how to interact with old oneitis without coming off as butthurt

comcain · 2020-07-02T02:18:57+00:00

If you're in a different place psychologically in yourself, you might swing it. It sounds like you have a ways to go, though, honestly.

If she makes orbiter noises, ghost her. But if she's up for Wine and Netflix, give her a chance. She does sound interested. Now, decide: are you interested? Can you maintain frame for the incoming airstrike napalming of shit tests as she find out if you've truly changed?

Good luck, brother.

Cheers

spider_1337 · 2020-07-02T02:47:44+00:00

If she texts you to hangout, and you want to move on without looking butthurt.

"Listen it was great catching up, but I am just way to busy these days

Wish you all the best"

I think this would show that you're indifferent, but also that you have an awesome life.

If you want to fuck tread carefully and the second she plays games. Dip.

Personally I'd rather move on.

alfred311 · 2020-07-02T04:32:03+00:00

Being butthurt is a state of mind, lot of people here said dont block your ex, reply to your ex if she text you, talk to your ex, be happy with your ex or else you will look butthurt. I say do whatever you want, i honestly dont care what my ex think. Ill only fuck my ex if she comes crawling back aside from that no fucking way. Why do you want to fuck your ex where you can fuck a brand new chick, no abundance perhaps? Move on and forget about her.

Next time you see her ignore her, in 48 laws of power it says that the greatest revenge is to ignore her. Think of her as she is already dead and doesnt exists anymore. You dont need to tell her that you are alpha and how awesome you are right now.

glowing_dolphins · 2020-07-02T10:43:49+00:00

Genuinely, seduce her. Wine, old stories, look how far we’ve come, standard game.

If it works, and it 100% will, absolute craic, major headfuck, daemons excised.

If it doesn’t, then you’re not looking for friends. Sorry for the misunderstanding. It was great catching up. Bye. Don’t orbit.

Remember LMR. There may be some. Keep frame.

It will probably not be as good as you expect physically, but it’ll be a fun tick box.

Remember to fuck her. You’re not there to beta about. Get into it. Have fun.

alex_de_tampa · 2020-07-02T02:36:35+00:00

Just wait for her to text you first. Set a date for later in the week. On text her in regards to the meeting. No chit chat. If she’s reluctant to have drinks.dont respond for atleast a month.

spider_1337 · 2020-07-02T06:03:10+00:00

It's going to be hard at first. It may even take years of raising your SMV and realizing abundance before you can truly be indifferent to your old oneitis.

It took me probably 3 years before I was able to truly be utterly indifferent when I saw my old oneitis.

Smuggler-Tuek · 2020-07-02T14:13:31+00:00

The fact that you are concerned at all with how she perceives you says you are firmly still in her frame. Run away from this at all costs. You aren’t mentally resilient enough.

kriskros18 · 2020-07-02T12:58:31+00:00

...that’s 3 years she’s been riding the CC.

Is this notch really worth the price?

rnsbrum · 2020-07-02T12:41:41+00:00

Shit. The correct approach would be to just let her come for you, make her thirsty or indifferent. But, as I know myself, and I know that you will probably be the same, you will fall for a trap and if you are not careful, go back to those days filled with dread and depression that a oneitis gives you.

I'd say to myself to stay away, because oneitis is like an injury, it slowly gets into your life and then puts you off track for SEVERAL months, but I know that I would ignore whatever the fuck I am saying to myself, because I AM the champion, and I will get everything that I want.

huey764 · 2020-07-02T13:02:52+00:00

The question is not how do I not come off as butthurt.

The question is how do I avoid being butthurt?

This, my friend, I cannot answer for you. You must fulfill yourself and find that answer by yourself.

Ultimately, the choice is yours. Do what you want. Just no beta shit tho.

NiceSetupYeahNice · 2020-07-02T14:39:20+00:00

You sound like a female playing games when you say "brush it off". Why? Why act like you feel one way and do another.

2020-07-02T14:52:42+00:00

I would ask her out again, if you want to. If she says no, make it clear you don't want to be friends.

MattyAnon · 2020-07-02T17:05:56+00:00

her asking for my number.

"Here's my snap".

Bungeeeeee · 2020-07-02T19:26:49+00:00

If you truly changed like you are saying, you would fuck without much thinking and wouldn't write this post, or you wouldn't because you are fucking other plates and don't have time, but might give her a chance if she is persistent. If you are not plating, get on it, or you might develop oneitis for her again.

Sylvester_Sterone · 2020-07-02T21:40:00+00:00

Expose yourself to other situations and adventures with women then it won’t bother you. It’s great when you bump into past ones that let themselves go or are now hitched to some fatass numale.

spider_1337 · 2020-07-02T02:08:09+00:00

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Title	how to interact with old oneitis without coming off as butthurt
Author	spider_1337
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Date	July 2, 2020 1:51 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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