Approaching made me feel even more insecure

alphaonthecomeup · 2021-01-04T19:54:44+00:00

First things first, fuck the results of the approaches.

Good shit on getting to a 100+ approaches.

Keep grinding. I’m 23 and still got a long way to go. You’re 20. Imagine the shit you’ll be doing 5 years if you keep doing what you’re doing. Don’t stress.

It’s a numbers game

Guybrush_Threepweed · 2021-01-04T19:25:05+00:00

Did you indeed get out of there after she said that? Because that was a shit test and it seems like you failed.

cfbovernfl · 2021-01-04T19:47:02+00:00

You are either lying about your appearance or are really socially impaired. 100 approaches and you couldn't get some dates? I'm not even white, 5'11 and close to every girl I approach I get a number and meet up with. You should also know that girls at our age don't give a shit about your university or internships.

Please, read the sidebar, work on what you're messing up and report back.

Women around me think im a player, but they dont give me action

This also doesn't make any sense. The definition of being a player is getting with lots of women. If you aren't doing so, you're not a player.

CombatPunk88 · 2021-01-04T20:13:25+00:00

Thanks for the info. Approaching girls on the street has a high chance of failure because she is on the go. This will naturally put you at a disadvantage, even if you're doing everything right. Try talking to girls at bars, cafes or even stores. Small talk is fine but keep it short and get to the point. Be relaxed but engaged. It helps to display your wit but don't be goofy. Get her number and get out. Hold your masculine frame to ace shit test. She may "have a boyfriend" but this can be a shit test. How you handle this should depend on your intentions and the amount of work you're willing to put in. Either way maintain an abundance mentality. She is just one of many women so who cares is she rejects you. Following this guideline should help your interactions. Women are complex so the more experience you have the more you can fine tune your game.

anyJose · 2021-01-05T00:16:46+00:00

Don’t do nofap bro it makes you look desperate as fuck and you might also be attracted to fat ugly girls cause that’s what happens when you do nofap your brain automatically lowers expectations.

deltaghost7 · 2021-01-04T19:53:02+00:00

If everything you said was true, there has to be something wrong with you man. Like you have to be a little retarded and act weird when approaching. Maybe your walk? the way you talk? or even the smile.

CombatPunk88 · 2021-01-04T19:40:33+00:00

Your approach obviously needs some work. What are you saying to them? How are you dressing? Where are you approaching them?

fuckfuckfuckfuckflck · 2021-01-04T20:30:46+00:00

Jesus dude reading that first sentence made me insecure

Casanova-Quinn · 2021-01-05T00:30:45+00:00

Based on what you've said, I can only guess that your "vibe" is off somehow. Maybe you're coming across as boring or intimidating. If girls see you as a player, you might have to act a little "nice guy" at the start of the interaction just to show her you're not another sleazy dude. You'll also likely have better luck with tall girls because of your height. Try experimenting with different approaches and see what works.

WIA20XX · 2021-01-05T00:55:56+00:00

> read both sidebars, TRM, NMMNG, Pook, 48 Laws, Meditations

What did you read about approaching, specifically?

DoubleConversation4 · 2021-01-04T19:37:10+00:00

keep approaching.

i think you're going through a temporary paralysis because of your good memory, and only way you can get out of this shit hole right now is to keep approaching. if you don't keep approaching, it's even possible that you might develop an inferiority complex out of this.

here are some questions for you:

how much time did it pass after your first approach to get to 100 approaches?
you might possibly have high IQ or autism. or nothing. any idea on that?

Dopaminedetoxing · 2021-01-04T21:34:24+00:00

Thats so coool dude keep it fucking up!! Quit being depressed! Im 18 and thst sounds like something I want to try at 20. How did you approach the girls? Like were they out on the street, at a bar?

And also, remember to be your mental point of origin. It takes balls what you did and unlike many in here you seen very genuine so don't give up yet. Focus on whats important: "chase excellence not women".

If you don't get pussy who cares? Convince your mind its some kind of fun training your are trying to do to build your social skills and then go back to your goals.

Aint an expert so dont take me 100% serious but maybe do it while hanging out with friends? (Experienced red pillers correct me if this is not good) but I think its a good idea to hang out with a couple of mates and then try to grt numbers from girls (obv not WITH your friends beside you). This is how I imagine it: a) im with my friends at a bar and I see a cute chick. b) I tell my friends that Im going to get her number and then approach her c) if I get it then I walk back and then make jokes about it with my friends and play it cocky. If she says no I joke about it with my friends too and go back to having fun with them.

You should be proud of yourself dude, I'm going to try that someday

VasiliyZaitzev · 2021-01-05T00:28:45+00:00

20yo, 6'6, 210lbs (lean but not ripped/jacked, lift/diet religiously), nofap for some months, white, groom really well (started being called good looking/handsome, but always had a masculine face)

Ok, so something else is going on. Either you come off as autistic or you are taking things waaaay to personally.

Here's a tip: Approach girls who are, at a minimum, 5'10" or 5'11" and up. You should absolutely slay in that demographic. I do and I'm only 6'2 (barely).

skyrunner22 · 2021-01-05T01:09:41+00:00

What actual game books have you read? Most what you posted were more RP based.. That will help more than anything, also what does your approach look like..

Like you are in mall, you see a girl, what do you do, say?

Imadeathtrap · 2021-01-05T02:53:51+00:00

You place a lot of value on action and I think you need to hear this:

Sex is NOT a reflection of your value as a person

The more you see sex or the amount of it as a measurement of how good/successful/wanted you are the more it will ironically screw you over.

Keep working on yourself and try to realise that progress and trying to progress in becoming a better person (based on your values) is where you'll start to fill that void from experience and seeing others dot it. See a therapist if need to help teach you to take pride in being on your own team. External validation is needed but you have far less control over it outside of making yourself a better person and surrounding yourself with good people.

brave_snow02 · 2021-01-05T01:06:44+00:00

Maybe you sound insecure when you approach

Title	Approaching made me feel even more insecure
Author	OneMeltdown
Upvotes	12
Comments	54
Date	January 4, 2021 7:15 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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