[Premature Ejaculation] Help, i ejaculate 3 times before i even get my pants off and it destroys my confidence everytime im with women

refusewool · 2018-03-25T16:30:29+00:00

Fap once a week, slowly, with lube. Each week go for one minute longer. Edge. Nofap is the opposite of what a guy in your position should be doing.

Thethrowawayoption · 2018-03-25T20:10:09+00:00

Girls are a lot more forgiving of popping fast than of not popping or taking a long time. Play it off as "you're so hot I couldn't stop myself", and then distract them with kissing/touching until you can get hard again for the next round. She's going to interpret it how you interpret it, so treat it like it's nothing, maintain your confidence, and the mood won't break. Don't run off to the bathroom like you need to shit, just subtly wipe yourself off a bit when you take off your pants.

Some girls like giving handies or BJs, but most of them don't want to be doing that for a long time. They feel like they've reached their goal when you come so going in only a couple minutes isn't bad. All you have to do is use your hands and your mouth on her to keep her going until you're ready again.

BittyMitty · 2018-03-25T17:31:56+00:00

Best way to treat this is to seek professional help.

MarcusArelius444 · 2018-03-25T17:00:12+00:00

What helped me go from a minute man to 10minute sex without a condom is Edging. Start with 10minutes of jerking and pausing and don’t cum until the 10 minutes are over and repeat daily. Increasing the time as you feel fit. Fapping once a week will put way too much pressure on you, in 1 month you’ll be good as new.

chazthundergut · 2018-03-25T20:55:17+00:00

Hahahahahaha!

"then i had to end it there as i lost my will of trying to get my shit to work."

This is where you fucked up. Came once from a sexy chick grinding on you? That's okay. Came again from making out? That's okay too.

Gave up? Gave up?? Because you repeatedly came? WTF is that shit?? Not okay.

I regularly come multiple times with chicks. Not in my pants, but still pretty quick.

I also try to stick to nofap and have cut porn down to a minimum. So when I meet up with my girl, I am always super horny and ready to go. I almost always come during the first blowjob, or if we can't wait that long I'll come 2 minutes after entering her.

I usually go to the bathroom to piss and clean up a little. We have a drink, maybe smoke a little, and then right back up for round 2. And sometimes round 3.

My point is, you were doing fine with that chick. You were super horny that that's a good thing. Chicks love how horny I get, they love it when I come. But giving up? Feeling self-conscious, feeling like a loser, and just giving up? That's the worst thing you can do. Not to mention, how do you think it made her feel? Now instead of the horny guy who she made orgasm a bunch of times, you're the pathetic guy who had to run away because he couldn't get his dick hard for her.

So next time man up and own it. You are a horny man. You want to come. You like to come. And lucky girl, whoever gets to share that experience with you. Stay in the pocket and do not give up.

NewBoomAction · 2018-03-25T19:44:33+00:00

Edge. NF. Try viagra once or twice to increase confidence. Disregard after. It's all in my mind. Plunder that booty, bruh.

MindFuktd · 2018-03-25T17:43:05+00:00

Mindset. Accept and be OK with the fact you will cum early. In fact, girls will like it, and be flattered.

Instead of pussy-footing around during bj's/sex, have the attitude "I'm gonna stick my hard dick inside this person and have an incredible orgasm". Having the Intention of cumming is what will give you the confidence to last as long as you feel like.

marcus8crassus · 2018-03-25T20:00:27+00:00

You need a pocket pussy brah. Avoid the juggernut!

rcwhitaker · 2018-03-25T18:16:03+00:00

Its all about test/estrogen ratio for this. A lot of guys on gear have this problem. My guess is that for whatever reason you have too much E floating around and not enough T. I would get bloods taken, maybe go on an AI if you find you're Estradiol levels are too high.

MrGoodStuff05 · 2018-03-25T22:27:43+00:00

penis kegels

eofree2be · 2018-03-26T00:54:26+00:00

Paxil.

Fun2badult · 2018-03-26T01:38:46+00:00

You should fap before you go out so when you’re out you’re less likely to blow the load but recharge by the time you get back home

El_Serpiente_Roja · 2018-03-26T04:35:59+00:00

Lift more ..seriously..its easier to stave off ejaculation with muscle control

PhaedrusHunt · 2018-03-26T06:34:27+00:00

Jesus, I don't know. Meditation maybe? I'm lucky that I've never had this issue.

I think the key is to fuck a lot of chicks so that you feel less anxiety.

JurgenBiffman · 2018-03-26T13:34:48+00:00

lol what the fuck did i just read

KOakford · 2018-03-25T16:29:53+00:00

I would recommend reading No More Mr. Niceguy if you haven't already.

Title	[Premature Ejaculation] Help, i ejaculate 3 times before i even get my pants off and it destroys my confidence everytime im with women
Author	mydickisredthrowaway
Upvotes	13
Comments	27
Date	March 25, 2018 4:21 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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