Dating apps suck

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norwegiandoggo · 2024-05-25T08:28:42+00:00

A little tip to improve on this part of your game:

Instead of waiting a set time with any woman, instead look for her interest and effort. As soon as she begins to show interest - that's when you begin to slowly move the direction towards an innocent meeting like getting a coffee during the day. Some show massive interest right away. Some are cold fish even after 20 messages.

But in general, lots of rejection is normal anywhere. On dating apps just like real life. Lots of people use dating apps without any real intentions to meet anyone. Move on from them quick.

On average, i ask them out maybe after 10-20 messages. But it depends most on her shown interest level.

If after 30 messages or so she still doesn't want to meet i unmatch. You have to be careful to not waste your time on time wasters.

DaygameCode · 2024-05-25T12:24:26+00:00

Most women don’t use dating apps seriously.

They use them for free validation and attention. It’s a way to remind themselves that they are still wanted and desired when they feel insecure or depressed.

Women don’t need dating apps to find someone to date or sleep with. If they go out with a guy it’s a rare occurrence that they do just a couple of times in their lives very spread out.

Tatleman68 · 2024-05-25T10:17:11+00:00

Some girls just can't hold a conversation themselves and expect the other guy to do all the work.

Going on a coffee date in a public area is okay even if you don't know each other well. That's the whole point of the coffee date

Kagenikakushiteru · 2024-05-25T09:43:56+00:00

Dude I liked the photos of like 60-70 girls these 2 days. One of the cuter ones I hardly had a conversation and we meeting later for a drink (assuming she doesn’t flake). Don’t waste time on the others just hit like if they like you back it’s game on

csgecko · 2024-05-25T11:24:25+00:00

be attractive
don’t be unattractive

appolonysian · 2024-05-25T14:01:35+00:00

Somethin to always keep in mind is that most people are on dating apps as a background validation source while they sort out other relationships/chase their “ideal” person. Never take a rejection on these seriously.

That said, I find the best approach is either a generic (open ended) opener or a humorous/qualifying remark on their appearance or profile. From there you should be shooting your shot within 3 to 5 messages.

I’ve gotten the “I needa know you more” thing before, which can be an honest thing: they’re not all as outgoing as others/might not like you like that yet. Roll with it, saying “you know what, you’re right. I gotta make sure you’re not a serial killer yet.” Or something blatantly sarcastic but also something which flips the dynamic back. Alternatively, this is a good point to say “fair enough but honestly text is a shit way to get to know people. Let’s call [your number here]”

The basis of your approach should be: use common sense and if she likes you, she likes you. Lead with confidence (by not asking for numbers or dates - suggest them). If she likes you, she’ll play along. If not, at least you don’t die begging, so to speak.

WinterTakerRevived · 2024-05-25T09:15:09+00:00

yes they tho, even if they give the illusion of tyou matching with a women means progression the actual conversion rate to date then hookup is abyssimal. if you doubt it, feel free to look at the insights of users.

you'd have a similar if not better experience meeting women in public places

Love_JWZ · 2024-05-25T07:15:38+00:00

Try finding the right balance of cockiness, and have better pictures. Also patience.

HyperByte1990 · 2024-05-25T18:58:37+00:00

Yep it's literally like being overqualified to work at a fast food place but still not getting the job because of the literally thousands of applicants. I've dated some super attractive women from dating apps and they all said they got like 8k to 10k likes in their first week on just one app. They aren't looking through all 10k lol. Timing and luck matters too much so it's like gambling vs meeting women in real life

MrAnonPoster · 2024-05-25T14:00:51+00:00

They dont. Every guy who is complaining about dating apps sucking:

Has shitty photos/looks like a homer simpson
Swipes on women out of his price range
Does not go straight for asking them out to a low pressure but fun dates

Title	Dating apps suck
Author	The_grass_ceiling
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Date	May 25, 2024 7:07 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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