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Sure-Wish3240 · 2022-09-06T12:33:21+00:00

No one is taking advantage of anyone. This is early 20s life. You are trying to understand yourself and your place in the universe, and so are the ladies you date. .

Grow into whom you would like to become. There you will find your friends and place. And keep improving your sex expertise. A Man's best assets in bed are stamina and tongue skills.

One day the woman of your dreams will be enjoying everything the ladies that are "taking advantage of you" helped you learn.

Psemna · 2022-09-06T12:12:36+00:00

Unfortunately, that's the danger of game. When I go out to a bar or a club and meet a guy there, I mostly hope for "just a good time" then myself. If you have such cool interests and you're invested in them, maybe try looking for some social circle with more girls related to that? Worst case scenario you can find some cool friends, and who knows, maybe even a relationship?

Delicatestatesmen · 2022-09-06T13:09:40+00:00

You have to work out, drink red bull and fuk your feelings away.

Zealousideal6669 · 2022-09-06T14:07:40+00:00

Just realize that you're not that as important as you think you are. People have their own problems, thoughts, feelings so they don't care about you as much as you think they do or they don't care about you at all. So if you got rejected just know that it's not reflect on you most of the time. It might reflect on you if you did something wrong and you can correct next time but If you did everything right it's just something that she's dealing with at the moment and has nothing to do with you at all. You don't have control over everything and everyone. Just move on, life always goes on with it without her as well

SnooHesitations4922 · 2022-09-06T12:48:26+00:00

I feel the best way to stop taking this stuff personally is to accept and adapt to female nature. We respect people that respect us, women respect people that don't respect them. Perhaps u meet their physical standards but connecting on that higher level is what pushed them away, especially if ur hooking up with women with lots of experience, they probably lack ability to pair bond, and always must justify spinning the next plate. They are going to use u for whatever u are willing to provide regardless, so make sure all ur providing is dick until u find the rare exception that appreciates and reciprocates the emotional and spiritual bonding.

You can't hold female nature against the women or yourself. If I get stung by a bee, I ain't getting mad at all bees or myself because it is simply what they do.

YoungAussiePrince · 2022-09-06T12:22:10+00:00

So stop letting people take advantage of you?

azicre · 2022-09-06T12:32:53+00:00

Wait 5 years.

CometAzur42069 · 2022-09-06T15:57:22+00:00

If you’re falling for people and they want not much to do with long term, that is a you thing. Driven by loneliness, insecurity, or other personal issues that were shaped by past experiences. This isnt meant to offend or criticize, but it’s important to develop past this. Women and men are both guilty of this esp in their 20s.

A person with experience or better in touch with themselves does not fall or get upset with women who may or may not want anything more than a hookup. They enjoy time together, and if there is nothing after they move on. There is no need to fall and cry about it, you know it wasnt right and theres plenty of fish in see. You also know there wasnt even 1/10 of enough time to see if you guys were actually fit long term.

Ploikblah · 2022-09-06T13:05:29+00:00

The problems I wish I had

texaspete3 · 2022-09-06T13:21:20+00:00

ego. You have to get over your own ego.

CanUnusual8729 · 2022-09-06T14:45:41+00:00

I used to struggle with this type of thing for a long time, and there could be a number of reasons, some of which may not even make sense to us even if they told us exactly what it is. Specifically what comes to mind: - Girls love connecting on a deeper level emotionally, spiritually etc, just as much as we do, but it’s best to let them dig that deeper more sensitive side out of you over time. Guy’s who try to get deep too early are usually assumed to be overly emotional and perhaps needy. Girls feel more secure with a guy who has that side but doesn’t show it eagerly or flippantly. She wants to the challenge/satisfaction of drawing that sensitive side out of you with her intoxicating feminine energy. A man’s sensitive side should be something that very few people ever get to see and she wants to be one of them. If it’s presented to her immediately without any coaxing, she won’t value it as much. A man’s sensitive side can feel like a rare privilege and is highly valued if it’s evident that few people get to see it. From a man’s perspective it’s similar to when a girl eagerly goes into graphic detail about her sexuality on first meeting. We all want a girl who’s a freak in the privacy of the bedroom but it’s a totally different vibe when she lays it all out there on the first date. It’s hot af when she acts like a lady in public and turns into a tiger behind closed doors. It feels good to see a side of her that most men don’t get to see, but when it’s casually thrust into the conversation on a first date it doesn’t feel special at all. It feels like a desperate attempt to leverage her sexuality for attention. Same kinda thing. I would save that type of stuff for a little later on after she’s had time to become more interested and is curious to see how deep you can go with her.

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