Assumptions are Destroying your Chances

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2026-02-26T22:35:31+00:00

i agree. I went from "OMG she is out of my league" to "you know what im fun to be around. if she can't see that than her loss".

I went from "she wants to be left alone." to "she seems like she could use a friend".

I went from "theyre in a group ill leave them be" to "that group looks really cool let me see if theyre as fun as they look".

I went from "omg im talking to her how can i get her unmber" to "she sounds really cool, i want to know more about where's she's from and shoot the shit".

Honestly started seeing more results when my default mode went to the latter of each.

epimpstyle · 2026-02-26T23:09:30+00:00

ASSUME that every girl will like me.

Yes, it’s a nice start to get your adrenaline going but it’s tough when you realize you're wrong. If you're in the right mood, it won't really bother you.

laugh at your own joke

Yes and no. You shouldn't take these things too seriously, but you can't afford to be delusional either. What if you say something and you're the only one who finds it funny? You need to adapt; you need to make adjustments.

Long8D · 2026-02-26T22:37:15+00:00

Yeah this is so true and honestly applies to life in general too. If you constantly have negative thoughts running in your head, your brain starts to wire itself around that energy and literally leads you toward those outcomes. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.

if you wake up and tell yourself "today is gonna be a bad day" guess what, it probably will be because your brain is literally filtering everything through that lens. You start noticing every little thing that goes wrong and ignoring everything that goes right.

Same thing with people who say "im just unlucky" or "nothing ever works out for me" they've just trained their brain to look for evidence that confirms that belief. And your brain is really good at finding exactly what you tell it to look for.

There's actually a book on this Psycho Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz. The guy was a plastic surgeon who noticed that even after fixing people's faces, some of them still felt ugly and acted the same way. He realized the real issue was never physical, it was always the image they had of themselves in their head.

You need to develop the best image of yourself in your head.

Comprehensive_Cup582 · 2026-02-26T22:56:26+00:00

So much success overall depends on how you perceive the world around you. I’m still working on it but it’s such a joy to live a life, when you manage to get into this “everything is going to be just fine because, common, it’s me we are talking about” mindset.

You do not question how to do something, you just do and it works and if it doesn’t you’ve already spotted 10 more better opportunities

Remarkable_Outside67 · 2026-02-27T11:04:50+00:00

I think this part explains it really well: “I ASSUME that every girl will like me. I have it in my mind that I’m hilarious, attractive, and the best option for any girl, because my energy is amazing.” I think that ties a lot into the confidence you carry with you.

In my case, I try not to consciously think like that. But realistically, a lot of the women I’ve gone out with this year end up proving that point by coming back and reaching out again after some time.

At the end of the day, I believe that as men we’re often competing against an “invisible” enemy — and because of that, we tend to oversell ourselves.

doctorhedge · 2026-02-27T11:47:21+00:00

This is so true. Whenever I take a time of from the game and restart, I intuitively perceive it as a challenge to prove myself. The key point is being "delusional", since you already deluding yourself in a such contest, trying to persuade a "higher value". It's just a game out minds play.

TuneSoft7119 · 2026-02-27T15:45:20+00:00

How do you shift to the mindset that every girl will like you if all you have ever experienced in life is every girl not liking you?

How do you learn to ignore years of experience and results telling you one thing and then believing something 100% opposite?

Title	Assumptions are Destroying your Chances
Author	Awkward_Freedom_4551
Upvotes	61
Comments	15
Date	February 26, 2026 10:30 PM UTC (5 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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