Why am I Not Pulling?

somebullshitrp · 2018-03-21T19:10:32+00:00

Until you're much better at interpreting signals, don't worry about them and assume she's down. Just escalate, escalate, escalate. She can always say no, or stop you.

It's likely that she's interested if you're getting numbers and dates, but you're just misinterpreting/missing signals.

daymi · 2018-03-21T19:13:45+00:00

It's difficult to say.

Do you escalate? Can you read body language? Should be easy to see when she wants to cool down or tune it up - without using any words.

You have to escalate. Forget the politically correct nonsense, women are slow to warm up - you have to touch them before they can be aroused.

RP_Br3 · 2018-03-21T19:14:46+00:00

You've only been lifting seriously for only a bit over 2 months, the results are still quite small. If you've only been lifting since the start fo the year I assume you're also new to the rest of TRP, and while it's easy to fake to a point most of it only becomes natural after a longer implementation phase. How do your dates go? Do you escalate and give her plausible deniability, or are you too direct?

TonytheNetworker · 2018-03-21T19:28:23+00:00

Doesn't Atlanta have way more girls than guys? There should be more than enough fine looking women to choose from! With that being said it sounds like your approaches and maintaining rapport is good but your closing is bad. Do you take too long to make things happen? Do you go days without talking to a girl? Or you building comfort with her and making sure she feels attracted to wanna come to your house?

yesbuthereswhy · 2018-03-21T20:01:23+00:00

Buddy you need to hit up Buckhead. I went last weekend with my wife. There’s way too many beautiful women to go home alone. Lots of guys standing in corners or on their phones in these places while beautiful women are crawling out the woodworks. You’re RP man so you should be killing it especially in a place like Buckhead.

BeeBopJoe · 2018-03-21T21:28:10+00:00

I am guessing you aren't escalating or sexualizing the interaction enough. Try to be more physical earlier on than your comfortable with.

mental_models · 2018-03-22T00:26:16+00:00

If you are doing it correctly, there should be 'sexual tension' (you are legit getting horny, and she is also getting horny and/or at the very least there's a MUTUAL feeling of 'respect' towards the escalating energy/situation).

That mutual feeling of respect towards the escalating energy/situation basically means that she expresses an interest in dating you ('IOI' in TRP terminology), and acknowledges the sexual tension with escalating Kino.

If she's ignoring/avoiding/rejecting the reality of the sexual tension, you have to (after allowing her a reasonable expected time frame of roughly 1-2 dates) 'next' her. Be clear that she's not holding up her end of the bargain. Stop that 2nd or 3rd date and call her an Uber home if you have to. Drop her and date someone else. If she was simply 'shit-testing', she'll likely be back on her own accord, within a week's time, ready to fully participate.

You have to be willing to command respect, and if you don't receive it, to be willing to move on. If you aren't willing to do that, and/or if you act like she is irreplaceable, she may exploit that.

Red_Saman · 2018-03-22T01:26:58+00:00

From what i've read in your comments, you lack the escalation part a lot. It seems like you don't really "put the sexy vibe" out there. Your talk might be smooth and shit, but it all comes down to escalation at some point.

redd_reality · 2018-03-22T01:50:59+00:00

1 - its a numbers game - you certainly won't win em all. No one does.

2 - The thirstier you are, the less likely she'll quench your thirst.

3 - Invest your time and energy into everything else except women. As soon as other things become your focus, you'll lighten up around them and that's when they'll want you.

Title	Why am I Not Pulling?
Author	kushboywonder
Upvotes	5
Comments	37
Date	March 21, 2018 6:59 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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