I was recently asked by a kid why his fuckbuddy won’t date him , ended the fbuddy relationship and started dating a “scrub “ .” I spike her emotions , I act like a man , give her multiple orgasm …..(and on and on mentioning his car , his job) , but she started dating that (proceeded to insult the man to oblivion) . Why ? “

And I answered : because he is more attractive .

Which lead to talking about looks and how was that possible and other excuses .

And since this happens here a lot . I decided to clarify .

Also I decided to make it as a school experience so most of you would be reminded of the good days of getting wedges and being made fun of . Enjoy

Welcome to women 101 I will be you teacher .

In today’s lesson I will be explaining what attraction is . Because I see a lot of you get confused and then bitch about it .

  1. A few maxims just in case you are extremely new :

A) Attraction is not a choice .

B) Women work in emotions

C) Attraction is not logical (aka questions don’t exist in emotions )

D) (If i don’t decide to make how to do it a different post ) She doesn’t have to like you to love you .

  1. What attraction isn’t .

Now I know we all think that connecting to a person or turning them on or even Attraction(the pua term) is what gets someone attracted to you . (And this 50 posts/week of people having problems )

It isn’t:

A) Connecting - It makes people trust you and it also makes you less hot .

B) Showing you are of high value - this makes you the prize , it makes them chase you or tolerate you for longer . It how ever is not attraction

  • Having money - yes women would love to spend it for no particular effort on their part - The money is attractive not YOU . You loose it they dump you .

  • Status - same as the money , It is attractive not YOU .

  • Looks - just sorta . Looks are usually subjective (but they do make you attractive if she likes you - you will get why later )

  • DHV (Mystery style) - you sharing food is awesome and all , but again THE FOOD is attractive not you . If you can’t give food you won’t matter .

I know some of his insides are genius , I’m just making a point .

C) Sexual Arousal - don’t get me wrong she will be hot for you if she is attracted . But her being turned on is not her being attracted

D) Attraction (The pua term) - This is also know as Pumping emotions or Buying temperature . In just makes her want to stuck around you . It is not attraction . It won’t lead (on Its own) to anything besides maybe friendship .

E) It is not” investment “ (including compliance ) - this would make Losing you bad , but it is not what attraction is (side note : if you get a lot of flakes this is why : she has no stakes in dealing with you.)

2 what is attraction ?

A) explaining the feeling : If you have had Approach anxiety , you know exactly how you feel around the people you are attracted to .

It is a tenseness as if your chest is being griped ,you hart starts pumping …(for thouse of you that haven’t had it )

How do you act around your crush ? (Talking about nerd you not after all this self improvement stuff)

Awkward ,a bit on edge , scared with what you are saying .

And that is the feeling of attraction

Side note : Anxiety is excitement with a negative connotation . it is more a logical problem than an emotional one . Thus why nerds feel it more .

B) So what the feeling of attraction is : A tenseness that she can’t explain .

You might be wondering why she can’t explain it - Emotions don’t have questions attached . So if there is an answer other than just because - it is not attractive .

An example with Kino : “Why I’m I getting turned on - Ooo he is touching me so it is because of the touching “ . “Why is the touch getting me aroused - it must be because I like being touched “ .

The touch gets the attraction not you .

Another example : DHVing - “Why am I chasing him , because he has money , Why Do I want the money ? Because I get stuff . Why do I want stuff ? I just do “ and the stuff (not even the money ) gets the attraction .

What game was (now it is even dumber) is this :

Spike emotions (to get her to pay attention to me)

Show I’m valuable (so she would feel like loosing me is a bad thing )

Try to get her to invest (so she wants to stick around me more (loosing me is a loss on her investment) )

Take her to a sex location (so we can have sex)

Turn her on (so she would be turned on )

And then questions like :

why did she flake (the investment she made wasn’t wort tolerating you )

I attracted (the pua term) her , why won’t see sleep with me . - just because she was willing to tolerate you for longer doesn’t mean she would fuck you .

But I turned her on - Yes and if she sleeps with you it is because you are convenient . Not that she actually likes you sexually .

What modern game is :

She finds me good looking

I go up and talk

Shit happens . If I’m lucky

And then the questions repeat .

So attraction is “Any tension , she can’t explain other than Just because”

And there is the bell . I’m not ending it here because I got lazy . It is the bell , blame it .

Homework : Find a way to cause that tension . And share it with the class . The best students get a gold star (or some shit)