Blue pill boyfriend

Johnny10toes · 2014-07-17T15:34:31+00:00

Go to the Married Man Sex Life blog. Get the book and give it to him. It's going to take a lot of self awareness on your part to not self sabotage him. Note that your man is betaing himself out of love for you. He thinks it's the way to your heart because that's what your telling him. Now we know different and he should know too.

nicethingyoucanthave · 2014-07-17T19:03:50+00:00

As an experiment, what do you think would happen if you tried to be more feminine yourself? If you needed to lean on him a bit more just because he was a guy, would he step up?

Just to pick a very trivial thing, what if you started asking him to open jars for you? I mean, you're a big girl and you can open a fucking jar, right? But just to see what would happen, what if you asked him to open it for you? For bonus points, what if you did it very sweetly and then thanked him afterward - maybe throw in a kiss?

This is an incredibly trivial, perhaps even laughable example. It's just what popped into my head.

The theory that you'd be testing here is that you can make him feel useful because he's a man and that perhaps that frame of mind will engender behavior changes that you're looking for. Think of it this way, if you're in the kitchen today and he walks by, what if anything goes through his head? The answer is, not much. "She's in the kitchen." That's about it. But if you start arranging things so that he's thinking, "I'm her man and I help with X, Y, and Z because of that" then, the theory goes, he'll start filling that role.

Just something to consider.

Old_Pine_Tree · 2014-07-17T16:11:34+00:00

That's really tricky. Encourage him to go to the gym, or depending on what kind of a man he is, tell him that he needs to start losing the gut because it is unattractive and breaking the 'rules' of your arrangement.

Another possible tact is to positively reinforce his masculine qualities and activities while ignoring the more 'beta' behaviours that you actively dislike.

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asd1100 · 2014-07-17T18:39:46+00:00

(which I had to chase off during the beginning of our relationship

NO, never do that again, you get banned for that in my book

Tell him, listen motherfucker you turned into a fat pussy, and the thought of touching your nice guy dick make me trow up, start acting like a man because I want to love you but all your wimping makes it impossible for me so man up or I'll go all hypergamous on you and even make you watch.

Of course you can slowly push him to be more assertive but blue pill relationships are basicly free rides for men to be women. They get some sex, you are empowered so you know all the moves, they can be as passive as a dog and take literally no risk. Every issue is discussed in the open and you basically tell them "how to boyfriend"-

captainbloodd · 2014-07-17T16:34:10+00:00

So who's walked into the picture recently? A co-worker? Classmate? Guy you met at the gym?

redpillshadow · 2014-07-17T15:56:10+00:00

He already knows about trp and openly mocks it, so any obvious rp advice will be immediately shot down by him.

Same for any non obvious rp pointer. You can't even give him low level books or websites. He will recognize them.

The best way is just tell him that you think red pill would help and that he seriously should consider it. At that point the question isn't anymore whether he takes the red pill. It is when he takes it. Still in a relationship with you or after you dumped him.

Another way would be making yourself more red pill (as in /r/redpillwomen) but since he mocks trp he will try his best to avoid trp behavior and that makes it unlikely that he'll slip back into alpha this way.

Terrribleusername · 2014-07-17T16:14:04+00:00

Trp is a nothing but open discussion and knowledge of women's mating strategy. What we are observing here is nothing but your own hypergamy. While it would be in his best interest to be the most attractive he can be do not think that it is your right.

mojokabobo · 2014-07-17T21:27:33+00:00

It sounds like he's in a similar situation to the way I was about 8 months ago. I was overweight and my sex drive just wasn't what it was when I was younger.

Ageless Male has worked wonders for me. I lost about 35 pounds the first few months that I was on it, have kept it off since then, and I feel like I'm 17 again. Get him some.

ConfidenceMatters · 2014-07-17T22:36:20+00:00

Sounds like a cry for attention, like you're secretly hoping to get seduced by some TRPer off here or something because it's much more difficult for you to snag a quality Man in real life. No offense.

I have been with my current boyfriend for over a year and I want to spend the rest of my life with him.

You say that, then you contradict that completely with

I have to keep chasing away thoughts that he's not good enough

and the gem

and I find myself feeling tempted by other men.

Hun if that truly was the case then you would have already jumped ship with one of the ''other Men'' who are worthy (I know they are worthy because you said yourself that you are ''TEMPTED'' by them, meaning they are attractive). NO woman stays in a relationship where they are not happy, no matter what, if they truly had other potential quality suitors. Hypergamy & tingles is the only moral code women operate on, all other moral codes come secondary.

This leads me to conclude that no, other ''alphas" are really not trying to commit to you so you are stuck with your beta BF.

My advice? Read /r/RedPillWomen and truly become a girl a quality Man would commit to and then you can upgrade.

Other clues of your low value: you are on the internet sniping about your alleged "significant other's" flaws behind his back instead of talking to him about it.

DanG3 · 2014-07-17T20:06:33+00:00

Well ... Standard Operating Procedure in these LTR situations (with the female trying to get the male to be a Man) is to cut him off - no sex until he Mans up and starts getting his Man shit back together. The problem being that he is not taking you seriously and you need to get his attention. AND, it's a very truthful approach - he's really not doing it for you, so WTF, why "lie" and give him sex he doesn't deserve? It works chemically too because during/after sex the man's body gets flooded with "cozy chemicals" that can make him too comfortable.

kick6 · 2014-07-17T20:16:42+00:00

http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/2013/02/girl-game-extend-invitation.html

The_CEO_of_Beta · 2014-07-18T02:25:16+00:00

It's an unfortunate culture we live in.

Men are expected to be these unbreakable bastions of strength with no flaws or any obstacles. Superheroes in their own way. Men are objectified in this way in the same way women are objectified sexually.

But men are people too, and when we reveal our flaws, our cracks, our weaknesses, then we lose that grandeur of being powerful, invincible.

It's tricky in your situation because my cousin ended up divorcing her husband who fits the same description as your current boyfriend. She loved that he was a sweet nice guy but hated that he constantly needed motivation and that he wasn't nearly as successful/productive as others his age.

Her last words on the marriage before it ended was, "I love him to death, but if I have to push him to succeed then I cannot respect him, and I cannot love a man that I do not respect."

EducatedCavemen · 2014-07-18T04:55:30+00:00

He already knows about trp and openly mocks it, so any obvious rp advice will be immediately shot down by him.

If he only knew that his woman is asking US for advice.

Naaaah screw rpw. Those ladies have every right to live however they choose, but I'm still a feminist at heart, and would absolutely hate living that lifestyle. I want my boyfriend to be my captain and my alpha, but not my slave driver lol. I will certainly try to act more submissive and encourage his alpha behaviors.

Don't be so naive, you don't know what RPW is about and you're already putting it down. Why don't you ask them for help before you discard them.

To be honest, there is nothing YOU can do for HIM.

ArcadeGoon · 2014-07-18T05:53:30+00:00

You want him to improve but how have you imporved yourself?

x3oo · 2014-07-17T23:32:09+00:00

can you proof that your you? just want to prohibit undercover pr ;-)

Title	Blue pill boyfriend
Author	Terrribleusername
Upvotes	16
Comments	47
Date	July 17, 2014 3:22 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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