I'm really appreciating all the help I've got from here, both directly and indirectly. Referring back to my own and others previous posts and replies has been invaluable.

In reading your recent comments about agreed celibacy, monk mode and nofap, I have a question:

I'd like to initiate a period of no sex, in order to realign the way I perceive it and help me to become my own point of origin. I've always used it too much for validation and I really like the way Rollo explains the urgency to agency trajectory. I want to break free of these. I am struggling to decide whether to overtly tell my SO that I want a celibate period, or whether to just stop initiating. What have people experienced with either side of this and what would people recommend?

I'm thinking of just saying "let's have a break from sex for a month" and leaving it at that. Is that too much or too little?

Thanks in advance