am i being dramatic or should i withdraw attention from a girl ive been casually vetting

Don_Draper27 · 2021-04-28T14:40:57+00:00

You're enjoying your time with her and that's that.

Maybe she's fucking other guys and maybe she's not?

I come across these "flags" once in a while with plates. Yes, I'll overthink shit for a few minutes and get a bad taste in my mouth, but it's never really been hard proof that she's seeing other guys.

Simply just remember that it's just your turn. You can't supervise, control, or monitor what she does when she's not with you, so your only choice is to not sweat it.

theRedFundamentals · 2021-04-28T14:41:27+00:00

Early onset of oneitis is coming in. You’re specifically thinking about this girl with a relationship in mind, rather than allowing her to prove she’s worthy of one.

From where it stands as a plate who cares? She can do what she wants. Vetting for an LTR? Disqualified in my book.

NightwingTRP · 2021-04-28T15:07:55+00:00

I thought things were going pretty well with us and progressing towards a relationship so idk why she thought it was worth the effort to create an entirely new profile on the app.

And you were wrong. She is now forever plate material and can never rise above that level. Your vetting worked. That is the purpose of vetting, to observe and disqualify unsuitable girls. She has demonstrated through her actions that she is unworthy of a serious relationship with you. Hit up other girls if you're still unicorn hunting. Spin her as a plate and have fun until she breaks. If you have concerns you may develop oneitis then you must hard next preemptively.

There is nothing more to discuss.

i-am-the-prize · 2021-04-28T17:26:36+00:00

your ego is the problem. you're playing a playa on TV but not one inside where it counts.

daring her to hit up her rotation is like what a chick would say to a guy in a comfort test - don't act like a chick. (further: you effectively brought up exclusivity/the-relationship, a woman's perogative)

if you do not want an LTR (yet) you don't want an LTR, and she's a plate and what she does when she's not with you isn't your concern. do not LTR her to put her poon on lockdown, never works. only do it if she adds value to your life and it's what you want right now.

" should I see as a red flag and withdraw attention? " << for her doing what you suggested? see how retarded it was?

No, you should simply enjoy your time with her, while she's cooking for you in an apron and cleaning her ass-cavity for your junk. Enjoy the ride.

glowing_dolphins · 2021-04-28T15:24:49+00:00

It’s not a red flag to not be exclusive if you’re not exclusive.

Not sure what you expected.

Also, I would recommend doing whatever you want, but remembering the principles of TRP. Rollo is married. Who saw that coming in a trp bundle.

kclanton80 · 2021-04-28T17:03:50+00:00

You went too far. By telling her to see other guys....you confirmed you were seeing other girls. Never do this. It's supposed to be a mystery...you don't have to throw the no exclusively In their face. You got over confident

You messed this situation up a bit. Now she will be fielding other offers...

Play it cool and don't be so brash about seeing others in the future. If you really want the relationship then go for it soon. See if you can get her to bring it up again.

Though I recommend you spin until 30's or 40's.

chrischeungchug · 2021-04-29T05:28:27+00:00

Lol, you asked for it with the joke you made. She read the situation based on that.

You have to figure out what you want. If casual is fine, then who cares? If you want something more, you're going to have to show her that you value her enough.

Fart-_-Loud · 2021-04-28T14:43:37+00:00

Taking advantage is when someone says one thing and does another. She explicitly said she's not talking to other guy's and then you find out she's signing up for dating apps. Your life you decide your level of tolerance for dishonesty. I'm sure you can decide what to do next

Alittihad01 · 2021-04-28T14:53:39+00:00

Pump , dump .

feel , fuck , forget .

Hypnot0ad · 2021-04-28T16:49:26+00:00

> how she should just hit up her rotation when I'm out traveling

You literally told her to do this, why are you surprised?

Why do you care if you arent exclusive?

re0st92mg · 2021-04-28T17:26:46+00:00

I made a joke at one point about how she should just hit up her rotation when I'm out traveling (something like that) and she said she really isn't talking to other guys.

So you gave her a shit test... like a woman? LOL

AND You've never directly said anything about exclusivity, even though you actually want her to only see you.

You're using indirect communication, like a woman, and now you're confused and upset because things didn't go how you wanted. Think about that shit for a minute.

The only red flag I see here is you.

festiveowls · 2021-04-28T17:33:11+00:00

Behaviorism. It’s irrelevant that she says she’s not talking to other guys if she clearly is. That being said, why should you not be exclusive and she has to be?

stilldoingit0924 · 2021-04-28T21:07:35+00:00

I fucked up pretty bad and this post helped me get re-aligned, I appreciate learning this shit

themasterg69 · 2021-04-29T09:49:19+00:00

demote to anal only plate

Title	am i being dramatic or should i withdraw attention from a girl ive been casually vetting
Author	divorcedanon
Upvotes	6
Comments	35
Date	April 28, 2021 2:01 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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