I can never get a second or third date.

weiry6922 · 2016-05-06T05:34:49+00:00

Sex/ass and tit grabbing on the very first date is a good way to tell these girls you only want to fuck.

Maybe try taking them on a fun spontaneous date and do a activity instead of going to get drinks and then banging in your car. You will probably have to change your tactics a bit to attract a LTR as opposed to just fucking the girls.

SarsaparillaCorona · 2016-05-06T04:58:36+00:00

Second or third, make your mind up.

Online dating apps are your main problem, you're not a supplicating cuck, so as soon as they realise you don't want casual sex but a real relationship shock shock they run because it's easier to find another guy.

One of the endorsed contributors said the best place to find long term partners are those doing grocery shopping on a sunday morning, shows they're dependable, don't go out partying and have a sense of self.

Basically, look for the woman you want in the places she'll be.

thisismyaccount51 · 2016-05-06T05:11:31+00:00

How do the first dates go? How strong are you coming on?

Personally I think most people guys or girls would be off put by someone even mentioning a relationship on the first date. Not saying you are but you mentioned that's your goal. Is it possible you give off that vibe?

stickfiguresk · 2016-05-06T09:15:33+00:00

They're, "just being theirselves" while you need to be trying to fuck. If you hesitate, they'll assume you're gay or low quality. Have a plausable excuse for you two to be near a bed, for instance:

"Can I use your bathroom?"

"I just got the new (anything). Care to see it?" - movie, vacation pictures, trophies, whatevers interesting that'd lure her to your place.

"I actually ordered a pizza before I came out and met you. Care to have some? My place is just over there."

And for the grand, holy grail of bait, "Wanna smoke some weed?"

And for what I think would probably be just as effective, but weird(so probably all the more effective), "I just bought too much sushi. Care to have some?"

I've been on about 150 online dates. I learned the hard way that hoes are just, "being themselves", DTF and waiting for dudes to be cool and willing to take them. No matter what their profile essays suggest, they're all the same.

nygeHuston · 2016-05-06T06:18:29+00:00

What exactly happens? Do they not respond to texts after the first date? What do you do on your first dates, and how do they usually end?

JourneymanTRP · 2016-05-06T12:11:13+00:00

You've lost 100 pounds in 3 years. Do you have loose skin around your stomach that these women are seeing?

That would seem like an obvious reason, albeit one you arent going to be able to do much about

PemBayliss · 2016-05-06T14:52:59+00:00

This thing right here should help you out.

At the top of my differential diagnosis is that your game is suffering somewhere here. There's something you're not doing well here.

You're getting most of these dates from online dating, so you're good looking enough. My guess is that many of these women are looking for hookups and want you to progress to rapid sex. You, on the other hand, don't want that. Consider that you're holding back too much. If a girl on the second date is making out with you and you're not closing the deal, she might think you're too much of a pussy to follow through.

Consider that the girls you're getting with in online dating are just looking for hookups, and aren't the type you want for an LTR.

Try this on your next online date. IF the chemistry is good, and you're getting into one of your passionate makeout sessions, you progress to sex. IF she says no, then OK, but if you're progressing to sex, you've got some evidence that these girls are expecting you to move even more rapidly and assertively than you are. Next time, step on the gas and go for it, and go as far as she'll let you without stopping you.

Consider that if you want an LTR, online dating with sluts who want to fuck you on the second or third date might not be the best route to take. If they're fucking you on the second or third date... how do you think they got to be that way?

MattyAnon · 2016-05-06T17:57:27+00:00

I mainly use online dating apps.

I'm fucking funny,

Don't be a dancing monkey for them. You want to be SEXUAL. Funny is awesome and super attractive to women... but you have to make sure there is a sexual vibe because that's what horny girls are looking for, and that's how you filter out the provider hunters and time wasters. I think you've got that if you say you're good at kino and grabbing them.

Hard to tell exactly what the problem is, but some suggestions:

You come across as a ONS guy rather than a sticking-around-guy
They're intimidated and don't think you'll stick around
You sex them good, but don't maintain sexual tension.
Wrong women (fix by meeting in real life rather than dating apps).

http://www.blackdragonblog.com/2011/11/13/20-first-date-rules-for-men/

See rule 10.

And do lose the small amount of excess fat. Might as well be top 5% there as well as in height.

FrameWalker · 2016-05-06T18:21:02+00:00

. I'm good at kino, always ends in a passionate makeout.

Try no making out until theres fucking. Tone the kino way down. Give some early in the date and then back off. Af the end of the date invite her over. When its time to fuck you kiss just befofe.

To get second date make them cum hard. Good fucking will keep them coming back for more

Title	I can never get a second or third date.
Author	ReddThrowaway123456
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Date	May 6, 2016 4:45 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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