My wife is fucking gorgeous. By far the hottest mum in the school playground, she's mid 30s but looks 25 despite having my 3 kids & being an amazing mum. She's also from a rich family and will eventually inherit a few million. We've done well up to this point financially & are very comfortable. She's extremely clever academically & is generally a very high value woman.

Not just this, but after a few issues we are in a great place. We've had sex 3 times this week and last 2 she instigated. We have been together since we were 18. The issues were boredom and arguing over silly shit.

Now the problem...

I'm in love with another woman. A coworker no less. Who isn't rich. Or as clever. But she's younger, hot and simply different. We have had immense chemistry from day 1.

I KNOW that I don't want to fuck my whole life up for some oneitis who I may not even fuck. We've come very close to kissing once but apart from that, NOTHING.

Logically I know that I must forget this girl before it fucks up my marriage.

But instinctively I have an uncontrollable urge to be with her. It's fucked up but I must have 'pair bonded' or something as I literally can not stop thinking about her. Even though I know i need to.

Usually the cure for oneitis is fucking other women. But I don't want to. And fucking my wife isn't helping.

Honestly, to anyone who has never experienced oneitis - simply do not allow yourself to get into this position. It is HELL ON EARTH.

Right now I want to leave my job. Because when I don't see this girl for a while the intensity lessens. A lot. I feel like I can almost get back to normal.

But the thought of losing my job means not seeing this girl ever again and that sends me into dark depressive thoughts, a place I dont want to be.

TL;DR: SIMULTANEOUSLY, I want to next and 'not next' a girl that isn't my wife. I have crippling oneitis, a situation I never wanted but here I am and I have no idea how to cure it. But seeing her every day at work is definitely making things worse.