Dealing with body image issues?

coralto · 2013-01-07T10:50:22+00:00

As a girl I don't give a fuck about your body, but if you've got body image issues you're a goner.

nittutt · 2013-01-07T07:23:45+00:00

Just to start i want to say that I'm chubby. I'm a bear. I have embraced this fact and that's what I'm going to try and "teach" you how i did now.

Firstly you have to start EVERY SINGLE morning, and i mean EVERY SINGLE MORNING, with looking at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself: "DAMN. I look good!". At start, it will be awkward. You won't feel that it's true. You will feel like you are lying to yourself. But there comes a moment. A moment where you think: "Well, i don't look THAT bad". That's when you know.

When you reach that point. The point of truth. Why is it truth? Well, how you look should be evaluated based SOLELY on your own opinion. Then you keep going. Keep it up until you completely agree with what you are telling yourself.

Took me around 3 months. Don't seek validation from others during this time. Just keep focusing on yourself. What you think. What you are. And how fucking good looking you are.

Well, just thought i would share this. Might seem stupid but worked GREAT for me :-)

superspas · 2013-01-07T21:42:17+00:00

GO TO THE FUCKING GYM AND EXERCISE.

LIFT HEAVY THINGS AND PUT THEM DOWN, DON'T EAT SHITTY FOOD.

2013-01-07T06:57:36+00:00

Women are more capable than men in looking past things like that. If you're sailing smoothly on everything else and they're feeling it, you're in.

But, if you are feeling self conscious hit the gym, tack on some muscle. Not to mention along with your appearance your self esteem and endorphins will be through the roof.

Happy hunting, pal.

Natten · 2013-01-07T13:57:22+00:00

Go fuck yourself and get over it. Im sorry you feel this way but you need to realize that you probably look better than most and now youre looking for a little bit more attention to reinforce that youre attractive. Same reason you turn down people but dont stop trying, you like the attention.

dre_day4 · 2013-01-07T08:27:19+00:00

People tend to exagerate their own flaws more than what people see. Go to the gym and start eating healthy, it's beneficial in all aspects!

Glitter_Cunt · 2013-01-07T11:56:23+00:00

Girl here :) Rarely comment on this board, but just want to chime in and say that what you wear can make a big difference in terms of how your frame looks. Different styles of clothing are really flattering and attractive for different male body types.

This isn't something I realized until recently when I started paying a little more attention to what men wear, but it can actually make a dramatic difference and maybe boost your confidence too :)

UnapologeticalyAlive · 2013-01-07T16:07:06+00:00

/r/fitness

leodoestheopposite · 2013-01-07T19:45:05+00:00

/r/Fitness .

Summer 2011 I was conscious as well, I would go to the beach and I would keep my tshirt on.

Summer 2012 I was looking forward to beach parties, pool parties, washing my car, any excuse to take of my shirt, and even not in the winter if I can I wear short sleeve tshirts to show my biceps. You can do it without being a douche, and ladies love it.

I don't care if it's in your mind or not DO IT, seriously DO IT.

easygohappy · 2013-01-08T00:55:54+00:00

Why are you shooting down a HB, when you have clearly already won the battle, she isn't looking at you while you are working your mojo thinking...."this guy is super skinny with a bit of tub around the middle when he's wearing a shirt, but i bet he's fucking ripped and 'sexy' as hell once i get that shirt off", your body isn't your issue i'm sure of it, it's your comfort zone, your comfort zone is currently your biggest enemy, destroy it.....and start enjoying the whole night, not just up until she invites you to F-close.

2013-01-07T17:07:35+00:00

Honestly if you're getting the opportunity to close, the girl doesn't care.

They're not expecting you to be all cut unless you've given them reason to think that. Just don't worry about it and be comfortable with yourself.

2013-01-08T09:09:42+00:00

If you can carry yourself with confidence girls/boys won't care that you have a couple extra pounds! I am 120pounds and my ex was 210, I didn't care about his body, it was his personality that I loved.

Mossgiant5 · 2013-01-08T13:22:57+00:00

Perfect example of this was me about 2 months ago. I'm a skinny 17 almost 18 year old boy who isn't physically fit. I am around 125-130 in weight which probably isn't the best for my age but I have a problem gaining more weight. Other then that I have a slight about of body fat one to a level that is unattractive and I now have a beautiful girlfriend who I assumed wouldn't go for me because I am slightly fat but she looked past as because we were already talking and she got to know me. If this girl or girls are already into you then that is t going to be a problem. Just start working out more and then you won't have to worry about it. I've only been doing a conditioning class in my high school and even my girlfriend says there's noticeable improvement and that's only been like 2 months. It all about you confidence and believing in yourself.

TheSadNick · 2013-01-07T21:27:20+00:00

If you want to lose fat instead of anything else, then stop eating bread. Look up /r/keto. It's quite simple if you don't know it;

You stop eating carbs which makes your body stop storing fat.
You eat healthy fats (yes fat, bacon etc.) And uses that as a energy source instead.

Read a little here: http://i.imgur.com/MDKU4.png

Title	Dealing with body image issues?
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Upvotes	16
Comments	42
Date	January 7, 2013 6:06 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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