question as an incel

Epicureanist · 2014-11-25T16:27:58+00:00

Stop calling yourself an incel
Find women
Get number
Schedule a date
Kiss, makeout, fuck

alpha_n3rd · 2014-11-25T14:40:14+00:00

restaurant work is a fuckfest; plow away; if you don't somebody else will

usul1628 · 2014-11-25T14:43:41+00:00

So here's what you do. Don't worry about anything. You've got nothing to lose, you've got no one you want to hang on to. Its easy for anyone, even a low SMV guy, to get laid if you're willing to take risks and go for the girls who are possibly interested. Ask a girl, any will do, to drinks, take her for ice cream, take her to your place. Make a move, make out a bit. Abort when you encounter resistance. Repeat until things escalate to sex. Tell her to get on top so all you have to do is sit there with a boner and a grin. Repeat until you feel comfortable doing more. Do some more, see what you like. She'll stick around for more than one lay, so hopefully you get enough reps in to feel confident. If not, repeat with someone else. Don't worry about how good you are till your game requires it.

BrunoOh · 2014-11-25T15:31:24+00:00

Get an escort if it bothers you so much.

kingofpoplives · 2014-11-25T15:55:53+00:00

You are putting the cart before the horse. Don't worry about how good you are in bed until you actually have something to worry about.

tombreck2 · 2014-11-25T14:35:14+00:00

Sex god method is a good read and it will make you more confident.

Don't tell a girl that you are a virgin or lack experience; it kills their libido. Act like you've fucked a hundred girls and she's up next

imaterriblelurker · 2014-11-25T14:46:50+00:00

OP, Girls are as selfish as you are. Girls will be as shallow and vain as you are. Girls are nothing special.

What you want and desperately need is some cues for socializing. You need some male friends who will help you with the social dynamics. After that, girls will flock to you if you are as goodlooking as you say you are.

If you just need to get your dick wet, there are plenty of girls who just want to get their fartbox punched. Look in the dive bar scene or even just your nearest hood club.

I think you just need some confidence and drop that incel label shit. It wont do you any good and it will hinder you in all and every social situation if all you think about is girls, girls, girls, and how they wont fuck you.

asd1100 · 2014-11-25T17:38:00+00:00

most blue pill sex is boring as fuck unless the chick is really freaky.

most natural red pill first times are bad unless there is mad chemistry.

Stop worrying about being good at it the first time, you will suck, but lucky you most people suck as fucking, so nobody will really expect anything. So just enjoy it.

How the fuck are you bad at cold approaching if you are a waiter. Flirt like crazy with anything at least cute and within a month you will have a silver tongue.

Fuck relationships, I get the feeling you are young. Date and fuck until you know women inside and out and then from that position of proficiency decide what type of woman you prefer, if you want a LTR and how to do it.

SeekingTheWay · 2014-11-25T15:22:26+00:00

why would the v-card matter to you? that matters only in the disney soulmate framework. ditch that shit, its just sex.

fnordsnord · 2014-11-25T15:40:48+00:00

Ok - for starters, "Don't shit where you eat" doesn't necessarily apply to people in food service.

Unless you are management, if you're any good at your job at all, you can find work quickly in any city you're in. If you've got waitresses or kitchen staff giving you IOI's pick the hottest one and approach.

If you can set it up, the best scenario here is a Friend With Benefits. Be careful of getting The Feels for her if you do manage to unload that troublesome V-card.

So yeah, plow away.

oldredder · 2014-11-27T07:04:23+00:00

Tinder.

Look up Sex God Method.

Practice. Lots of girls. Be OK with not being good at sex when you're new at it. Be more concerned with how well you enjoy sex instead of how the girl enjoys it and you'll get better at it faster. A girl will want an aggressive man for sex, not one who's always trying to please her but never himself. Doesn't mean you should be so selfish you never get her off or ever care but don't care about it too much until you can enjoy it or you won't be as good at it because you'll be distracted.

Also if you have cash there's hookers so you can practice with them too.

gentleViking · 2014-11-27T23:17:51+00:00

It's kind of like getting a job with no prior work experience. Everybody has got to start somewhere and it might be harder to find one the first time around. I'd say just try to meet a nice girl who's more the nurturing type. Typically they will be more understanding and forgiving. A girl with tattoos and an attitude might blow you out once they realize you aren't experienced enough to give them what they crave thereby crushing your confidence. Be ready though to get really attached to the first girl you fuck. I did. Ended in heart-break but that's the badge of honor you wear for loosing your v-card. I wouldn't suggest a one night stand unless for some reason you see some major red flags after you do the deal. If you find someone you are into, date them for a while and gain some experience.

I'd say focusing too much on loosing your v-card will hurt your chances by not framing your goals internally. i.e. not outcome independent. Focus on meeting and attracting someone and enjoy the dating process. There's so much to learn every step of the way. Just enjoy it. Escalate until you get to sex, but don't make it the goal.

As for dating co-workers. I've had a few restaurant jobs. Everybody is fucking everybody. Might as well toss your hat in the ring too. There maybe drama but that's all part of the learning process. Learn to not let it affect you adversely.

Title	question as an incel
Author	prettylatebloomer
Upvotes	7
Comments	17
Date	November 25, 2014 2:14 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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