Working with SO

hystericalbonding · 2017-10-10T22:29:25+00:00

Smoking: -50 Health per turn, -50 Appearance per turn, -100 IOI's and gaming opportunities with attractive women. Your new approach is an improvement, but you need to quit now.

Mystery +0. You're trying to reconcile "always be closing" with being an adult at work, and with constant exposure. Always closing doesn't mean always pulling. You can tease, be aloof, or be focused on work some of the time. Some degree of mystery is a good thing. Don't do it for the sake of making her mad, but you can't be afraid to piss her off. You don't need to tell her every interesting thing that happened, or every stray thought. Are you socializing with other people as a group during breaks, or just the two of you? +5 points if you successfully plan something to do with her, without her input, and without getting butthurt if it falls through.

Strength: +10 per week of lifting until you hit a plateau. Progress slows when you get to level 2, so you'll need periodization, increased volume, and more skills than the four main lifts at that point.

First officer modifiers: reflect rank and skill of the player. She's not fun because you're not fun. She's not carefree because you don't establish an environment for her to be carefree through isolation and immersion in the experience of being with you. This doesn't need to be a date. It can be a kiss, an intense conversation, a quick distraction, or even a look.

Check your Bag of Holding. Your inventory should include NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, and for you in particular, the Book of Pook and the Family Alpha blog.

alucard205 · 2017-10-10T23:41:31+00:00

Agree 100% with getting a new job asap. In the meantime, are there any ATTRACTIVE women in the office? If so, get to work hard on upping your SMV and let her see the ladies checking out your newfound gains. I'd also find after work activities, like grabbing beers with your buddies, to give reason for driving separate cars and creating more separation where you can.

SorcererKing · 2017-10-11T00:22:50+00:00

Quit being a bitch.
Exercise some goddamn self-control and quit smoking.
No IM with her; wean her off. Rules for texting apply.
Get a new job in a different company.

redbeaux · 2017-10-10T23:18:55+00:00

Sounds like your motives are still for her/other women. Why do you feel the need to spark the attraction you had when starting.

My suggestion: Think of all the things you want to do in a given day, week, month and do them. She is welcome to join in or not. Don't let her emotions, good or bad, distract you from that.

FF0000_captain · 2017-10-10T21:06:06+00:00

My take:

You are her gossip buddy. She gets to vent about coworkers and discuss who did this and that in the office with you, her confidant. This is what girlfriends are for. You are her girlfriend. She gets everything she needs from you, so there's no real reason for her to give anything you need.

Solution? Stop being her girlfriend.

To do that, you probably have to lose the bitch tits first. (I assume you have bitch tits because you still play DnD. Time to grow up and find an adult hobby).

SteelSharpensSteel · 2017-10-11T01:12:51+00:00

Let me put this in terms you understand.

Your Charisma is a 8. That's right, below average. I see you are putting ranks into Gather Information by coming here. You're working on your Constitution by lifting, but your Charisma is still a 8. You see that sidebar there? Once you read it, it will be like a Book of Charisma +6.

But you need to do the work. Books of Charisma don't read themselves. Stop hanging out with your wife at work, stop smoking with her, stop being her emotional tampon and IMing her all the freaking time, and start building a life without her. Give her the gift of missing you.

Also, be like Vin Diesel. He also plays DnD.

red-sfpplus · 2017-10-10T20:39:51+00:00

You both smoke. Cool.

You feed her emotional tampon all day over IM. Cool.

You cant even go and smoke (which is a disgusting habit BTW) by yourself wo mommy holding your hand.

Do you do anything manly? Have you done any work?

Edit: Is DND still short for Dungeons and Dragons? If so, then the answer is most defiantly NO. You do nothing manly Mr Neckbeard.

GC0W30 · 2017-10-10T20:46:09+00:00

One of you needs to get a different job.

There is no f*ing way to have as much exposure to one another as you guys have and keep the marriage going long term.

Aside from that, read the sidebar.

BobbyPeru · 2017-10-10T21:03:30+00:00

Stop asking if she is ready to smoke and now just telling her I am going outside.

Seriously, just go. Clearly, You're in her frame and scared of her.

You are with her way too much. If you can afford it, a 2nd car is highly reccommended, and honestly I'd start looking for a job with a different company. Too much availability kills all mystery, and she will eventual lose all attraction towards you. It's just a matter of time if you don't make a big change.

Oh, and pro tip: don't ask her permission to look for a job with another company- just do it.

simbarlion · 2017-10-10T22:07:07+00:00

I can't possibly imagine a positive long term outcome that does not involve one of you changing jobs.

Title	Working with SO
Author	Mrpaccount2392
Upvotes	2
Comments	38
Date	October 10, 2017 8:23 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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