Am I a bitch?

Back2theCouture · 2026-02-22T23:45:19+00:00

Don’t blame it on seduction. Idk why you seduced someone if you’re not really attracted to her. That’s like playing fire.

I’d just apologize to her. Not in order to get her back. But I think you feeling sick because you know deep down you hurt her.

Good thing she stopped talking to you, she’s trying to protect herself. This is the proper silence people do for themselves. Not to punish others, but to protect themselves.

Virtual_Ad_4817 · 2026-02-23T03:15:07+00:00

Don't seduce girls you aren't attracted to. You're just doing that because it's easy, and you didn't value it for the same reason.

Truth is, you're not really doing "seduction" at all. If what you're saying is true you just took advantage of a chick who probably doesn't get a lot of attention from guys.

Literally anyone can do that.

The point of learning this is to get the girls you thought were out of your league before. And prove to yourself you're worthy of more than you thought.

un_known_27411 · 2026-02-23T04:05:19+00:00

Is this your first time?

forextrader82 · 2026-02-23T19:16:36+00:00

Hey, here's my $02.

Sounds like you have learned a lesson from this.

I'm not even going to PRETEND to understand why you did this. Everyone has their own reasons. To guess would be insulting to you.

But... I would recommend doing some self-reflection / shadow work / emotional work on this. Figure out why you did this.

In general, I love women. I love sex. I love sex with women.

I think it is possible to do this seduction thing without having to hurt people.

I have some core rules: Don't lie just to get sex. Don't pursue women who are VERY clearly looking for something serious. Present yourself as a sexual person and let them make choices. Don't lead women on. I mostly pursue women who are in a "fun phase" / curious about kink and BDSM / or are in ENM or open relationships.

I have slept with a lot of women and I never had to hurt anyone to do it... and it's to avoid situations exactly like this. I think you can do the same, too!

Embarrassed_Peace277 · 2026-02-23T08:55:11+00:00

I get it man. Loneliness can make you turn to a girl you’re unnatracted to, then you start caring about them (not necessarily becoming attracted). It makes it much harder when things end. But hey, you need to live your life, i’m sure you both learned something from it. A rule i have is always leave them better off than when you found them (this is something i had to adopt because this feeling of guilt wouldnt go away). Having a conscience + using seduction techniques can work, and i’d say it’s a strength not a weakness.

Morty7654345 · 2026-02-22T21:32:19+00:00

happens to the best of us, forgive yourself.

vertascend · 2026-02-23T02:21:10+00:00

Look here; you don’t really know if you’re actually attracted to someone till much later, anything before that is puppy love; guilt after long term investment is valid… in this case, you tested the waters and it wasn’t your cup of tea… so why would you persist… but honesty is the key… tell her gently and genuinely that you don’t think you’re meant for each other and move on buddy…. She seems kind and so do you so act like mature adults and communicate and move on

NameTooCool · 2026-02-23T21:19:11+00:00

Don't seduce women you don't like, you should feel bad. Learn from this and move on.

letoiv · 2026-02-24T18:56:51+00:00

There is a credo which you should try to live up to if you're going to date a lot of women: Leave her better than you found her. If you don't, then congratulations you're a jackass.

Flower-Bender · 2026-02-22T21:06:46+00:00

ur not a bitch bc i do the same thing and no way i would call myself a bitch

👍

themainManKaibaMan · 2026-02-23T05:35:00+00:00

yeah, I don’t listen to you’re being a bitch but like you genuinely felt bad do you genuinely want I’m going for mistakes or do you just wanna say you’re a bitch because yes, you are a bitch.

You said you weren’t treat her right-why do you want someone? What do you want? Why did you try to seduce someone that you weren’t attracted to answer those questions to yourself? Why?

Altruistic-Taste-127 · 2026-02-24T15:10:47+00:00

Yes.

Suppenspucker · 2026-02-25T23:05:37+00:00

You seduced her and even after some time it still didn’t click (enough); she moved on first. All good. That’s how things go. You feel shattered because….?

Would it have been any better/different if the parameters 1 you seduced her and 3 she left you stay the same, but 2 you did care, either a) from the beginning or b) not until later? Would that really change much if anything at all?

If your feelings are triggered by this event, it’s not the girl or her actions. You might have to admit that you were in fact attached to the idea of having someone you don’t care about. Or you might have beliefs about putting a girl on a pedestal and you clearly „failed“ at that.

We don’t know if you’re a good person, to me it seems you are, but you also seem to doubt that. We cannot know.

Sorry-Place6291 · 2026-02-23T00:46:59+00:00

You’re good man that’s cool you’re aware of it. I personally stopped doing it and if was very straight forward about it in the future. Which sometimes still backfires but at least you let em know up front and they agreed.

Trust is beautiful with side chicks

Title	Am I a bitch?
Author	ExtensionScratch9788
Upvotes	8
Comments	14
Date	February 22, 2026 8:33 PM UTC (5 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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