First post here but been lurking on marriedredpill for about 6+ months. Been reading sidebar and working out 3-4 days a week and getting my ass in shape. 5’11” 180lbs. Married my current wife before I knew anything about the redpill or much about myself for that matter. 1 kid and thoughts for a second.

In my current situation sex is lackluster. Maybe once a week with little to no variety and varying enthusiasm. From starfish to maybe 50% of what things were when we first started dating.

Anyways onto the current problem, or imagined one. Last night I had a soccer game and it started late so I ended up getting home a little later than usual. Wife meets me with a bitchy ton and attitude asking why it took so long to get home. I mention that game got started a bit late, but it’s met with an accusatory tone and how it’s suspicious that I “always” come home late from soccer. I don’t. She mentions that I could have texted her that things were running late, which I admit I could have mentioned it at half time. She responds with more suspicion as to why I would have to wait until halftime if I already know the game is going to start late, even though we’re busy warming up.

I feel like I’m being her bitch here explaining why being 10min late to get home. I shouldn’t even say feel. Now that I’m writing this out I can see that I am.

She texted my this morning that she needs to run errands and I asked if she needed any help. Her response is “Not until you want to be honest about what’s going on at soccer and why you can never manage to come home on time”.

I feel like I’m always 1 step behind, or always playing catch up in these stupid ass arguments. I’m not even sure how to respond and just looking for some insight as to what the hell am I doing wrong. Call me a bundle of sticks or whatever else might be necessary to wake my dumbass up from my ignorance. Looking forward to it.