Bad nights are brutal

MercurialAssassn · 2026-02-02T02:04:19+00:00

Tone it down. To call a girl "sexy" in your opening has a strong sexual connotation. It's obvious you are gonna get rejected because there is an undwrtone that yells "I want to fuck you" Tell them something like "you have a cute look" or "you have an interesting look" and follow up with an observation about their look or vibe. That shows you are interested, but not in a creepy sexual way, but more in a curious way. Just do it with confidence and respect, and if she invests, just be playfull in the interaction and do little escalations.

Disastrous_Affect742 · 2026-02-02T01:23:40+00:00

Have some containment and restraint in your speech. You dont have to act be polite but don't play your full hand right away it seems desperate

ultratraditionalist · 2026-02-02T05:16:49+00:00

Last night I tried to turn it up a notch, I basically just walked up to the girls and be like " I like your energy, you have a sexy vibe " right away with strong eye contact, and I had really bad results. Some girls were like "are you for real, gtfo".

You have the right idea, but the execution is garbage. Listen, women know you want to fuck them. Boys have been trying to fuck them since they've been 14 years old. Making a conversation "man to woman" doesn't mean being crass or weirdly sexual, it means engaging in the push-pull dynamic which is common in things like relationships, dance, sex, and all kinds of other "social games."

One of my go-to's is: "I love your pants/dress/shoes"--keep in mind this isn't game, it's usually a genuine compliment if she's wearing something sexy or that I find interesting. Women ADORE being complimented on what they wear. Have you ever had a girlfriend? Do you understand how much money women spend on clothes and how much time they spend on looking cute? It's absurd. Just earlier today, I saw a beautiful blonde at my regular coffee shop and I just felt like complimenting her t-shirt, had a super dope design. I even was a bit rude because she was doing some work on her laptop but she was SO excited to talk to me, it was kind of adorable (like damn girl, you should be getting a ton of compliments, she was legitimately model-tier).

So compliment something feminine about her that she put a lot of thought into. Like her pants or shoes, or nails, or something. If she's receptive (you can read the vibe basically instantly after a very low-stakes compliment like that), I sometimes like to follow-up with something edgier, like "you have a great ass too, so I'm sure that helps" (if it's a nightlife scenario, I'd likely never say that in a grocery store).

The first compliment is the "pull," and this second edgier comment is the "push." But you can do this dynamic in all kinds of ways. Give her a side-hug her while saying "I hate you," buy her a drink but playfully tell her that she's buying the next one, etc. It's all meant to be fun and games.

AlienCopulator · 2026-02-02T09:02:47+00:00

Holy shit the line you were using is cringe as fuck. Generally going up to girls and using the same preset line is not good game. Whole post is giving desperation

Nigelthornfruit · 2026-02-02T11:39:41+00:00

It’s like the gym bro , tough reps but your lifting power increases. Usually next morning you feel fine anyway.

Prestigious_Water336 · 2026-02-02T12:14:05+00:00

You should read my guide

https://drive.google.com/file/d/13epRH0_XvIDOnX0GAqAwsnYw7FmMpBsc/view?usp=drive_link

jackthehat6 · 2026-02-02T13:24:26+00:00

it's a numbers game. Gotta just keep going! When you find the ones who want you, it's easy

Eloyoley · 2026-02-02T13:37:46+00:00

Your post reveals outcome depence. You need to enjoy dance or giving yourself "points" because you had the courage to open. In this way you'll reduce friction.

TheDogelizer · 2026-02-02T14:30:04+00:00

First of all, congrats on experimenting! The cool thing about experiments is that you learn from them, yup, even from failures.

Second of all, you're on the right track, bro. Keep on going.

The only thing I'd add is that, as long as your mindset is to have fun during the night no matter the outcome, then you'll be fine. I used to focus on "get ass" only when going out, and I was having a miserable existence. I'm no hot hunk, so more often than not I got rejected and it sucked to go back home with a deflected attitude. Today I make a point of having fun no matter what. No women? Doesn't matter, had fun. The morning after is much, much better. Got a woman? Awesome! And I've observed that having fun just improves my overall game.

Matter_Still · 2026-02-02T07:20:54+00:00

Being a practitioner of "game" invites the kind of discomfort you are experiencing. When I was in college, if we went out to a club, we either saw a girl (or two--usually one) who we found attractive enough to approach. If it didn't go well, that was the end of it. We lived to fight another day. No regrets.

"Game" suggests you flit from girl to girl like a bee cross-pollinating flowers until you have a success. Meanwhile, your brain and body is keeping score. If you get one particularly harsh response, it can be traumatic.

Yeah, I know: don't take it personally. "It's not you, it's them."

There's a Japanese saying, "Whether the knife falls on a melon or the melon on the knife, it's the melon that suffers." Would you take it personally if a girl spits on you? I sure as hell would. Harsh words can be equally as abusive and leave a physical mark on the brain.

If you make it a point to only approach girls whom you find attractive and who lead you to think you might want to know more about them, rather than chasing multiple "3-4 girls" twice a week, you'll reduce the odds of feeling mortified.

A mantra of game practitioners is that it is a numbers game. True, but that blade cuts both ways. Relentless approaches may increase your chance of success, but it will also increase the probability of being brutalized.

You have to decide on the tradeoff.

Title	Bad nights are brutal
Author	Bokolo0
Upvotes	15
Comments	11
Date	February 2, 2026 1:05 AM UTC (6 months ago)
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