Shit Test: Do you trust me?

jeezydasnowman · 2016-02-16T20:22:46+00:00

"I don't even trust myself."

1NV0K3R · 2016-02-16T20:25:46+00:00

"THEN JUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUMP!"

oglowkey · 2016-02-16T20:00:52+00:00

"Nah not really" and give her a smile.

jm51 · 2016-02-16T22:06:06+00:00

I have never ever had somebody say 'Don't you trust me?' (male or female) that didn't prove to be a lying piece of shit.

My stock answer now, male or female, when they ask that is 'No' followed by silence. If they ask why, I say 'You know why'. More silence.

RPshade · 2016-02-16T20:07:24+00:00

I would pressure flip.

Should I not?

JamesSkepp · 2016-02-16T22:13:50+00:00

"I trust you to be a woman"

Credit to some PUA website.

bio9 · 2016-02-16T22:32:11+00:00

My go to..."I don't want your trust".

It's a bit of nuke option to be sure. Here's my reasoning. IMO women use trust as a weapon and don't understand trust.

Guys don't necessarily blanket everyone with the "I don't trust you" banner. We tend to lean towards the trust but verify until it's confirmed that we no longer need verification. Even still I'd argue that men begin to trust until the situation or individual proves otherwise. Then we start the process again.

Women throw this up just like everything else but it's my opinion that it's not worth breaking down but avoiding altogether. Trust is earned is what most people believe. This assumes I want your trust at all. Yes while trust is to be earned too a degree at some point you have to let your shields down and begin to trust. I can keep earning your trust but if you are unwilling or unable to see the actions I am taking it's all for nothing. It's a two way action. You can go on not trusting me no matter what I do. So keep dangling that trust carrot out in front of me if it keeps moving eventually I will get tired of following it.

I love "I have trust issues". Great. Let me know when you have worked that shit out. Until then...not my problem. Because... this is meant to put you on the defensive and make you feel like you have to be the one that breaks this wall. Be the white knight that saves her from the dreaded trust monster if you want but be forewarned she will, one day or a year, remind you that she has trust issues. First off I didn't create this "trust issue" So why am I paying for it? Second if someone is carrying this "trust issue" it's my opinion that we are talking something deeper then just trust sort of like PTSD...and again it's not my issue but something you are transferring to me.

if it's something I have done then the you have a choice. You can stay or go. Staying means you commit to trusting me again and at some point you have to let it go. That's you. It's not me. Of course I have to own the mistake and make amends but...again that carrot has to be attainable.

Rasalom72 · 2016-02-16T21:20:04+00:00

"Right up until I don't."

PragmaticRedTruth · 2016-02-16T19:44:39+00:00

"Sure do, it's just a matter of what I trust you for."

PhantomDream09 · 2016-02-17T04:42:53+00:00

Once again, people confusing comfort tests with sh-t tests. She wants to know that you value her as more than a warm body. She is not trying to change the power dynamic, overthrow, or disrupt you (sh-t test). She is looking for reassurance, approval, that the bond you share is valued (comfort test ).

Sh-t tests should not be treated the same as comfort tests, because even if it would be a 'pass' to A&A on a sh-sh-t test, responding that way to a comfort test will only weaken your dynamic and breed insecurity on her part. Do so often enough and she will distance herself, and/or be less motivated to invest in the relationship (whether it is exclusive or a plate arrangement)

Edit: the title says "do you trust me?" But in the post you say "don't you trust me?" The former is a comfort test, the latter is most likely a sh-t test...but it depends on context.

notmyusualreddit · 2016-02-17T07:04:51+00:00

I have no idea what to say back to this, but recently read somewhere that when a woman is saying these words, shes pretty much planning to or currently deep in something.

Think about what "Do you trust me?" even means. WTF does it mean? For 99% of what they actually mean by this theyd be better served by "Do you think I actively lie or deceive you?" but of course they can't say that because in her mind she never lies.

youcantdenythat · 2016-02-17T11:33:09+00:00

"HAHAHAHA... should I?"

Shaigan · 2016-02-17T01:12:24+00:00

"the only nigga that i trust is me" - bitch please II lyrics

slater2j · 2016-02-16T21:46:58+00:00

"trust is earned. What have you done to earn my trust?"

keepyourkeys · 2016-02-17T01:05:23+00:00

"Do you trust me?"

"Why, are you planning on fucking something up?"

nodoxsavefreespeech · 2016-02-16T20:32:44+00:00

I'm thinking something like:

Trust a beautiful woman? Doubt it!

Said with a grin accompanied by an ass slap.

Thoughts?

druganswer · 2016-02-17T01:47:00+00:00

The right answer is of course

Title	Shit Test: Do you trust me?
Author	nodoxsavefreespeech
Upvotes	6
Comments	29
Date	February 16, 2016 7:42 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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