I apologize for how long this might get.
So I work with another guy (Jake) and a girl (Laura). Our office is small and we are all friendly. However, I've fallen head over heels for this woman. She and I are pretty introverted / reserved compared to Jake. Laura and I have gone out for drinks on and off and get lunch together often. We talk about Jake a lot behind his back (he's taken credit for her work, criticized her...etc ). I HATE JAKE. He's my competition to maybe get with her.
BUT....I am NOT attractive compared to Jake. This guy stepped out of GQ magazine. He's like 6'4", perfect hair, and fit. I...am not. I'm constantly seeing Laura check him out. He does all the power poses and I can watch her eyes look him up and down. He's asked her to feel the texture of his pants, recommended erotic books to her, he talks soooo much, very assertive and has a lot of life experience / stories to tell her. Jake and Laura have talked about tattoos around your private areas before and other slightly sexual things. Laura has told me that I can't talk to her about those things because it's inappropriate. But Jake can! If Laura asks for help, he stands right next to her while she's seated at her desk with his crotch in her face. She will glance at his package then up to his eyes. When Laura isn't there, he's told me he's had sex dreams about her. Oh also he is married and has kids.
We are all scheduled to fly to a conference later this fall that is a week long. Because of scheduling they will be flying together (sitting together too) and I'll be flying separately. It's a very long flight and I'm worried they will bond. I'm also worried about having to spend an entire week with them. They've both struck up conversations with each other about how drinking makes them do dumb things. So I'm afraid she will cheat with him at some point I guess?
I should also mention that Jake likes to control the situation/ conversation. So I will be eating pretty much every meal with them and feeling like a beta the whole time while they talk it up. If all three of us are talking I always feel like the odd one out. If it's just Laura and I, I feel like a million bucks and I feel chemistry.
I was planning to tell Laura how I truly felt during this work trip but I'm afraid that she's not interested / I've been friendzoned and will talk to Jake about it afterwards. I'm also wondering how it would look if I asked Laura to grab drinks with just me at some point during this conference? And in general, how do I compete with this married super model guy that clearly has an interest in her?
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