Dealing with shitty SMV while young?

MarriedRP · 2014-08-16T07:42:27+00:00

You do NOT "deal with it". Get out there and MAKE something of yourself.

Affirmations are by definition feel-good bullshit. Stop dealing with it by waiting for something to happen.

Be good looking. You can't change your face, but you can improve your complexion if that's a problem, contacts or stylish glasses if you have bad eyes. Spend $50 on a haircut, just to see how it improves your looks.

Get fashion advice. Stop "being your own you" or whatever bullshit keeps you in camo cargo pants and ironic video game t shirts.

Work out. Just fucking work out.

Do interesting things. Do not watch others do them on TV. Go out and play golf, or climb rocks, or play chess, or apply for jobs / post-grad positions that are way out of your league, or throw a dart at a map and get there by any means necessary; hiking, swimming, trespassing. Something you can speak passionately about. The only guy in the room who can get chicks by saying "what do I like doing? oh y'know, hanging out with friends, listening to music, just chilling" is Brad Pitt. And you ain't no Brad Pitt.

RaymondCarversDog · 2014-08-16T05:11:43+00:00

Most people have a pretty shitty SMV when they are young, especially while in college. Enjoy yourself by all means--work on your socializing, try to get laid as much as you can, practice TRP stuff, whatever. But most of all focus on yourself. College is probably the most opportune time for self-improvement. Get fit, make friends, get hobbies, work towards getting a good job, learn how to talk to attractive women. What you're doing right now will go a long way towards having a higher SMV in the near future. You could be a lot worse off.

CishetScum · 2014-08-16T05:48:16+00:00

Try to be a better version of yourself everyday. Honestly, its the simplest thing. You just need to internalize the reward of improvement.

TRP often talks about lifting, especially for SMV. Fuck that. Lift to meet benchmarks. Get a 1:1 bench, 1.5:1 squat, 2:1 deadlift. Then lift for a 1.5:1 bench, 2:1 squat, etc.

Take the same approach with other things, and stop giving a shit about what other people (especially women) are doing. Its along the lines of MGTOW.

The neat thing is, once you do this, SMV will just naturally increase. Just focus on building yourself.

lloopy · 2014-08-16T12:38:10+00:00

This is a straight copy-paste from Dan Savage. Dan Savage is a gay advice columnist, but this advice is universal, and right up TRP's alley.

"You're having a hard time getting girls. That sucks. I remember what it was like when I was a young teenager and wanted boys and couldn't get any. It sucked. But the sad fact is that most young teenage boys are repulsive—that is, they are half-formed works in progress. Girls mature physically more quickly than boys, which means most girls your age already look like young women and they're generally attracted to (slightly) older boys—and there you are, aching for your first girlfriend, but still looking like a short, hairless chimp.

But don't despair, HUTB. Your awkward/repulsive stage will pass. In the meantime, here's what you need to do: Worry less about getting your young teenage self laid and start thinking about getting your 18- or 20-year-old self laid. Join a gym and get yourself a body that girls will find irresistible, read—read books—so that you'll have something to say to girls (the best way to make girls think you're interesting is to actually be interesting), and get out of the house and do shit—political shit, sporty shit, arty shit—so that you'll meet different kinds of girls in different kinds of settings and become comfortable talking with them.

Some more orders: Get a decent haircut and use deodorant and floss your teeth and take regular showers and wear clean clothes. Go online and read about birth control and STIs, and learn enough about female anatomy that you'll be able to find a clitoris in the dark. Masturbate in moderation—no more than 10 times a day—and vary your masturbatory routine. I can't emphasize this last point enough. A vagina does not feel like a clenched fist, HUTB, nor does a mouth, an anus, titty fucking, dry humping, or e-stim. If you don't want to be sending me another pathetic letter in five years complaining about your inability to come unless you're beating your own meat, HUTB, you will vary your routine now so that you'll be able to respond to different kinds of sexual stimulation once you do start getting the girls.

Good luck, kiddo."

p3riod · 2014-08-16T07:38:30+00:00

hey man lots of people say smv is only determined by money, but imo that is bullshka and an excuse. Grab yourself by the nuts and go make friends with some girls. don't even worry about fucking them, just talk to them first. Youre in fucking college bro. that gives you a leg up compared to the rest of the world. and on top of that, youre not studying some bullshit like psych or soc, you are an engineer major. In college, you literally should not give one single fuck about getting rejected, poontang rains at the university. hot girls travel in packs, and being seen with hot girls raises your smv, even if you arent banging them. my first year in school i had a girlfriend, the second year i was swimming in freshman puss. go out and make friends with as many girls as you can right away. everyone likes meeting people and making friends, and the first week is when cliques are made. meet 10 people a day, get their number, and kick it with them after class. then pick the ones you like, and form your own clique. if you bring everyone together, you will be the amog. and you can take your pick of the flock. fuck what all these other bitches are telling you, have confidence, make eye contact, and smile. just go up to people, and say 1. whats good, 2. i like your shirt(example it can be anything) 3. what did you think of this prof(or school, or city if they are from out of state). You need some confidence man, fake it till you make it. make the most of this first week man, i am telling you, it is the most important time of the year.

edit: and lift! get a whiteboard and put your self improvement on it, and mount it on your wall. it makes a great conversation piece too

jdoe5 · 2014-08-16T12:10:23+00:00

I'm in the EXACT same situation, would love an answer as well. Stay strong brother.

asd1100 · 2014-08-16T08:51:14+00:00

it sucks knowing that none of them(other than the whales) want you and probably see you as "marriage material."

have they told you that?
fuck a whale, learn how cunty and insecure women can be, they are great for learning how to lead, getting rid of a scarcity mentality, and you can experiment without giving a fuck about the outcome in fact, FUCK EVERYTHING that is open for business, you can't afford to be choosy nevermind judgemental at your age.

After each storm comes a rainbow, but only if you don't bitch out and leave the town.

Who gives a fuck about rainbows? does your dick need leprechaun to get hard? Fuck during a storm dude! And when the rainbow does come , make love with the damn leprechaun.

Why not leave town? Just by sheer numbers you qualify as fuckable by more women in a city than in a small town. Grow motherfucker, don't let anything stop you, friends family your uncle Jeb, whatever it is, you owe yourself growth.

frequentlywrong · 2014-08-16T09:37:07+00:00

Do you lift? Do you do martial arts? Why is your SMV low?

Young chicks want fun, confident guys. Douche bags are young and confident, this is why they are successful with girls. You don't have to be a douche bag, neither do you have to be rich or have a career. Lifting will take care of looking good, martial arts will give you a ton of confidence. What remains is being fun. That isn't hard unless you have confidence issues. But martial arts take care of that. Seriously take up martial arts.

Don't look for chicks your age. Look for younger ones (not too young obviously).

Is there a reason you're learning Spanish? It won't really do anything for your SMV. In the long run lifting and martial arts will serve you way, way more.

[deleted] · 2014-08-16T11:09:54+00:00

So you say it's been about 6 months since you discovered TRP. Have you started lifting? I was in your position for a while and I went into monk mode and just focused on myself. I started working out, dieting, playing basketball for fun, reading, and hanging out with my friends more without worrying about women and I became a much more social and better person in the long run. If you don't change yourself, the rest of your life won't change either.

CaptainFalconer · 2014-08-16T11:42:27+00:00

Remember, the game is to convince her subconscious brain, not her logical brain.

Just get to the gym and lift, and study how to get some fashionable clothes/hair. Maybe grow some facial hair if you can rock it. Study pickup game. And have a strong circle of friends that make it seem like you are "a well respected member of a tribe".

And that's about it.

And girls are often able to take a "future mechanical engineer" as status enough. She mostly just needs a story to tell her girlfriends that she's dating a quality guy.

n0c0ntr0l · 2014-08-16T14:50:29+00:00

You clearly aren't lifting. If you were you wouldn't have any issues getting tail in college.

Go lift!

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charai_life · 2014-08-16T07:34:04+00:00

You can have high SMV through having potential and passion. That's why a starving artist who lives in a shit apartment but spends his time following his dream can have higher SMV than a guy who may be making more money living in normal accommodation working at a supermarket full time.

Remember that you are pursuing what you want in life and women can come along for the ride and to vicariously feel your passion for whatever your goals are. Don't live for women.

sparkleselite · 2014-08-16T04:22:57+00:00

Cold hard truth is gonna be that your SMV is going to be shit until you build yourself a decent career that pays well.

Title	Dealing with shitty SMV while young?
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Date	August 16, 2014 4:03 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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