Date bailed what's next?

readonlyuser · 2025-06-28T09:01:18+00:00

I, for one, am shocked- SHOCKED! to discover that women ghost on dates. This will shake the Seduction community to the core, mark my words.

throwaway13630923 · 2025-06-28T13:43:02+00:00

I’m sorry dude but you handled this pretty awfully. You lost your cool with her and if she wasn’t interested earlier she certainly isn’t now. I would’ve basically just said bye and let her chase me if she wanted to.

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-06-28T11:22:19+00:00

Women won't care if they are inconsiderate with ur time.. It's like arguing with a cat. So all those comments about "you couldn't have know earlier" of course she does because it's just an excuse, she is probablly not even at her job. Her excuse is just translation for "i don't feel like going". ANd yes women don't care if you believe that they should have said that earlier.

Which is why you also should not do activities that rely on a woman showing up. You want to invite her to things you are going to do with or without her either way. As in, you are not just there for her, but for the activity or event that's happening, if she does not show up, you still do that activity without her.

Since you clearly had nothing to do if she didn't show up, you should have just said: "Hey im at the place, i just met some cool people, let me know when you arrive".

that way a woman who is about to cancel last minute cannot feel like she can ruin ur day. If she shows up and asks where the people are, you just say "oh they already left" if she never shows up then in her mind she believes that you had fun with other people. Which allows you to save face.

But generally for first dates or second dates, you should invite her to things that don't require her to be there and which you can do on your own.

Ok_Potential359 · 2025-06-28T13:32:19+00:00

You handled it like shit TBH. Those were super needy text messages.

MrBonMot · 2025-06-28T14:17:29+00:00

I would have gone into the club/bar found the hottest chick there and started flirting with her by explaining you got stood up and how uncool that is. Then take a selfie with the hot chick and text it to the other with the line, I found your replacement for tonight.

Chiiiicckkeeennn · 2025-06-28T13:17:06+00:00

Asking for the why or explanation is feminine and not needed.

Dandys3107 · 2025-06-29T11:14:26+00:00

It’s generally easier to attract new option than trying to persuade low investment girl. I can feel that you are very bitter that women handle interactions like that, but you just need to embrace that it is how their brain and hormonal triggers work, definitely different from logical masculine perspective. Improve your attractive masculine features, put yourself out there to potentially get more opportunities. In current dating market women can play around and be very picky, adjust your strategy to that, you won’t change female nature.

riordanajs · 2025-06-28T10:02:53+00:00

Another date, then another and another.

Also, do something cool and post about in socials, if you want to cultivate fomo.

CoachSlyDating · 2025-06-29T02:54:03+00:00

Flakes can happen to pretty much anyone. Sometimes things come up and girls have to change plans. Sometimes they test your character. If you handle it calmly and just let her know that you “only like girls who respect your time” you can get another chance at a date. Any more criticism than that will come off as butthurt and needy.

monkey36937 · 2025-06-29T11:03:21+00:00

This is why coffee dates are good. She doesn't show you have your drink and go, you ignore her calls and messages afterwards. You don't reply at all.

Affectionate-Ant4888 · 2025-06-29T16:17:09+00:00

thats why you should stack many dates and also its most likely you didnt demostrate enough value, women always flake because the man doesnt offer enough value, too generic, Women have a crazy amount of options even the women who are not the best looking LOL, work on demonstrating value, read the old books man; speed seduction is still powerful, the mystery routines, there is so much out there.

BatBottleBank · 2025-06-28T09:23:33+00:00

Just invite girls over to your house, that way you don’t care if they flake.

WinterArcc · 2025-06-29T09:31:40+00:00

Honestly, that’s just how it is these days. They match with you, chat a bit, everything seems fine… and then they ghost. You set up a date, show up, wait around — and she never comes. No message, nothing.

It sucks, but that’s the world we live in right now. You can’t really do much about it. Just move on and meet other girls. Simple as that. Maybe some day you will find a quality woman whom u will have kids with.

mysteryplays · 2025-06-28T12:52:39+00:00

She was at my place bro, you can have her back now, I'm done.

Title	Date bailed what's next?
Author	Slow_Ad9049
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Date	June 28, 2025 8:45 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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