How do I become less emotional?

DoIEvenLift111 · 2018-07-12T00:05:31+00:00

if you're talking about going from a boy to a man, you gotta go through adversity. That's just how it is. Go through some serious shit in your life until you reach your "Fuck it" point. That's not to say you need to purposefully fuck up your own life, youll have your own shit to go through as you get older, but do shit that's challenging and keep going. Learn to fight. Learn to win fights. Learn to climb mountains and to win in competitive team events. If shit's hard but you have to do it to reach your goals, then do it. It squeezes the bitching out of the men.

Be the guy who looks at other men-children with pity. "i can't even go to the gym and fix my fat ass t_t". you're gonna find these sorta people disgusting because of how weak they are. If there's something in life worth going for then go for it.

RedPillD · 2018-07-11T23:39:59+00:00

Do you exercise? Exercise plays a big role in my mental health.

CeremonyTree · 2018-07-12T00:33:28+00:00

Were you raised with your father in your life, or just your mother? This may play a large role in the adult you've become.

tikitheman · 2018-07-11T23:48:16+00:00

Get your T levels checked. Being overly emotional was a symptom of my low T. I probably had high estrogen and low T

DoubleOsiete · 2018-07-12T00:29:13+00:00

First off, displaying emotions in public and in front of women is a big problem(unless its laughter and happiness). Build, build, build, if you do not have a hormonal imbalance than I would assume you have a shitty life. No offense meant, but if you are mad, and emotional all of the time then I would be willing to bet that you have a lot of stuff going wrong or that you have had it to easy in life and when you were emotional and threw tantrums as a child no one kicked your ass.

Get your hormones checked.

Solution, become more manly. Lift weights, build confidence through struggle. BJJ is perfect, practice, compete and build a name for yourself at your gym. Work everyday to become better at controlling your weaknesses. Realize how absurd you must look when you display your emotions to people when your responsibility is to be a rock.

Find one close confidant who preferably is a male and can walk you through bad times and give you some great advice.

Something I tell my sons all the time, "You never cry in front of girls."

We have high expectations of you live up to them.

JamesP2018 · 2018-07-12T01:04:57+00:00

Through pain.

heyuguyzbrekfazt · 2018-07-12T01:26:52+00:00

You become less emotional by being in shitty situations, or just having to go through pain. Prime example: being in the military, deploying to Afghanistan and seeing some shit. Or by doing extreme things/sports, such as sky diving, riding motorcycles in an unsafe manner, scuba diving with sharks, so on. Go hiking and camping in the woods for a week straight with nothing but a ruck sack/back pack full of supplies and a tent. Go to a gun range and learn to shoot with precision while people are blasting the fuck away on a rifle beside you. Learn how to fly a plane and realize your dumbass has complete control over you living or dying. Go to the gym and get your emotions out with some heavy lifting or on the bag. Run for miles on end without giving up, even when you want to and you feel the pain.

Once you go through all these crazy situations, you stop getting excited/emotional over the small shit.

Velebit · 2018-07-12T00:51:02+00:00

You are high on neuroticism and that is a personality trait, generally extremely hard to change but diminishes with age.

redd_reality · 2018-07-12T03:02:03+00:00

I've found the times in my life where I've been most emotional were times when I was suffering from trauma. Basically, I had issues I wasn't dealing with and actively repressing without even being aware I was repressing them.

Getting to the root of the issues, releasing the emotions and working towards righting the wrongs in my life cleared up my tendency to become emotional over small, seemingly trivial shit.

So, my advice for you would be to sit down and determine if there is any trauma in your life thay j's aggravating you and talk to a therapist to clear it up. After that, you need to live a life worth living. If you exist each day without balancing yourself to the desires of your soul, you will be an angry, resentful and emotional man. You need to take responsibility for this and work at building whatever hobbies or cultivating whatever experiences is necessary for you to wake up each day feeling food about yourself as soon as you open your eyes.

Lastly, don't be so hard on yourself. This question you asked points to life's purpose imo. It is self mastery which we are all working towards whether we are aware of it or not.

NextForever · 2018-07-12T04:02:36+00:00

obsessing over surfing/my art helps

Morphs_ · 2018-07-12T05:13:05+00:00

Hardship is the key. Challenge yourself. A big challenge for me was the Win Hof Iceman training I did in Poland in December. Learning to deal with the cold. We meditated in ice water, which feels like thousand needles pierce the skin, we climbed a mountain wearing shorts and no shirt, with a freezing temperature that felt like -34. Doing stuff like this will make you stronger, it's what men do.

nemege · 2018-07-12T07:04:07+00:00

if you are regularly fapping, stop it. it may sound weird but it helps.

resnine · 2018-07-12T01:13:21+00:00

I agree with everything being said here. Lift, get your T levels/hormones checked, go through some hard shit in life(get your ass kicked at Bjj), inspect your neuroticism. All of this is great advice. The one thing I would add is see a therapist. They can open doors for you that you didn't know where there. Do everything that has been said and also therapy.

Dr_Cocktor_PHD · 2018-07-12T02:54:25+00:00

What the others have commented are pretty good, but I'm going to also recommend something, that is often overlooked: if you're taking anything check the fuck out of it, whether it's a supplement for lifting or medicine or whatever.

I was taking a supplement for lifting, specifically testosterone boosting (mine is on the lower side), it was DAA Pro to be specific, and fuck it made me so emotional, I got randomly depressed, I totally lost control over my emotions. Then I looked up forums, and saw it happent to others as well, so I dropped it and instantly got so much better. Also some medications can cause mood swings and stuff like that, like the pills I need to take for my skin has "mood swings, depression" listed as side effects. So you may want to look into stuff you're taking if you're taking.

Thunderfin · 2018-07-12T06:34:21+00:00

The last part you've got to fix, but showing emotions (I'm not sure exactly what you mean though, expanding would be helpful) is better than being a robot. True alpha men have emotions and aren't afraid to express them. I respect a Marcus Smart hell of a lot more than a Kawhi Leonard, any day of the week.

Rndm_010 · 2018-07-12T12:41:40+00:00

Meditation and Stoicism

boy_named_su · 2018-07-12T18:21:19+00:00

Read some Epictetus and Marcus Aurelius

It isn’t the events themselves that disturb people, but only their judgements about them

Epictetus

Title	How do I become less emotional?
Author	CeremonyTree
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Date	July 11, 2018 11:18 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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