Struggling with motivation

EasyDaysHardNights · 2020-10-23T15:22:24+00:00

You're wrapped up in your feelings. Which are tied to the validation you get from the gym.

My gains have stalled

At some point, every journey worth pursuing migrates from exciting to a grind. It's inevitable. The high never sustains long term. This is an opportunity to learn discipline and breadth. By breadth I mean having more than a singular focus for self improvement and gauge by which you measure self worth.

You mention Gains. But no word on Frame or Game.

I'd place money on the fact that you're a one trick pony and that trick isn't really all that good.

If you've been here long enough to post, you've been here long enough to read.

Hit the Sidebar as hard as you hit the gym and get your ass into OYS.

Edit: Format

MagnumBurrito · 2020-10-23T15:14:49+00:00

Find a passion that uses your strength acquired from the gym. Powerlifting meet. Climbing. BJJ. MMA. Boxing. Triathlons. Bow hunting. Backpacking. Bodybuilding comp.

rocknrollchuck · 2020-10-23T15:00:41+00:00

Take a break for 2 weeks and stop going to the gym completely. Relax your diet and treat yourself to all the things you want when you're on your diet - cake, cookies, ice cream, chips - whatever you are really craving.

At the end of the two weeks, strip down to your underwear and stand in front of the mirror. Your motivation will probably come back right at that moment when you see what you've lost.

good_looking_man · 2020-10-23T15:27:47+00:00

Going to the gym should be out of discipline and habit, not motivation. Trying to do it out of motivation only will burn you out. Just go in and get it done and get out. Then do it again the next day.

Don't try and get all your needs met through a single activity. Diversify.

Redrover857 · 2020-10-23T16:41:37+00:00

Has anyone ever plateaud in the gym? Cmon man. Part of working out is figuring out ways to get through plateaus. It’s not motivation you lack, it’s discipline.

Substantial_Rust · 2020-10-23T14:59:53+00:00

What are you doing instead of working out/the thing you should be doing? Why are you doing that instead? Are they high dopamine/low value activities?

Rifleshoot · 2020-10-23T16:55:50+00:00

Motivation comes from a desire to see results. So, if you really want motivation, think about the result you want and think about what you need to do to get there.

However, motivation alone isn't going to get you what you want or need. Motivation does not stick around long-term. That's where discipline comes in. Where motivation fails, discipline excels. Those mornings you want to just stay in bed rather than lift, or watch tv instead of going on that jog. Those mornings hit everyone. The key difference is not finding motivation to overcome the laziness, but rather having the discipline to go in spite of it. So the real question that you need to be asking is "how to I build the discipline to overcome my inner fatty?"

That's a much tougher question to answer and one that I'm still working on for myself, so I don't have much wisdom to give on it. There are some much more disciplined guys here that can give much better advice on that than me.

Drivinga1486 · 2020-10-23T17:06:47+00:00

You're afraid, afraid of success. Afraid of change, afraid of being noticed etc. You're self sabotaging your self. Figure out what it is and confront it head on and get back in the gym.

business---travel · 2020-10-23T17:46:19+00:00

Discipline and routines get shit done, not motivation...

fireBadMeGood · 2020-10-23T23:13:10+00:00

On lifting, the pursuit is the art. For example, trying to lift heavy at 30lbs. lighter, is a whole new challenge than what you've done before. Play with it.

Look into the progressive bodyweight calisthenics world too. They lift heavy, but it's about intensity in the body, not necessarily weight on the bar. Cool concepts.

iamwolfmonk · 2020-10-28T14:39:08+00:00

It's time for you to start juicing.

Ubermensch33 · 2020-10-23T14:50:30+00:00

body stats/lifts?

red-sfpplus · 2020-10-23T15:36:43+00:00

I would like to get straight to the point:

I am a maggot retard who cant even bench 1 plate, squate 2 or deadlift 3.

Title	Struggling with motivation
Author	Carpenter4875
Upvotes	6
Comments	29
Date	October 23, 2020 2:15 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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