AskSeddit: does going to the gym regularly make a big difference from a PUA standpoint?

EthicalReasoning · 2010-02-07T21:47:23+00:00

youll look better, feel more confident, and have more testosterone, and have a new place to meet women. yes.

buythatfromus · 2010-02-07T21:40:16+00:00

It's a statement. "I take care of myself. I value myself." It's an indicator of self esteem which the babes go for.

Make your outside reflect your inside. If your inner game still needs work then "fake it 'til you make it" and workout and look good anyway. Sometimes one may be built upon the other.

rustoof · 2010-02-08T04:03:50+00:00

You will get better results though if you have a better reason to go the gym then just "get women." I took up boxing. Made me look alpha and is a great motivator for serious fitness.

2010-02-08T03:13:40+00:00

I think the common view on this one is how you look doesn't matter; how you feel and act is everything. If you can achieve that sense of self without it, the gym won't really help. However, for most guys, feeling confident in their body has an effect on how they act and feel so it can add that extra edge to your performance.

ntou45 · 2010-02-07T23:14:21+00:00

If it makes you more confident (and it does), then it makes a difference.

ngroot · 2010-02-08T17:22:51+00:00

Being physically fit will make you more energetic, more confident, healthier, better-looking, and generally a more desirable person to be around. So, yes, hit the gym or otherwise find a way to keep in shape.

alphawolf9999 · 2010-02-07T22:39:50+00:00

yes definitely

mynewname · 2010-02-08T18:27:03+00:00

This is a great question and I feel uniquely qualified to answer it because I've just recently done it in real life.

I got into PUA about six to eight months ago.

I got into daily gym/fitness about the same time.

Last Saturday I went out for the first time in a couple months (I've had a few FB's on rotation so haven't needed to). I went out to the local meat market yuppie bar and pulled one of the top three most attractive girls there for an SNL. (A solid 8.5-9, 26yo, 5'9, 110lbs).

I was in and doing well in the set, had friended her BFF/CB, but she was waffling on the pull back to my place. She is skinny and tall so I was teasing her about being fat. She showed me her flat, perfect stomach.

I said "Wow, that's not too bad. You have the second best stomach in here."

She immediately slipped her hand up under my shirt (I was wearing a tight gray vneck undershirt with a grey ribbed sweater jacket over it so I wasn't the gym rat in tight tshirt guy. The sweater covered it up enough to not be showing off, yet still look good.). She rubbed my six pack and I could immediately just see it in her eyes. She went from smiling and light flirting to flustered, circuits blown. You could literally just see her give up and resign herself to the fact that "Yeah, this guy I just met is going to take me home and have sex with me. Yes, I'm going to do every dirty thing he tells me to. God, why do I do this to myself?"

At that point it was obviously just a matter of marking time and getting logistics in order.

I've never had a six pack before in my life. I've been reasonably fit but never ripped. I've been doing the "Insanity" work out videos (the new hard core fitness DVD's from the same guys that made P90-X, Beach Body.) for a week and it finally got me from regular guy to shredded.

It was an EXTREMELY eye opening experience to compare pre and post gym body results when running identical game.

My takeaway is that being extremely in shape not only gives you amazing confidence which shows through, but you just feel better in general and WANT to be active and happy. On top of that, it makes gaming top tier attractive women about 10-15% easier. It's like playing a game on hard instead of insanity. It's still a hell of a challenge regardless (hitting home runs is always tough, even if you're Babe Ruth). Don't think of it as a crutch, rather, you now have that RPG in your inventory to soften up/neutralize the level boss. You can't win the level with just the RPG, but it sure is nice when evening the odds on the toughest challenges.

Good luck! - S

Novish · 2010-02-08T17:51:26+00:00

You can meet women there.
You can make new guy friends who might afford new opportunities.
Working out releases endorphins into your bloodstream, like a natural mood enhancer.
The old saying is true.."a healthy body equals a healthy mind".
You can meet women there.
You can meet women there....get the point? ;)

psykocrime · 2010-02-08T18:44:22+00:00

I think so. Even if looks aren't as important to women, there are a LOT of other reasons to work out. I find - as I think most people would - that being fit gives me more energy, more confidence and just an all around more positive outlook. There's something about participating in something challenging and seeing yourself make progress over time that has a strong psychological impact.

Lifting weights can also increase your testosterone levels which helps make your more confident, more aggressive, etc. Not a bad thing for doing pickup...

2010-02-09T20:26:36+00:00

It teaches you the habit of "keeping on doing something".

RodneyPeete · 2010-03-24T03:51:36+00:00

No you will still be just as much of a douche

Title	AskSeddit: does going to the gym regularly make a big difference from a PUA standpoint?
Author	throwaway1997
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Date	February 7, 2010 9:20 PM UTC (16 years ago)
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