I know I am going to get a lot of criticism for this, but here we go. Recently I came across a post about David DeAngelo getting married and sharing his vows

A lot of people scoff at David for taking the plunge and committing to one person.

The mentality to which he speaks of is being the "Single Alpha Male Who Fucks Bitches on Top of Bitches for the Rest of His Life."

This is the same mentality I had for the past 7 years. My worldview was fixated through the lens of polygamous relationships. I am even writing my thesis on why men should not get married and why marriage does not work.

There is A LOT of research out there that shows that men are naturally inclined to be with multiple women from an evolutionary perspective.

Although recently as I have gotten older, I am starting to question this modality of thought. What common themes do we in the Pick-up community have? To those of us that have taken the "Red Pill", Is our new REALITY truly beneficial for our overall happiness?

I notice common themes with men in the pickup community. 1. They usually were social outcasts or introverts growing up 2. They have been emotionally truamatized early on by the opposite sex either by their first relationship or multiple bouts of rejection.

So naturally when we come across this new way of Social Ingenuity and Mastery. We JUMP at it.

Let's look at this from another perspective. I am finishing up my Master's degree in Marriage Family and Therapy and I used a lot of different Psychological tenets to observe myself and thoughts toward monogamy and relationships.

ATTACHMENT THEORY- Without being too in-depth. I realize that in relationships I have an AVOIDANT style of attachment. Whenever I have gotten in fights with a SO I would just flee and sabotage the relationship by sleeping with somone else. A SECURE attachment style or individual would committ to their partner and choose to put 100% effort into making it work.

TRAINGLE THEORY OF LOVE- In order to have the PERFECT or Consummate loving relationship you need Intimacy (Ability to know your partner on a deep level) Passion (Physical Attraction toward each other and Commitment. How are we supposed to make a relationship work if we never fully commit to a girl? If we come into a relationship with the mindframe of an "Alpha" then we are self-sabotaging any chance of making it work.

Now I am not saying that you should not sleep around and PIMP it. I am saying that this is good to do in your early years. Sleep with loads of women and learn through EXPERIENCE what you want in a girl. Each relationship and woman I have been with has taught me what I want out of my wife.

Being with ONE person for the rest of your life is not going to be easy. Marriage takes work. If I find somone that meets all of the criteria I have stored up in my head then I will not let her go.

I really don't know what's the best solution for our relationship paradigm. What I do know is that there is a women out there that I will come across in my mid thirties that will make me want to commit to her fully. I will admit it that it is scary right now to think about. But I am only 25. I have another 10 years to have my fun. But I know that eventually I will want to find that one person to settle down with and have a family. Because my Father did the same and he is the happiest man I know.

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” ― Lao Tzu

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