Maintaining frame and confidence in an LTR

pyth0ns · 2019-12-23T19:49:52+00:00

What is affecting you internally? (give examples of the lack of confidence/inner turmoil you're facing.)

How good are you at gaming? (no, not xbox)

LTR/Marriage is RP on Extreme mode for a reason.
If you're one that goes down this road for whatever reason (must be benefiting you 10xfold in order to be doing so) - you need to be an expert at gaming your girl, instilling dread (not to the point where she will be like f**k it, might as well cheat as he is cheating on me) and inception!

Some examples
Gaming - Having your Alpha/RP traits turned up to the max
Lifting her off her feet (literally)
Gym/clean/suave and having her drool when you're topless
Constantly treating her like it's a first date (Which means FUN! Never be complacent and settled)

Dread - The best that I've found and works wonders, is to make sure her immediate social circle (that is sisters, if she has any, best friends, etc) are all drooling to F**K you!
If they're constantly telling her and eyeball f**king you when you're around (which she will know/see instantly) - she knows she has it made and will love you 10x fold more.

I personally don't go out of my way to chat to other girls for dread, but when a girl starts chatting to me especially around my girl... You make it known that this girl wants to
f**k you, which your girl will pick up on (I'd be careful with this, as spite is a bitch and loads of girls will f**k another dude due to this...)

Inception
You need to learn to play your girl, to have her think your ideas are her ideas.
Due to female nature or stubbornness or what have you, you could have the greatest idea in the world, but she will fight it tooth and nail because it came from you/man...
So Incept that shit!
( now people will probably say, you ain't establishing dominance bro! - I say to that, well done, you're a master :T )

Now all of the above... Is a lot of work...
Why would you want to be doing that?
MGTOW would call you a fucking moron and the biggest beta bitch of all time, and pedestalling/oneitis over a women to no extent....

As stressed prior... You do this when the relationship is benefiting you 10xfold!

nothestrawberrypatch · 2019-12-23T17:55:07+00:00

Not hanging out with just the boys has had a significant impact on my confidence perception - because I still feel confident, but its not so outwardly projected. I would suspect she feels more in control because more time is spent with her rather than my mates. Call your boys, go do some cool shit, go for a few beers, game some women. I need to do this, because I feel like I'm in the same boat as you.

Rememer 3:1 rule

theunconquored · 2019-12-23T17:45:52+00:00

The moment that you start getting oneitis, you start making her bored. You're getting attached and that will make you comfortable. Comfort kills tingles, and your own confidence.

You're not going to marry this bitch. Imagine her screwing someone else until it doesn't bother you anymore. Then imagine yourself screwing her best friend or sister or mom and her finding out, and do that until it doesn't bother you anymore. You have to always remember that you're the prize. As Kanye said...theres a thousand you's, there's only one of me.

If that doesn't cure the oneitis, tell her that you need to take a break, or that you want to still date her and date other people. Any LTR that doesn't devolve into comfort and boredom needs some push/pull. Keep her on a string. Push her away, then pull her back.

KillaJewels · 2019-12-23T18:09:37+00:00

Just takes time and experience to internalize the TRP principles. You're young, so you prob haven't had that many oneitis situations to learn your lesson yet. You'll get there.

That said, I would focus on ONS, FWB, spinning plates. You're in college dude, no need for LTR. College is amazing practice grounds.

AliasBitter · 2019-12-23T23:13:50+00:00

Lots of retarded advice. You don't need to fake confidence by acting like a dick.

Instead of interacting with her all the time, just do your thing and focus on that. Like if you're a musician, practice your songs. If you're an athlete, train, cook your meals, recover. Or whatever. Don't entertain her all the time, do whatever shit you need to be doing and she'll respect that and you should be feeling good.

Now if you're actually boring as shit then that's what you would be dealing with.

gsp9511 · 2019-12-23T18:35:27+00:00

What exactly do you mean by developing oneitis for your LTR? What have you stopped doing exactly that made you feel confident in the beginning? In what ways are you second guessing your decisions? Are you placing your LTR in the very top of your priorities? What has changed exactly?

dzkkne · 2019-12-24T02:04:12+00:00

This is the point where you start to alter your decisions because now you have fear of losing her.

You need to meditate and think about yourself without her and understand that you are just fine without her and whatever happens will happen.

The only way to maintain frame and confidence in LTR is to have a mindset that if it doesn’t work out then you will be just fine. Doesn’t mean you have to be a dick, it’s just that she should see that you don’t doubt your decisions and know what you want

thrwy75479 · 2019-12-23T19:06:35+00:00

At the beginning of my LTR I was very confident and did not second guess my decisions

What specifically do you mean by this?

Lateralanouncer · 2019-12-24T00:55:37+00:00

I would say your not ready to be purple pill (red pill knowledge in ltr). Unless you truly believe and know you are the prize, Your an ass kissing, insecure BP Male with no options.

sebastianconcept · 2019-12-24T02:47:36+00:00

Do you have good projects? Have “oneitis” with those. Rotate or next them until they are THAT good. She should read your main investment of energy isn’t her if your frame is where it should be: man’s mission. Life meaning.

madfrombrad · 2019-12-24T05:15:00+00:00

Keep her obsessed with you and none of that matters. Do this through absence.

30dirtyfingers · 2019-12-24T10:09:43+00:00

yeah this happened to me and I fluctuate back and forth sometimes.

what did it for me? a plate? I did alot of redpill shit before i got a plate (redpill suggestion) and alot of it worked but I noticed the responses I was getting fluctuated. Once I got a plate a year ago something happened....my perspective changed. Either results with my LTR become more consistant OR I gave less of a fuck because I had another girl to deal with. Either way, the results were positive for me.

E9er · 2019-12-24T15:37:34+00:00

keep the mystery alive! the minute she feels she’s figured you out. the magic is over and you can start second guessing if she’s riding the cock carousel! whether you have oneitis or abundance mentality. if you keep the mystery she’s still intrigued to be yours and the magic is still alive. you do this by not been thoroughly detailed in your words/responses/conversations/truth. give a little mystery off and room for imagination. EX: hey babe where are you going? Me: i’ll be back an errand. (no more) NOT. at dave’s to pick up dry cleaners then a deodorant and some food at mcdonald’s. details kill the vibe. EX2: hey babe how was work: me: insanely busy everyone met up for the assignment. EX hey babe do you like this song? Me: there’s things i like to do when i listen to certain music.... you get the point BE VAGUE! with just hints of specificity. and the mystery will be there. EX: hey babe you love me? Me: you think you’ve earned it already? keep her guessing bro then give her a passionate kiss and tell her go make me food. best mix of signals and a power move so she’ll love you for it! also passing her shit test help too. don’t get complacent act like you’re still dating trying to earn her. have other women crave you and she’ll be hooked. girls don’t want to give an alpha if other girls want it! she’ll fight them for it. after all it’s hers why would she release it!

chazthundergut · 2019-12-24T17:24:18+00:00

Pull back a little

luccisanolean · 2019-12-23T21:36:05+00:00

You have to practice Semen Retention to remain alpha

theUnBannableHulk · 2019-12-23T17:35:10+00:00

Find another girl to fuck.

You are going into scar-city and your chick is going to pick up on that faster than you can say hello

and she’s going to dump your ass because you are in college which in Western countries incentivizes women to be whores.

Having a relationship in college, good night sweet prince. 🤦🏼‍♂️😴🤴

Title	Maintaining frame and confidence in an LTR
Author	aloeverafication
Upvotes	85
Comments	52
Date	December 23, 2019 5:11 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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