get upset over. Just move on with the failure/mistake and learn from it.
What’s the point of wasting mental cycles over something so... meaningless?
[–]Don_Draper272 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
In 6 months, she could be singing the tune to her friends of, "yea when he started he pushed too hard and hurt himself. But look at him now! I didn't think he could look like that so quickly!"
[–]brianmcg3215 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Next time ask her boyfriend to spot you. He can handle the weight.
[–]Tyred_BiggumsDon't let these gypsy women fool you3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
should I just throw in the towel with this one and start filing the divorce paperwork
Yes and cut your dick off and become a woman while you’re at it.
[–]Ole-Guy1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You can stay down, or get yourself back up. Your choice.
[–]Nodeal_reddit1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Much more likely that You strained an intercostal muscle than “broke a rib”. They take a while to heal. Probably 3-4 weeks.
Also, what are you lifting on? If you have spotter arms on your rack, then you can just set them to catch the weight if you fail dramatically.
[–]TakeHimRoundBack1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It hurts man. I get it. But take some time away from your wife. This was YOUR mistake. Not your marriages. Get away from her. Process this yourself. You are in her frame.
You might think reframing that your ass hurts is better than your ribs. This is stupid.
You decide if you want to play fight or not. You decide if you are a worthless, saggy piece of shit. You decide. Not others. Especially not your loved ones.
When we fail, I know it hurts. Get outside, get some air. Because if you let anyone else tell you what that failure means you will be lost to yourself and to her.
She doesn't want you to win all the time. She wants you to struggle to see things through your own eyes, and hold your ground when people try to turn you into a culture robot.
That's part of what it means to be a man in my opinion. To use our own eyes. If you decide for yourself you will be stronger even though you made a mistake. And in that you will have your victory.
Fights not over until you admit it. You failed. But you haven't lost. It's just an up and down. The test is not from your women. The test is from life. What will you do?
[–]Livecrazyjoe1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Is this a joke?
[–]alejandrosalamandro1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Stop being so whiny and question yourself because of this one incident. You should rather concentrate on doing well and if your wife happens to forget the incident along the way that is great, but it should be not be your focus.
[–]SepeanRed Beret1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
should I just throw in the towel with this one and start filing the divorce paperwork ? I really don’t see how I can ever be attractive in her eyes after this.
Yeah, that's how attraction works. You see someone hot but you know they were once not hot, you don't find them attractive at all.
It's the same with everything else. Bill Gates was once working from a garage, he'll always be a poor loser. Jeff Bezos started out delivering packages himself, everyone thinks of him like a delivery boy. You have to be born rich to be seen as successful.
[–]Guiltandshame991 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I’m Not sure of This is a joke, but This is why I don’t cap the ends of my barbells so if shit goes south you can just let the weights slide off one side and then drop it on the other. You were lucky this on the bench press and not the squat.
[–]abangizhar0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not gonna lie..i laugh reading the first paragraph 😆😆
[–]redwall920 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It sounds like the hit to your ego is a good thing.
Stop whining. For the love of all things good, stop talking to your wife about how you feel. Stop talking about how your butt hurts than a rib.
And then get going again. Give any injury time to heal. And get back on the horse.
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