Been dating her for 3 weeks now. She already refers to me as her boyfriend and I'm fine with it. She seems like GF material. But there's one issue:
She keeps telling me about the guys that hit on her and ask her out. There's one guy at her gym that asked her out before I met her, though they never set anything up, so it didn't happen. But now he's chasing her again. She tells me that he asked her out, she told him that she's dating me, and now he's aiming to be "friends". Even though she told him about me he keeps texting her and is literally keeping tabs on the amount of dates we go on. Last time he asked her how her 4th date with me went. And she replies that it went great, but aside from that she doesn't discourage him from texting. She likes the attention. And now her ex wants her back (it was an LDR), and he suggested that he would move to her city to be with her. She told him that she's dating me, yet he continues to pursuit and text. And she told me about a hair stylist at her hair salon who asked her out. And how another guy she spoke to (before meeting me) is asking her out.
I appreciate the honestly, but she's either 1) Loves the attention, and/or 2) Trying to dread me and raise her perceived value.
She tells me she chose me. I guess she wants me to think she's the prize. She seems committed to me and talks about future plans a lot, and constantly wants to talk to me. She's more invested in this than I am.
How should I respond to her next time she tells me about these guys pursuing her? Up until now I've been replying something like "Well I trust you and I am sure you will handle it"-- she loved it when I said that. But part of me wants to say "Are we official? Ok, then why are you still in contact with these guys?", but that might be too emotional.
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