A rant about unfairness

TooHoly999 · 2018-04-07T01:34:33+00:00

Why does it have to be so fucking hard for us?

Good eggs are expensive, good sperm is cheap. The same man can impregnate 20 women in five days, where a woman would take 180 months (20x9months) to bear the children of 20 different men. That's 15 yrs. So, if she started at 18 she would be 33 by the time she was done. So only the best guys got to have sex with tons of women.

An attractive girl can get shitfaced drunk on the weekends, have a terrible diet, doesn't need to exercise, can have no confidence in herself, and can have all the sex she wants with anyone at any time and still have an incredible, exciting life.

A player can get wasted on the weekend too. A terrible diet will ensure she won't be desired in the future however. Same with the exercise. Of course she doesn't have to have confidence, but if she doesn't, can she really enjoy life in itself? Be glad that seduction is teaching you confidence.

Don't ask for a lighter load, ask for a broader back to carry it.

As guys if we don't have every single aspect to our lives in order (diet, exercise, meditation, reading, career) and god forbid we have depression or social anxiety, we don't have a chance. Every single piece to the puzzle has to be on point.

I know guys who don't diet that get laid. I know guys who don't exercise that get laid. I certainly know guys who don't read or meditate. For the top women these are probably required.

This is coming from my experience. There was a point in my life where I felt on top of the world. I attracted my ex-girlfriend this way, we dated for almost a year and a half, and then she left me and completely shit on me. She says she's "miserable", but I know she's going out every weekend, traveling, probably having all kinds of sex, and having the time of her life. Here I am six months later, with crippling depression thanks to her, zero female attention, no friends, left with nothing. I lost.

That's good for her. Another human being is enjoying their life. She got bored of you, and all women will eventually. You can't control it, so why bother?

I fully understand how ignorant this post is, but why does it have to be this way? I'm just pissed off due to the fact that if I want to enjoy myself and get drunk a certain weekend, or slip a little bit on my diet, I'll fall back into a mood less than optimal, and just like that, girls don't want anything to do with me. I can't I guess I just needed to let this out, and try to look at this from a different perspective if anyone could provide their point of view.

You can do these things and get laid.

The way you talk, you honestly sound like you would rather be a woman than a man. You think being a woman is the easy life, but you don't account for the insecure fat chicks and the ugly women. They are invisible to you, so why would you devote any energy to them? You're thinking of the mega hot girls that could coast on looks.

Sure, these girls exist, and they probably lead good lives, but what's better than being a man? Due to our Y chromosome, we are more ambitious, aggressive, and confident. You get to grab her by the throat while she gags on your dick instead of getting fucked by Life.

Take your workouts for example. Do you like doing them? Well, because you're a man, you're automatically better than around 48 percent of the planet solely because they're women. You have testosterone bro. You can get more swole in two years than the vast majority of women will in their entire life.

You have testosterone bro. You don't bleed 1/4 of a month and you're not on an emotional rollercoaster. You belong to the half of the planet that made the pyramids and shit.

Why wouldn't you want to be a man?

Working for things is masculine. Accepting them is feminine.

ProfsrChaos · 2018-04-07T01:35:12+00:00

You're certainly not alone in feeling frustrated. Also what u/GuyFromDaStore said is true. Everyone has costs and struggles getting attention from the people they want. Sure some girls can get away with what you described, but there are serious social costs because the world also seriously shames women for having any sort of pleasure sexually. Basically what I'm saying is everyone has frustrations .

Look if you're trying to pull the "personal development lever" as many times as you can hoping money and girls will pop out if you go through the motions enough, it's not going to happen. I think part of your struggle is having a mindset that you should be getting more from life because you are trying to better yourself. The world doesn't owe you anything. The irony is the moment you desire to seriously put in the work to be better for it's own sake and stop excepting a reward, that's when they come.

I hope things turn around for you man.

idontdrinksoda42 · 2018-04-07T04:57:44+00:00

I definitely feel this way sometimes. But everybody has their own issues. Women might get sex easy, but they have to put up with tons of men, many of them obsessive or creepy, pursuing them. Rape is a much bigger issue. And the consequences of sex can be much more serious for women. Not everybody has the same problems. But everybody does have problems. Just be the best version of yourself you can be. Not for women. But for yourself. Sex and women lay on the road to happiness but they are not the end goal.

tooeasilybored · 2018-04-07T05:19:38+00:00

It doesn't have to be that way. The reason working out, meditation and all that stuff is suggested when you are going through a rough time is because the "work" is really not the important part. The point is to get you back into the game of life, explore things and doing things rather than sitting at home being bitter.

It doesn't sound like you enjoy doing any of that stuff and are only doing it because for some reason you think life will get better if you do.

Work on yourself, if you think you gotta look like vin diesel to get girls you are sadly mistaken and even if you somehow got to that stage you probably won't have much success. You are a hollow shell at that point, the initial attraction will be there but there's no one home.

GuyFromDaStore · 2018-04-07T01:24:49+00:00

Why does it have to be so fucking hard for us? An attractive girl can get shitfaced drunk on the weekends, have a terrible diet, doesn't need to exercise, can have no confidence in herself, and can have all the sex she wants with anyone at any time and still have an incredible, exciting life.

Not true at all. There are plenty of attractive girls who complain that they're almost completely invisible to guys. Just get on /r/amiugly and you see loads of really cute girls who have such terrible self esteem posting pics of themselves. Frankly I scratch my head wondering how they are single.

LimitedContributor · 2018-04-07T02:52:59+00:00

I know how you feel, man. I got rejected just yesterday and all it took was one slip to end up feeling like I was labeled. In a worst way.

Wrathchild7 · 2018-04-07T02:20:53+00:00

I understand your frustrations but your post is not true at all. I have pulled girls shitfaced while on 3-4 different drugs. Its about confidence and having fun. Your focusing way too much on inner game. Outer game is more important for hookups. Dress nicely/get nice haircut and go to places that are lit af and have alot of hot girls. Enjoy life's experiences stop focusing on results enjoy the process.

RonSwanson64 · 2018-04-07T09:27:59+00:00

“Fair” is an event which features dangerous rides run by shady characters, and overpriced cotton candy.

It’s not something men should concern themselves with.

AbsolutelyExcellent · 2018-04-07T10:19:15+00:00

Society hasn't yet realized this social expectation that's placed on men exists.

plowzedong · 2018-04-07T01:46:05+00:00

Why is the sub increasingly becoming a place where people vent about their problems.

Get a friend

smshimm · 2018-04-07T10:24:50+00:00

Most girls aren't shit face drunk, have a terrible diet, don't need to exercise, have no confidence and have sex with who ever they want. Just look out in public during the daytime. Most women are not attractive, men don't notice us and we have to work our ass off at school and work to get buy like everyone else.

If your girlfriend was miserable with you and is now going out every weekend, traveling, having all kinds of sex and the time of her life then good for her! Honey, she made that happen for herself. It wasn't a race. She just wanted something else. You didn't "lose" cause there's nothing to "win"

As for you slipping into a mood, well, honey, reverse the roll. If you were at a bar, saw someone you were attracted to, had a decent conversation then suddenly they started telling you about how terribly depressed they were you would be outta there like a shot too.

And that "Self improvement" diet? What? Everyone watches porn. It's fine. Watch porn. Have sugar, play video games and meditation is for assholes that are too scared to go out and socialize with their own gender. Just do shit in moderation. You're not some animal that when you're let out of your cage you go insane. You're a person. You make decisions. Decisions that bass a lot of your existence on how happy you will be.

I guarantee you're miserable because you restrict yourself to all these rules because you think people will like you if you act a certain way. they wont. People like you when you do what makes you happy. So stop fucking meditating, call a friend, eat some pizza, have some beers and a conversation where you're actually speaking to each other rather than about what you think you should be. No one gives a shit what you think you should be. We care what you are.

Title	A rant about unfairness
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	4
Comments	24
Date	April 7, 2018 12:46 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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