Hi all,

I have no difficulty attracting women despite my looks, but sadly I'm still a virgin because everytime I'm alone with a woman, I simply can't escalate. This issue is destroying me inside.

Basically I'm the type of guy to watch the movie with the girl without trying anything and then going home. It's happened too many times already, it's getting ridiculous.

I know what to do, I've read and thought it through over and over, but once I'm there what prevents me from escalating is the thought that it'll be awkward and that it'll be ridiculous. Basically it's like insane performance anxiety but before even getting to sex.

I know a lot of you will tell me to "just do it" but mentally something blocks me from doing so everytime. The first two or three times I thought I would "just do it" the next time but by now I've realized the issue is much bigger than this. I simply don't know what to do besides getting drunk and going for it. Else I freeze up and refuse physical contact.

I don't want to pollute the sub with this question if the answer is simply "just do it". I'm looking for deeper answers, tips, techniques, stories, whatever. If it really is just a matter of just going for it, I'll take it and leave it at that, but I feel like it's bigger than this and that it deserves a post. This has been legitimately killing my romantic and sex life for the past two years. Thanks in advance