[22M] Virgin, How do you get laid?

flashgordon_12 · 2017-12-12T22:53:31+00:00

I recommend checking out the top post in this thread (not assuming you're autistic, just that the thread is useful).

jzck20 · 2017-12-13T01:42:55+00:00

If losing your virginity is such a big deal, you can always seek the help of a adult sex worker. It will cost you a little and they will cater to any of your needs/kinks.

If you want someone outside this context:

Realize that if you want ppl around you, you need to be someone of good company. Be that charming person.

Then develop your social circle. Spend time developping friendship. They will improve your morale during lows, they will help you if they can, etc...

Along that way, you will surely meet possible partners. Try to interact. You will fail and get rejected sometimes. It happens to everyone.

But some will like you, some will appreciate your company, some will actively seek your attention.

After that, at your age, ppl will be clear about what they are looking for: ONS, FWB, a realtionship or just friendship (when I was 18, they were a bit confused)

uoYtihslluBI · 2017-12-13T02:49:12+00:00

Stop labeling yourself things that you perceive as weaknesses about yourself, as the words we use define us.

Then, after that, stop looking to get laid and look to talk to people. The conversation should be about them, not you. You know you - You know who you don't know? Them. Let people speak and enjoy their presence and soon they will enjoy yours.

oyoungpadawan · 2017-12-12T22:56:00+00:00

Most bars/clubs here are 90% filled with thirsty dudes, usually regulars of the particular bar. You gotta fight half the bar to compete or get near.

So tinder!

Liquid17 · 2017-12-12T23:25:31+00:00

At this point, I guess your best bet is drunk all in at the place where's cheapest beer.

A_Suffering_Panda · 2017-12-13T03:12:43+00:00

I recommend not even considering the fact that you're a virgin. Learning how to read and attract women doesn't change if you've had sex. All that changes is you might be worse at sex. If you're both naked, you could probably tell her just to be honest and help her understand you.

AR-47 · 2017-12-13T05:00:22+00:00

You need to learn. You gotta get out there and try, accept that you'll make mistakes, and try again. When I realized I was getting too old to be a virgin, it took me about 2 months of really putting solid effort into getting laid to finally lose the v-card. Mental stuff is key. If you're not confident or don't think you're worthy of sex, you're not gonna have sex. Don't expect to lose your virginity after a week of trying.

DirkDieGurke · 2017-12-13T15:48:59+00:00

Browsed through the posts here, and fixing your mindset is a priority. I can understand why you're down on yourself, but women go for a beautiful mind over beautiful body (See Nick Vujicic).

Fix your self-esteem and then maybe get in a job helping other people in therapy to learn some empathy. Girls love people that help others and you could very likely meet somebody in the field.

That's all I got

InternetGsus · 2017-12-13T09:17:14+00:00

Don't expect anything and just live your life. Sex isn't the end all, be all. Talk to women, be you in the conversations you have. It's about developing quality relationships with others that brings about self satisfaction. I suggest you seek therapy, because chances are there are some aspects of your life that need to be addressed. Maybe it's esteem issues, maybe you have problems with feeling and connecting with others, or developing healthy relationships. You could spend a few hundred dollars on a sex worker, but most likely will find no satisfaction in doing so. Personal development, seek help to better structure your life. That's my two cents, maybe you don't want to hear that.

Eric-Foreplay · 2017-12-12T22:30:32+00:00

Go to bars/clubs

You'll find a chick for sure.

Title	[22M] Virgin, How do you get laid?
Author	RuminantBearer
Upvotes	29
Comments	37
Date	December 12, 2017 10:19 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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