I'm 22. What should I be doing?

ramaga · 2016-02-13T15:05:22+00:00

I'm double your age, and how I wish I could go back to 22 knowing what I know now.

From what you're describing, it sounds like you're on the right track. One thing you did not mention is your education. By education, I do not mean formal schooling, though school is a good thing as long as you are studying something useful and you do not go into massive debt to attend. But, even if you do not wish to pursue an advanced degree, read, read, read. I cannot emphasize that enough. Everything in life is better if you are educated, and the best way to get an education is reading. If you don't like to read, get over it. I did not like going to the gym at first years ago, but now I love it and it's an integral part of my life. Start with reading a newspaper every day, but not just any paper. Local papers (unless your local paper happens to be the New York Times) tend to be just gossip writ large and rubbish. If you are in the U.S., I'd suggest getting a digital subscription to either the NYTimes or the Wall Street Journal. If you aren't in the U.S., read the biggest and best paper in your country.

Also, read books. Non-fiction is best, but you can hardly go wrong reading great fiction.

Finally, regarding your plate spinning, wear a condom and do it EVERY SINGLE TIME. If a girl tells you she's "clean" or that she's on the pill or some other form of birth control, tell her you believe her, tell yourself you don't, and wrap your dick up. Remember, AWALT. Wearing a condom doesn't feel as good as going raw of course, but a fleeting pleasurable sensation is not worth an STD or, maybe worse, getting a girl knocked up when you did not intend to. Now that I think about it, an unintended pregnancy is arguably the worst sexually transmitted disease.

If you have friends who are trustworthy and loyal, treat them well. A true friend is rarer than gold, and much more valuable.

That's all I can think of off the top of my head that others haven't mentioned. Have fun, but most importantly, go out and make some shit happen. Other men have done it. Why not you?

50pluspiller · 2016-02-13T11:51:12+00:00

You should be improving yourself mentality, emotionally and work on a high paying vocation, either your own business or successful companies. If you have not graduated, then collegd is a focus.

Read and internalize the sidebar.

SunnyFoxes · 2016-02-14T01:54:27+00:00

Seek Knowledge...

Knowledge is Power!

If you know something that does not make you more powerful, then it is NOT Knowledge, it is a useless or harmful factoid or a false belief.

Knowledge, by its nature, MUST make you more powerful.

You have found TRP, (The Red Pill), the truth of sexual strategies, and learnt it and understood it... Does it make you more powerful? Does it make you more capable wrt to navigating sexual relationships? Does it help understand the dynamics of sexual relationships? If it does then it is KNOWLEDGE, however if it does not then it is useless and possibly harmful as well.

Would it surprise you that there are other fields of Knowledge that you can learn that will make you far more powerful in other aspects of your life? Should you possess the self-discipline to apply the Knowledge, you will become remarkably successful.

Learn:

1) Logic;

Logic is difficult to learn and even harder to apply consistently. The greater majority of people do not formally learn any logic and as a result do not understand its Power. It is a rare set of intangible, abstract, intellectual skills, that are supremely effective. It's rarity, its scarcity, its difficulty make it highly valuable.

Learn Informal Fallacies first, learn to recognize Logical Fallacies. You also need to learn about the Cognitive Biases so you can recognize and avoid those types of mistakes as well. Learn Deductive Logic next. Learn Inductive Logic next.

Inductive Logic is the most powerful type of Logic. It allows a Logician to create new Knowledge. However, it is useless if the Logician cannot recognize potential mistakes (fallacies and biases) and can not check it with deductive logic therefore fallacies and deductive logic must be learnt first.

2) Maths;

Maths is a powerful tool and can do what not even logic alone can do. Maths' power is that is can, if used logically and correctly, provide CERTAIN KNOWLEDGE. Reliable, sure, certain. No other field of study can provide certainty without maths. And only Maths provides certainty to logic. Every Science relies on Maths to provide it with certainty. Science without logic AND maths is pure fantasy fiction.

Maths is not as complex as everyone thinks. Maths is just faster (and therefore more complex) ways to count. ALL maths can be expressed as simple addition, but it would just take too long to do most calculations like that, so mathematicians have devised ways to do it faster. (7 x 7) = (7 + 7 + 7 + 7 + 7 + 7 + 7) = 49. Maths is the logical use of numbers.

Here is a great resource to learn Maths.

3) Rhetoric (the art, strategies and tactics of persuasion);

Learning how to persuade people is an an important skill for social humans. You just can't avoid it, even if you never plan on persuading a single person of anything, other people are certain to try persuade you.

I would link you to a page about rhetoric if any source on the internet actually gave a good break down of it. Sadly, this is not the case. Most experts on rhetoric are overly academic to the point of uselessness. To understand rhetoric properly, you will have to seek out many different resources from many differing fields.

Firstly, you need to understand that persuasion can be ethical and it can also be unethical. You need to understand the workings of both types. Ethical persuasion so that you can persuade people, when needed. Here is a great video about ethical persuasion. The most important and best ethical persuasive method is truthful logical reasoning, however it can be improved upon by the ethical use of some persuasion techniques.

It is also important to understand unethical persuasion so you can recognize when someone is trying to use it on you, allowing you to avoid being fooled. Look up propaganda, sales techniques, advertising and marketing, Psychological manipulation, Shaming.

It is worth noting that TRP often advocates the use of "manipulation" or unethical persuasion on the grounds that sexual strategy is amoral. Think of "Dread Game" as an example. I disagree with this RP stance, on the grounds that it is not manipulation. It is not manipulation because; 1) the intention is not hidden, 2) there is no deception/lying, coercion, threat, or force, and 3) no intent to harm the seduced woman. Women are not stupid, they know when they are being seduced, because they MUST feel it or it won't work. Having a consensual sexual relationship does not harm a woman, else it would be illegal. What can a guy lie about that would create sexual attraction, that a woman does not already know is likely a lie? I love you.

If you consider the basic strategies of ethical persuasion. Reciprocity does not work. Think of all the poor "Nice Guy's" and "betabux". But I will argue that they don't understand reciprocity and are not using it correctly, if used correctly it can be a potent, but small part of the seduction process. Logical reasoning does not work. Women do not choose their mates logically but emotionally, therefore you can not logically reason a woman into being attracted to you and wanting to have sex with you. It is absolutely necessary for a man to engage a woman's emotions and sexual desire. Simply put, you got to make her horny. That leaves a guy with the following persuasive strategies: 1) scarcity (horny men are just not scarce, but handsome, fit, successful men are - AKA self-improvement), 2) authority (social proof and status, confidence), 3) consistency (and commitment, the ben franklin effect, investment), 4) liking (similarity, cooperation, compliments), and 5) consensus (socially accepted behaviour, common ground agreement). And two other techniques not mentioned - emotional engagement and sexual escalation.

4) Strategy;

Strategy is fairly easy to understand, but most people fail at it. Not because it is that difficult, but because it is active, rational and disciplined reasoning and most people are just feeling their way through life. Like Gary Player says, "The more I practice, the luckier I get." A person that often practices strategic thinking, will get better at it.

5) Social Grace and Leadership;

"Social Grace" is a set of learnt social skills that enable a person to effectively and optimally interact in any social environment, enabling the person to achieve their personal social goals. The social skills include; persuasion (already learnt), social awareness, civility, courtesy, manners, etiquette, politeness, personal presentation, conversational skills, negotiation skills, charm, conflict management and relationship development. Most of this is covered in TRP, although focused on sexual relationships. It may seem to be contradictory to the "be an asshole" mantra promoted by TRP. Rather being bold, direct, assertive, opinionated and brutally honest... is considered by many to be an asshole. So be an asshole then.

Leadership is the learnt social skills of motivating people to effectively work together to achieve a common goal. A lot of carrot, a little stick, and more carrot. Maintain a positive social climate... Kill negativity ruthlessly, dismiss a negative emotional vampire immediately. Harsh but necessary, talking to them will only cause that they hide their negative influence better from you. Beware the passive-aggressive team killer.

6) Personal Finances, Business, Entrepreneurship and Economics;

Money, like water, always flows in one direction. Towards perceived value. Create value and money will come to it. If you really understand this, you will never have a problem making money, even during economic recessions. With the money (profit) you make, create more income generating assets.

Profit equals Income minus Expenses. Like sexual attraction, you can not bargain, negotiate, plead, beg, trick, or buy your way out of this absolute law of business. To increase profit increase your Income (Sales) and decrease your Expenses.

You are a business. You sell your time and skill to someone else. You exchange your time, productivity and skill (your product) for money (profit). That is the simplest definition of a business. To increase your income, increase your value and productivity and decrease your cost-to-company. Treat yourself with the respect that a business deserves and negotiate the best deal you can for your productivity. Strategically plan the future for your business. (Career Planning) You are truly the first business that you will own, make a success of it and your next business will likely succeed too.

7) Science (understand the world around you);

Understand the scientific process. Be able to use it for your personal investigations into reality. You should already be able to use logic and maths, the foundation of science.

The better you understand the world, the better you will be able to succeed. Knowledge is Power.

vorverk · 2016-02-13T12:16:11+00:00

Take care of your health (mental, physical...), it will pay off through your whole life.

Get hobbies (pick one or two you like and excel in them)

randarrow · 2016-02-13T14:01:37+00:00

Money management. Learn a few "financial procedures" and master them. Stay out of all debt.

GayLubeOil · 2016-02-13T12:54:16+00:00

You need to teach yourself how to cook healthy nutritious meals. Otherwise that lifting is a complete waste of time.

KneeDeep185 · 2016-02-13T18:08:00+00:00

Learn another language (or two) and start making plans to visit a country where you can hone that skill. Many Americans speak a second language, not many speak 3 or 4. Any (French speaking, Spanish speaking, Russian speaking, Portuguese speaking, German speaking, etc) girl who comes to visit will jump on your dick pronto. You never know when it will come in handy... and it's also the ONLY way to travel. 'Speak the language' is just great life advice on many levels.

Tanukiri · 2016-02-13T23:26:20+00:00

Take care of your teeth.

Snxwe · 2016-02-13T15:29:41+00:00

Doing anything creative?

polyethene · 2016-02-13T17:53:01+00:00

NoFap and lifting in that order. Everything else like nutrition will fall into place.

_Tactleneck_ · 2016-02-13T17:20:52+00:00

Something different here, get a copy of The Lone Survivor or Living With A Seal either audio or a book. The second is a quicker, funnier read, but it's been great motivation for me lately on what it means to really push past your mental and physical barriers.

laiyaise · 2016-02-13T17:48:19+00:00

When it comes to establishing habits failure can also be a habit. Focus on a couple of things at a time otherwise the constant failure of trying to establish a multitude of habits will actually make it harder for you to do so. Unless you've been doing whatever it is you're doing now for at least 6 months don't even bother entertaining the possibility of picking up more. Motivation runs out, you will get tired and continuing to drag your carcass through those pregnant lady moods that follow is where the true gains are made.

kempff · 2016-02-13T19:55:57+00:00

Learn ethics. Read Aristotle's Nichomachean Ethics, especially chapter 8 on friendship. Read Cicero's Offices (De Officiis, or On Duties, English translations vary). Read Epictetus, Marcus Aurelius.

For a mental break read Hemingway's short stories and Jack London's Call of the Wild.

Most of these are already free online.

drqxx · 2016-02-13T20:47:51+00:00

Develop your own goals around your own passions. Then crush those goals and set new ones.
KEEP LEARNING.
Keep receipts for everything especially government documents like speeding tickets that are paid off and tax paper work.
Save your money look for alternative way to put money in the bank. DON'T TOUCH IT; unless your buying an appreciating asset.
Find people you look up to and uncover their secrets to success.

You must evolve to be the best version of yourself. Now go take over the fucking world!

rshackleford161 · 2016-02-13T22:07:42+00:00

Work on creating good habits as habits will make or break a man. The Habit Loop is a good book for understanding habits. I'd also read The Slight Edge for ways to push forward in the same vein.

Bring your fashion game up to par as it will only help you and remember that dressing up and dressing well are very different things.

Read more, read non-fiction, read the classics. I disagree about reading the newspaper as I find the content to be irrelevant or light due to the pace required in publishing, even in WSJ and NYT. I prefer The Economist and The Atlantic, though honestly I've just stopped reading so much news.

Learn about investing -- back to the reading... The Bogleheads have good retirement planning and investing literature.

I would be better about going out to spend time with my family and friends rather than staying in to re-watch the same old shows or fap. When with family, I'd not just sit around but get better about organizing "doing things together" as opposed to "being together". drink less, not much good comes from it. I'd have left my previous job earlier to start my own company earlier. I'd have done better in undergrad.

savedarticles · 2016-02-13T15:03:19+00:00

learn stock trading. set aside money every month for pure speculation. Of course, set money aside for investing too. learn the difference. play options with your speculation money. shit is fun as hell and will teach you business and, most importantly, you'll learn what a terrible facad humanity is. Everyone is out to fuck everyone else- you can't trust people because they are all out to screw you. Losing good money on some pump and dump drives that home across quite nicely. money well spent!

aditas · 2016-02-13T13:37:42+00:00

You should always be thinking about ninjas

SpinPlates · 2016-02-13T14:42:33+00:00

Get a motorcycle

psyflux · 2016-02-13T12:35:27+00:00

Go back to school...get your JD or MBA.

ag_nuke · 2016-02-13T19:20:33+00:00

If you're asking us what you should think or do, you didn't swallow shit

Back to the drawing board you boob. If you're here just for humblebrags, find out that RPillers pat backs indeed, but with a crowbar.

Title	I'm 22. What should I be doing?
Author	ddiogenesofsinope
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Date	February 13, 2016 11:07 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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