Okay, this is sort of an FR, i've been on like 4 first dates the past week and all have moderate success, but i seem to be unable to close on most dates despite the cards being set up, and then i don't get a second date even though the girl suggests one in person.

Date #1 Tinder girl invited me over to have wine and snacks. We did and talked for a bit. She asked to lay down with her and i did. Started physically escalating but she was taking it super slow. We made it to the point where we are making out naked and doing hand stuff. She stopped it after that, said she wanted a real daytime date first. Ghosted over text

Date #2 Cool hinge girl, actual LTR material. Daytime date that lasted a while and was great. Made out at the end. Logistics werent there to pull. Texted a bit after but eventually ghosted.

Date #3 Only solid success. Coffee/walking date with hinge girl. Escalated quickly making out in my car. She slowed down initially, and we did something else and came back to the car. Continued escalating and she sucked me off.

Date #4 Tapas with hinge girl. Drove her back to her apartment and escalated to making out in my car. I suggest we move it inside and she says "not today". I ask to use the bathroom and get up. We makeout more inside, but she refuses to escalate, saying it's not a good week. Ghosted over text after.

So whats my issue? Theyre clearly attracted enough for me to escalate that much, so why am i getting ghosted before a 2nd date? All of these girls independently suggest another date to me and seeing me again in person, without me prompting it.

I dont even mind waiting to the second date to sleep together but i just dont know what the fuck im doing wrong to be fumbling such obvious wins.