MRP for a single 21M

weakandsensitive · 2017-04-18T05:07:19+00:00

So you want to graduate from beta to beta bucks? Good luck.

Your post history is spastic and hilarious. You have no idea what you want kiddo. Good time to start failing, and failing fast. If you want a guideline, just do the get a good education, get a good job route.

Archwinger · 2017-04-18T12:17:36+00:00

Try actually fucking 6 women on rotation before you decide to you want to get married and have six kids.

Not because that's a better life, but because you clearly need to learn what women are actually like.

Your wish list is born from idealism. You need to grow up before you even get a serious girlfriend. Much less married.

anythinginc · 2017-04-18T05:56:12+00:00

At some point I want to get married. At that time, how can I find a woman worth marrying?

You're steeped in The Red Pill, AND YET, at some point you're going to fuck some woman, get involved with that woman, and you will think to yourself:

Holy FUCK! I have GOT to lock this bitch down and put my babies inside her!

And you are going to be looking for red flags, for some reason to NOT marry her, and they just won't be there, and your friends want you to married, and your two families want you to get married, and nobody can say a shitty thing about your relationship, and considering the times, you'll both just stop caring about BC some day and she'll be pregnant, and there you, making a future together.

goal is medicine and surgery

Family of doctors, facebook full of doctors, cohort full of doctors, siblings are all doctors, classmates are all doctors.

To get to my point, it is pointless for you to be "looking" until medical school or residency. Do you even know what matching is? Which one of you is going to sacrifice your residency or specialty for the other one? Granted, you could both be awesome and pair match successfully. Do you expect to have a family in medical school or residency, granted dumb asses do it, but their instructors hate them and they take a year off and never come back, or they piss off somebody on a rotation and don't match and have to scramble and end up in ass-hole Alaska and their significant other sure isn't following them there. Even worse entering medical school IN a relationship, you won't make it, your time constraints, all those sexy successful peers, etc...You are going to date and fuck classmates, but again, which one of you type-A 20-somethings is going to not go after their best residency slot to end up in the same city? Likely neither of you. The last match day I went to had one (1) couple match and they were both family practice. Maybe that nursing student you dated will follow you anywhere though.

Sorry, the deck is stacked against you. You are going to be in your residency, making 50K a year finally, and it is going to be another resident or an intern or a nurse or the clinic's office manager or some shit because that is your circle, pharmacists and optometrists are better, family friendly professions. Male doctor's divorce odds are about 25%, female docs about 33%, work-life balance and all that. Money solves a lot of problems. With tinder et al I'm sure you could snag a young hottie anytime as well once you are in your 30s making a real doctor's salary. That's the odds, and that is great, that is a good life, so don't fucking worry about it at 21, you'll figure it out.

PS: The average nurse has a heart of gold, and is five times the health care professional that an intern is, but had to take some GenEd class three times to pass and is almost certainly gong to divorce somebody in her life, so just don't be her first marriage, and since you probably don't want to be anyone's second husband...just watch out for nurses.

Persaeus · 2017-04-18T11:23:26+00:00

Once married, I would like to have six kids.

and you had a vasectomy last year? how effective is reversing that? honest questions?

Griever114 · 2017-04-18T12:30:02+00:00

Why the fuck are you so hung up on getting married? Do you know the insane risks and absolute terrible success rate there is for it? You are literally handing a loaded gun to a woman and the government. There is NO REASON TO GET MARRIED ANYMORE.

Stop worrying about putting a ring on and knocking up a bitch. You are 21 fucking years old. Get your life together and when you have thoroughly enjoying it, THEN consider those possibilities. You probably have college loans to pay and havent even STARTED to figure out your career.

You're 21 years old. YOU DONT KNOW SHIT.

AustralianArm · 2017-04-18T05:10:47+00:00

Who said you need church to have friends or socialise your kids?

You're at university, right? If you can't find members of the female gender with similar interests and are marriageable at university, you're obviously not trying to socialise.

Go find a student organisation that involves an interest you have, sports, arts, other and get involved.

Quick question: Have you ever been diagnosed as being on the spectrum?

nantucketghost · 2017-04-18T11:45:59+00:00

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GargantuaBlarg29 · 2017-04-18T11:48:02+00:00

A) We are far from being geared towards finding a wife.

B) What woman's magazine did you find that thought in?

C) Everywhere. Literally everywhere.

D) Not sure where you are from...sounds like "community" might be a bigger thing for you. But religious groups are not necessary. In the US anyways, there's literally an infinite number of clubs, organizations, camps, sports, etc you can sign your kid up for as early as 2yo.

stonepimpletilists · 2017-04-18T14:31:15+00:00

The only value for you here is having a strong dad to kick your ass, and put you to work.

Enjoy your stay, stat prepping your MSAT now, keep eating, (more than you are now) and double those numbers in a year, get a plan together, post if you need help with it.

Also, ditch that gratitude daily journal. Right now you're a wad of cookie dough. Want gratitude? Go earn it.

Life_advice_me · 2017-04-18T20:50:01+00:00

First, MRP does not advocate marriage. It used to be that if you were going to have kids, getting married made sense. Nowadays, it makes little difference if you are married or not when you're in a happy LTR, with or without kids. However, when your LTR ends (and ends badly as they tend to do) it can make a large difference. So it's all risk with no benefit save for a day out and some shiny jewellery for you.

So what you need to think about is why do you want to get married. Is it that you want to feel loved? Do you want the security? Do you think it will be a reason to retreat from the world into the heart of a loving home? Do you think it will make you normal? Whatever your reason is, you are naive because marriage is not the answer. We refer to MRP as TRP on hard mode because we know what it takes to have a "happy" marriage and we know that in most cases we'd be better off if we were not.

When your high quality, you'll be able to date and keep a high quality woman. Until then read, lift and improve.

Wyrdewoodsdweller · 2017-04-18T20:51:06+00:00

Sounds like you are in much better shape than most guys and you have to dispel those nagging doubts that maybe you should just settle for the first one to give it up.

Women practice hypergamy (witness countless unexplained breakups and divorces) and when they hit their thirties, they hit the wall, cast away the carousel and look for betabux. Beware!

I think the best advice is zen-related in how, if you look for something before it's ready, you won't fully appreciate it. Set standards and be picky.

That said, grocery stores, thrift stores etc. Look for the girl who doesn't give off the Feminazi vide (endless problems), accept that you'll get various shit tests, maintain frame and see where it goes.

atlhart · 2017-04-19T14:18:32+00:00

Honestly dude, it sounds like you've got it all figured out. Not even sure you why your posting this, you could teach us jerk offs a thing or two.

My advice: try to get married as soon as possible. Maybe in the next year. There's no such thing as a quality woman, so just pick one that you're attracted to. Get married. Probably best to have at least one kid before med school. 6 is a lot, best to get started early.

I think you'll be able to handle the rest. Your intuition seems better that all the "experience based advice" us fat fucks have to give. Best just to ignore this place. You're 21 years of living with your parents have already given you the necessary skills to lead better lives and have a better understanding of the world than everyone else.

atlhart · 2017-04-19T14:28:50+00:00

Troll post.

Dude says he wants 6 kids....but posted last year about his vasectomy and how he's known his whole life hat he didn't want kids.

Lock thread, ban user, move along please.

BluepillProfessor · 2017-04-20T21:21:44+00:00

Dalrock has what you seek. Including wife tests and advice for Christian young men.

bob13bob · 2017-04-28T14:50:38+00:00

Is math a path to med school? Philosophy a waste of time and effort? I think so. Should you be in bio?

If you wanna bulk,. Ur workouts look good,. Actually too good. That's a lot of weight difference between dead and bench. Amek sure you have good form. read bodybuilding forums,. I like rippetoe guide.

You have limited experience with woman,. Just get some and stop thinking about marriage.

Title	MRP for a single 21M
Author	Simply_Sherlock
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Date	April 18, 2017 4:53 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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