How can I stop talking?

PragmaticRedTruth · 2016-03-16T04:17:25+00:00

Mindfulness.

Become aware of your reality and actions. Notice when you're getting the urge to speak and calm yourself with breathing. Accept that you want to speak, but do not allow yourself to say anything.

You should also try not saying much of anything for a few days and see how you feel. Limit yourself to X amount of words for just a couple days so you can count them on two hands and get more in control of your speech.

There are 1000 reasons to do this. You need to be mindful of what you're saying... Delivering a message in the least amount of words, or not at all, when the time is right. Focus on your breathing in this time and release the urge to speak by accepting that it is your desire.

AFPJ · 2016-03-16T06:51:42+00:00

How can I naturally speak less and think more about what I say

Calm the fuck down. Lift heavy things, eat good food, sleep enough, breathe properly (slowly, with your belly). At work it's risky to talk about anything meaningful. Watch the news / sports / whatever it is your work crowd is into. Limit yourself those subjects to ensure a professionally conducive and personally relatable / positive conversations.

Being well-liked at work IS PART OF YOUR JOB if you ever want a raise / promotion / other advancement. Do that consistently for a while and people will eventually unwittingly let you know where they stand ...unless you do first.

DoctorKahn · 2016-03-17T01:14:06+00:00

Before you go in to a social situation, try telling yourself that you'll only say positive things all night. No negativity whatsoever. It gets easier with time.

RPFierce · 2016-03-17T01:11:32+00:00

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tempusers · 2016-03-17T00:15:40+00:00

Law 38: Think as you like, but behave like others.
Colloquially "when in Rome". Don't publicly express disdain for the courtiers around you.

Macrolord · 2016-03-16T07:47:21+00:00

Introspection.

You might be wanting to proselytize because you have a deep-seated insecurity of your intelligence.

Hone in on those insecurities, find the root, and strike.

Extreme pain and languishing is to be expected.

But once you overcome, you'll be a phoenix reborn.

_red_carpet · 2016-03-16T14:09:30+00:00

Think about the consequences. Instill that fear before you go out.

Rambling on about men's rights and implying every girl at the party or whatever is a slut is going to kill the mood and people won't want to be around you. Doing it at work will make you less likeable and less promotable.

It's not easy, but it's simple. Just shut the fuck up and learn some self control. You're telling me you can't stop your mouth from babbling? Maybe read some redpillwomen posts about shutting up and not talking.

LongLiveRedPill · 2016-03-16T16:40:04+00:00

Meditation. You'll have more control over your thoughts and will help fix the urge to "spit it all out"

huge_gap · 2016-03-16T17:41:15+00:00

I think most guys go thru a phase where they are excited about the truth of trp and want to share their knowledge. Keep it to yourself.

If you can't, your friends will start to discredit you and label you as a woman-hater. Keep all discourse about women, sexual strategy, and TRP under wraps.

Just be mindful about thinking before you speak.

Further on not talking a lot, I've noticed it gives girls major mystery tingles when you are thoughtful about what you say (pausing, taking time to answer, not offering much info about what you're thinking or who you are).

It's a learned skill. You will kick yourself a few times after realizing you were stupid saying something. It takes practice and aperception.

Caucasian-African · 2016-03-16T23:03:24+00:00

Here is what I do. If I actually blab about something, I'll immediately follow up with something to balance it out (even if I don't believe the 2nd thing I say).

If I'm at Work in mixed company, and I say, "Obama's fiscal policy is a disaster... the smallest budget deficit during his administration is 2x any previous administration's largest budget deficit. (This is true, by the way).

I'll instantly think to myself, "Damn, I shouldn't have said that".

So, I'll immediately follow up with, "Then again, all of this big spending started during the bush Presidency."

That might work for you. It works for me!

Sir_Distic · 2016-03-17T00:32:01+00:00

I'm working on this myself.

What's helping me is the advice to pause before speaking. Take a few seconds. If it's a question than repeat the question in your mind.

Take a moment to collect your thoughts. Try to maintain an air of mystery.

Title	How can I stop talking?
Author	RPFierce
Upvotes	7
Comments	28
Date	March 16, 2016 3:47 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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