The most attractive thing a man can be today is completely in his own lane, completely unattached and a source of unlimited good energy. If you are in the frame of mind where there is nothing but upside, fun, and ZERO judgement, you will get the greatest reactions and experiences from 99% of women. If you have even THE SLIGHTEST bit of judgement/neediness seeping through your sub-communication, you are deemed a total loser and will be forced into the provider role. Women will tell you they dont smash on the first date, they dont hoe it up, and will lie directly to your face, and the second you turn around the fun guy who "gets it" will be making out with her and take her home.

now, the way that you shift into this world view stems from understanding your place in the world, understanding that we are all connected and there is no need to compare yourself to anyone.

especially if you are not traditionally attractive/tall, (im 5'6 and average looking) you have to mentally brainwash yourself into behaving how the most attractive men behave. you MUST convince yourself fully that you are the FUCKING MAN.

This is a PROCESS.... at first it will feel completely foreign and people will even call you out for it. howver, it is CRUCIAL that you POWER THROUGH these initial stages where it feels forced, and if you do, eventually it become a new subconcious way you view yourself. you can speed this up with psychedelics/ deep meditation practices, but both are essentially usless without massive action, aka gaming and sarging HARD.

if you end up sticking with it, women will naturally validate your frame because you are fully convinced that you are just that guy.

you have to categorically step outside of the perceived average man, and step into the inner circle, where the rules dont apply, where women will be extremely sexual with you instantly, and know that you are just that type if guy.

the point of this post is to reach the guy who is still believing that a good job and muscles is the answer. i see them out EVERY NIGHT. they stand by the bar, value scanning, and are NOT the source of good emotions. they are the LEAST engaged and the MOST attatched to outcomes, which absolutely DESTROYS attraction.

the golden nugget : whoever is the MOST engaged, and the LEAST attatched to outcomes WINS.