Marriage yes/no

Rian_Stone · 2018-05-10T14:34:14+00:00

Stop changing who you let lead you from your wife, to randos on the internet

nut up, I'm removing this

ReddJive · 2018-05-10T11:18:20+00:00

Since you asked.

No.

BlackFire68 · 2018-05-10T11:17:09+00:00

First of all, there's really no point in asking that question because the premise is incredibly unlikely. She may be very feminine and prior to marriage she might be very sexual... but you truly have no idea if she would cheat. She may not even know yet.

Now, what does "worth it" mean? What will she provide you that you cannot get or do not have? That is, what value will she bring you and in exchange for what? Your sexual freedom will now be limited, your choice of time spent with others will be limited, your home will be encroached upon and freedoms will be limited there. Does she bring income, skills, a trade? Sure she may be 'present' but that removal of potential loneliness can quickly swing the other way.

You are a man. You have a mission in life. That mission is not this woman. This woman could be a complement to you achieving your mission (at best). Would she be?

If you get divorced (incredibly likely in the Western world), she may get a significant portion of resources that you would have called your own. If you had children, they would now spend the majority of their time with her.

I would ask you in return, what are the benefits of marriage and why do you want to marry?

cholomite · 2018-05-10T12:51:30+00:00

I called of getting married 6 months out from the wedding and it was the best decision I ever made.

Also, I can tell from your replies in this thread that you have zero understanding of the true nature of women and also have zero frame. Your girl is going to eat you alive and spit out your bones if you give up the only power you have in your relationship.

The answer is no, you should never get married. We won't stop you from doing it, but please read up first so at least if she burns you in the end you'll understand why.

skwidgy · 2018-05-10T11:38:35+00:00

You found a unicorn!!!

Now you can upgrade to selling shit for a living.

You taking a poll? Sounds like you currently take pole for a living.

Come back when your balls drop.

straius · 2018-05-10T11:58:25+00:00

Hint: All humans are the cheating type. It's a question of circumstances and opportunities. Not character traits.

If you don't want her to cheat, don't create the circumstances to enable it. Thinking you can rely on a person's character to prevent that is exactly how you grow complacent and act like it's something you're just "owed."

But that's not how it works. In fact, that's how you make sure there's a good chance you're setting yourself up for it in the future. Ie... Entitlement

SeamusAwl · 2018-05-10T12:58:58+00:00

Would you marry her givin the opportunity

No

would it be worth it in your opinion?

Cant answer that one. Tell me after you are dead.

assuming you have a wonderfull woman who you are in love with, is very feminine, very sexual, and would never cheat on you.

You know what happens when you assume? Here is the thing.. Women can have crazy sex with you, tell you they love you and actually mean it. Kiss you good bye, get in their cars and text you "i miss you already" (and truly mean it). Stop by starbucks on the way in to work and bump into someone perceived better than you who decided to take notice of her. All of a sudden she never loved you. This is the lightswitch effect of a woman's hypergamic nature. every woman has it.

First of all what would you say the downfalls in Marriage are for men

Society and the laws favor women in divorce. There are homes and programs to help divorcing wives. The home for divorcing husbands is a jail cell, and their crime - they got married.

[deleted] · 2018-05-10T13:18:34+00:00

If you don't know the downfalls of marriage - then you shouldn't get married. Do you jump off a diving board without knowing how to dive or if there is water below?

MetalMRP · 2018-05-10T13:32:49+00:00

OP, buddy, you have a lot to learn. A couple of things I’ve noticed:

The status of a unicorn, even if somehow actually true, is dynamic over time. You could very well marry a unicorn today and have her transform into... you know any other woman in the span of months.
She already said she wouldn’t cheat because of the financial security you provide. Umm red flag there buddy, she’s overtly communicating RedPill’isms to you. Let me translate what this actually means: “I won’t LEAVE you because of the financial security you provide. If you bore me and I stumble upon Chad then that’s different, but I wouldn’t leave you!”

I’ve only been married for 6 years, so many here can easily eclipse me with their experience. Nonetheless, here are some benefits for marriage: I think the family structure when optimized is the best setting for raising kids. That’s it. This is important to me so I work at it. Many here and elsewhere couldn’t give two fucks about that so marriage is a money and energy pit. If you don’t think your partner has great potential to mother your kids, if you aren’t sure about wanting children, then fuck no marriage isn’t worth it.

I see your posts here and I see someone who has really no understanding about what we speak about, familiarity sure, but understanding? Don’t see it. You take some of these comments in stride which is good but the fact that you have no experience in marriage and are running around boasting about a unicorn just makes me laugh. This leads me to believe that if you asked 100 of us and 99 say marriage isn’t worth it, you’d follow the 1 who said to do it. So I shrug my shoulders and say “you do you.” We’ll be here in a few years when you really need us.

2ndal · 2018-05-10T11:48:06+00:00

Human beings change, react, adapt. It is that many men ignore this fact that gets them in the sexless situations they find themselves in. They find their unicorn, their one true love, who they see no faults in and can't imagine doing no wrong, and they relax. They take their foot of the gas, get complacent, get fat, get weak. Their unicorn subsequently changes in response. So this question is more about yourself. Can a man be attractive enough to land a high caliber woman and build on that attraction enough to keep a woman interested in him? I dunno, can you? Probably not if you're asking this question.

AquitasVeritas · 2018-05-10T12:57:18+00:00

Yes, go marry and find out for yourself if you dont want advice.

Ask yourself tho... why the fuck am i asking this question? And what am i doing here?

Try to look past the ’harsh’ comments and look for the good in it for gods sake.

RelativeJellyfish · 2018-05-10T14:14:06+00:00

I'm gonna veer slightly off the MRP/TRP train here (though MRP is fundamentally OK with marriage, not really Pro).

You only marry someone you love. Any other reason is not valid. You can also love someone and NOT marry them (usually for a whole list of reasons such as: terrible financially, unstable, depression, family issues, toxic fights, etc.). If you are in love, though, these things can be hard to see, and therefore core family and friends can help one see reality. Good pussy always clouds male judgement... don't think you are the exception.

If she has good core values, and you love her, then I say get married. Obviously with MRP, your eyes are wide open to reality and the false male Disney narrative. Marriage is not easy, and for some it is not worth it. But I like it and find it valuable. Of course I'd love to have some strange (i.e., other pussy) at various times in my life, that will never go away until my libido dissipates.

Where your marriage will go is partly (mostly) up to you and how you Captain. You can't be sure about anything, but this subreddit (MRP) has already enhanced my own life (and marriage).

Title	Marriage yes/no
Author	skwidgy
Upvotes	1
Comments	38
Date	May 10, 2018 11:02 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
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